In this elaborate scam, I saw the most terrifying life of a girl
Text | Rice grain mother
When surfing the Internet a while ago, Mi Li's mother saw a girl basking in her daily life.
Her life was wonderful.
I do a job I want, and I go shopping with my girlfriends on weekends.
Check out classic dramas in your spare time.
If you like to draw, you will learn to draw and watch art exhibitions.
Go to Disney once in a while and be a princess again.
Outdoor coffee time and exquisite afternoon tea are also not missing.
From the photos she posted, you can feel the relaxation and comfort.
But what she did next made me feel terrified.
After a few years of such pleasant days, she got married, had children and left Shanghai.
Later, she wrote, "After a year as a stay-at-home mom, I was the worst girl I could be. ”
In the long text, she calmly described the changes after marriage, and did not see a trace of emotional waves.
The delicate girl who used to live a life full of sunshine and joy is gone, replaced by a mother who is irritable, moody, her skin has become loose and dull, and she is still plagued by hair loss.
She no longer had the heart to dress herself, and she hadn't sat down with her sisters for a cup of coffee for a long time.
The bits and pieces of life are gradually filled by the husband and children.
Take care of the children at night, and never dream a good night until dawn;
When stir-frying and cooking, there is no one to help, she can only hold the child in one hand, and stir-fry in the pot with the other hand indiscriminately;
Eating is always about coaxing the baby while hurriedly filling your stomach...
The most embarrassing thing is that all her dedication and hard work have never been understood and respected.
Whenever she wants to express herself, her husband will say "you have a low cognitive level", "your princess disease" and "hypocrisy", and when she wants to live expenses, her husband will say more humiliating words: "You have the ability, you earn money to try", "Will you live"...
These lines are shocking to see the rice grain mother.
In the past, she was the kind of girl that everyone envied: beautiful education, bright work, hard work in the big city, and then rewarded herself.
But after getting married, what awaits her is not happiness and sweetness.
A partner who has faded her disguise, and a newly born child, have thus become the bondage of her life, tying her once high-flying wings.
It is as if the efforts of the past two decades have all lost their meaning.
After the article was issued, it caused a lot of controversy, and some people left a message in the comment area questioning, saying that she appropriated other people's experiences in order to drain traffic, and everyone also followed the vine and found the real Po master.
Unexpectedly, after the truth came out, Mi Li's mother felt even more uncomfortable in her heart, so she felt that it was better to tell me that this matter was completely made up to cheat traffic.
At least in this case, no girl will really be harmed.
But thinking about it, my thoughts are like an ostrich with its head buried in the sand.
As women, we all know that this situation is never alarmist. The bloody messages in the comment area are really heartbreaking.
I want to tell you the story of my classmates.
When she was studying at X University High School, she was so dazzling.
She was tall and bright-looking, and even though we were all wearing uniform at the time, she would be the first thing the crowd would see.
In addition to her natural beauty, her academic performance is also very good, ranking among the best in her class.
Even though her studies were so intense, she never fell behind in various clubs and activities in the school at that time, and she seemed to have endless energy.
As good as her, she has always been the darling of teachers of various subjects.
Her existence often makes me sigh how the difference between people can be so great. I remember very well that year's entrance exam, she was 97.5, I was 79.5. At that time, the admission line of the English experimental class was 80 points, and my mother even called the teacher to intercede, forcing me to study English hard.
Before graduating, she got a recommendation letter from the principal of X University High School and went to study at a well-known university in Hong Kong.
You know, in the kind of place where there are many cattle people in X University High School, she was a random person who picked almost all majors in Peking University Tsinghua back then! What a shining existence it must be to get a letter of recommendation from the principal!
After graduating from university, she went abroad to further her studies.
At that time, we all felt that with her unlimited energy and professional ability, no matter what country and company she was in, she would definitely kill all sides and break into the world.
But unexpectedly, when I received news from her again, she gave up her career abroad and returned to China to get married.
Later, we learned that she knew a boy at that time, the two were pregnant out of wedlock, and the family was urgent, so she made this decision in such a confused way.
After marriage, the couple lived with their in-laws in China.
At this time, she found out that her husband was a giant baby who obeyed her mother, and her mother-in-law was a "dramatist" who was difficult to get along with, often making up some false things in front of her husband to accuse her and make her unable to argue.
After marriage, her in-laws did not let her go out to work, saying that it was so that she could better accompany her children and give them a happy childhood.
Her husband's family is ordinary, and sending him abroad was already the strength of the whole family. Now that I am married, I am even more careful in my daily expenses.
Not only was she required to spend money to save, but even if she bought two more clothes for her child, she had to be read for half a day.
When I heard this later, I couldn't feel much more uncomfortable.
Once a petite girl of heaven, even in my heart, she is a person who can dominate Wall Street, but now she is trapped in such a cage, tied up, and when she sees her again, her eyes have long lost the original vitality and radiance.
She told me that if it weren't for the pity of the two children, this life would really not be able to go on.
Coincidentally, a certain station owner I once followed, the recent change has also made many people feel embarrassed.
Before, every time I felt anxious, I would swipe her videos for a while.
Because watching her videos is particularly healing, all the quiet pictures you can imagine are just what she looks like in her videos.
She will take the trouble to make various delicacies, serve them on a plate with a set of delicate and cute cutlery, and make herself a cup of aromatic hand-ground coffee.
In the past few years, everyone has witnessed her peaceful and free life, watching her get better little by little, buying a new house, and planning to renovate it to her liking.
But later, she suddenly married her son from a privileged family and hurriedly held a simple wedding, and the wedding ring was the cheapest one of a certain brand bought by the man.
For this reason, the boy also proudly showed off in the barrage: "See no, I bought the ring." "I also complained about girls behind my back.
The house that was originally planned to be well decorated could only be moved in first, and things were piled up all over the ground, and she, who was originally very concerned about her personal space, also had to give up the master bedroom to her mother-in-law in the past in China.
She was originally picky about coffee beans, but now she can only hurriedly brew a cup of instant coffee between bringing her baby.
The cup of instant coffee in the video that did not brew broke the defense of many people who followed her, including me.
You know, in the past, she was a girl who could conjure up more than a dozen ways to eat even the most ordinary bagels.
An unsuitable marriage is a huge drain on people, whether it is a boy or a girl, it is not spared.
Mi Gran's mother once wrote the story of Su Xiangmao, an IT upstart who met a fishing girl, and was looted to the point of bankruptcy and desperation.
And girls are often more emotional, caught in self-touching, unable to extricate themselves.
Mother Rice wants to tell the girls that at any time, never use marriage as a way out.
Whether you become a full-time mother or not, you must keep learning and growing, cultivate your earning power and independent thinking, and seriously think about where your value is.
Moreover, it is to protect yourself and try not to get pregnant out of wedlock. Just like the several stories told by Mi Li's mother earlier, the woman almost always puts herself in a passive situation for this reason.
Indeed, this moment is sincere, and any promise can be said; He turned his face and didn't recognize people for a while, and everything was a mirror.
It is precisely because the human heart is so unfathomable that for women, having a child is an extremely risky and costly thing, and giving birth without sufficient preparation and certainty is almost doomed to be a tragedy.
As the saying goes: never gamble on the conscience of others and your own destiny.
Also, never marry at any time.
Marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, and the bottomless effort will be taken for granted by others. The more affection that does not expect anything in return, the more it is in exchange for a natural disappointment.
Last year, one of the hottest terriers on the Internet, wild vegetable sister Wang Baochuan, Prime Minister Qianjin, married a poor boy Xue Pinggui, who kept the cold kiln for 18 years, and was later accepted into the palace by Xue Pinggui, who became the king of Western Liang, and died after only 18 days as an empress...
Although it is a drama, the plot is shocking... Obviously there is a better life to choose from, why did you choose the most difficult path.
Mother Migrain remembered watching a Korean drama "This is the First Time in My Life" before.
At the meeting ceremony, the mother-in-law was very eventful, not only asking for a grand wedding, but also constantly saying that her daughter was "no different, appropriately ignorant, appropriately self-centered." ”
After returning home, her daughter was furious, accusing her mother of why she said so badly and shamefully.
Mom's answer I still remember:
Well-behaved, gentle, caring, kind, virtuous, sensible...
These words of praise for women may be the biggest stumbling block.
Because you are gentle enough, you don't lose your temper; Because you are caring enough, you won't cause trouble; Because you are sensible enough, you will not contradict it.
Marriage is to enter a new relationship and life, and moderate compromise and run-in are necessary.
But also keep your eyes open to see if the environment and the other party are worth it, after all, not everyone can face kindness.
Once you find that the situation is wrong, you must withdraw in time. Otherwise, when you are wrapped in these "praises" and sink deeper and deeper, you may never have the opportunity to jump out again.
They will regard legitimate expression and rejection as "changed", "pretentious", "learned to do", and smash the hat that destroys family harmony, without thinking about your previous goodness.
Rice mother does not want to see the future trend as "no marriage and no fertility to ensure safety", but all kinds of changes remind us that we need to be cautious when entering marriage.
You may not be able to consider all the situations, but don't blindly account for yourself, let alone take the initiative to carry the baggage.
No one can help you at any time, the most fundamental protection, only yourself.
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