"My son scolded me for being fat like a fat pig": Why do my own children not know how to respect their mothers?

Did your child say something that chilled you?

I discovered that even biological children may not be able to truly understand their mothers.

I said this because I swiped a video, and the performance of these children in it really opened my eyes.

There are those who laugh at their mother's age, and there are princesses who are sick:

"Is someone like you worthy of pampering? When all the princesses are in their 20s, you are all in your 40s, and you are about to become old ladies. You princess has long depreciated. ”

There are dislikes that mothers will not make money:

"You spend his money (pointing to dad), you don't have anything, you have a good look, find such a rich husband, or you can't live, you are so... You still care about me. ”

Some people dislike their mother for eating too fat, and call their mother Xiong Dada at home.

Even in front of the camera, he did not hide his disgust for his mother:

"Fat, and don't dress yourself" "Bear is much better than a fat pig"

Why do these children so ruthlessly stab the knife of language to the tip of their mother's heart?

I think of the "angel baby" who was praised by the whole network.

He was super happy when his mom picked him up from school in a beautiful dress:

"At the time, you were all glowing. I saw you at a glance! ”

The mother said that dressing up was a waste of time and could not cook for him, but the child first asked the mother how she felt:

"Are you happy cooking or pretty?"

The solution was also given: go to your grandmother's house to eat or order takeout.

The mother said that she was not young and her clothes were a little cute, but the child's response was very sweet:

"You're already cute."

The same are all biological, why some children can provide sufficient emotional value for their mothers,

Some children have an attitude towards their mother like an enemy?

In the comment section, many similar answers can be found.

To sum up, imitate, learn.

The father respects his wife, and the child will appreciate the mother a little more,

If the father or other members of the family dislike his wife, the child will love his mother less.

How family members get along with their mother determines how the child treats her mother.

In the TV series "Come on Mom", He Xiaohan married a surgeon with a high degree and a well-known local doctor.

But the mother-in-law's family can't look at this daughter-in-law,

The child told her grandmother that she liked to eat the sausages sent by her grandmother, and her grandmother immediately disliked that this kind of thing contained carcinogens, so she asked He Xiaohan to bring the plate off the table, and asked her to promise that she could not let the family send these things in the future.

also did not shy away from satirizing He Xiaohan's low cultural quality in front of children,

She personally bought an Olympiad book and told He Xiaohan to supplement her cultural knowledge, otherwise she would not be able to tutor her children at all.

For them, He Xiaohan is more like a lingering nanny who comes and goes,

She has no herself, let alone dignity.

In the face of all this, the husband does not want to offend on both sides, so he has no principle to be a good old man, and in the end, he can only stop it.

But the child's attitude was changed day after day, until she said:

"You don't know anything, unlike your aunt, people are doctors."

At that moment, she realized that even the child began to dislike herself.

In real life, such examples abound,

Riko is a very hard-working stay-at-home mother.

Not only responsible for the laundry and cooking of her husband and children, but also for her daily life, the four elderly people are also mainly taken care of by her.

When chatting together, she always complained to everyone that her husband disliked her for not making money and would only spend money indiscriminately,

But in the past two days, I actually heard my daughter complain to her grandmother: My mother stays at home every day and does not go to work.

At that moment, she felt that although her daughter had never been in front of her,

But every conversation she had with her husband was already remembered by her daughter.

Children have a strong observation of the family atmosphere,

When cooking, cleaning, supporting the elderly, and taking care of children become "vocations" that women cannot break free,

How can a mother who has been suppressed at home for a long time and is not allowed to make mistakes arouse the psychology of respect in her children?

Psychologist Jung said:

"The more profound the influence of the family of origin on children, the more children tend to observe and feel the adult world according to the worldview formed at an early age when they grow up."

There is a documentary that tells such a story,

A father who went to live with his married daughter for a while, was so excited before he left that he hadn't lived with his daughter for a long time since she got married.

He was very curious about how his daughter was doing now, and whether she was held in the palm of her son-in-law.

When he arrived full of curiosity, he was disappointed,

My daughter's life is not easy, and while she has to work, she also contracts large and small housework at home.

After work, I have to be busy not only with the urgent work of the leader, but also with the cooking that is being cooked on the fire.

In between busy work in changing venues, clean up the toys scattered on the ground by the way.

And his son-in-law, sitting comfortably on the sofa watching TV and playing with his mobile phone, everything in front of him seems to have not happened.

He originally wanted to tell his daughter that he must know how to share the housework with his other half, and he cannot do it alone, which will exhaust his body.

But he turned to hold back these words, because he saw his original self in his son-in-law:

After the wife was busy, she was indifferent.

What he didn't expect was that

The things he used to avoid now fall on his daughter's head.

If he had been more considerate of his wife at that time, perhaps his daughter would not have thought that housework was a woman's natural "duty".

She could be happier than she is now.

For a boy, the appearance of the father will most likely determine his future appearance;

For girls, fatherhood is an important benchmark for the other half when choosing a mate.

The father's words and deeds are the reference for the second half of the child's life.

One netizen is the lucky one wrapped in love:

Since beating her son into elementary school, she and her husband have given their son 20 yuan a week in pocket money as his "dead salary".

At first, parents were worried that their son had not taken so much money and would spend more,

Who knew that with this money, my mother would receive new gifts every week: chocolates, candy...

He will also buy a large box of snacks for her during the festival, and this money is saved by his son's daily expenses.

The mother was surprised and curious, she had never taught her son, why did he behave like this?

Then she discovered that her son's behavior was actually very similar to her husband's:

My husband brings her delicious food almost every weekday, the company afternoon tea and breakfast sandwiches bring me, and when I go out to eat at noon and pass by the convenience store, I will buy a few packs of snacks and candies for her to take home.

My husband often said to his son: "Mother is our family's treasure, and the delicious food must be given to my mother first." ”

The answer has emerged.

The educator Sukhomlinsky once said:

"If you want to educate your children well, you must first really love your wife."

Even more terrible than "absent dad" is "dad who snubbed his wife",

A woman who does not feel praise and love, when stretching outward to nourish the home, will become restless, anxious, and unconfident,

And the biggest "victim" is the child.

A warm and loving home is far more capable of raising empathetic and sunny children than a home that only complains and blames.

There is a saying that

Father's love is mother's quiet, mother's silence is son's peace, son's peace is home peace, and home and all things are prosperous.

A good wife, a good mother, can do everything well.