Young children are accused of crying in public, has everyone's tolerance for children become lower?

This problem lies with children, but it is rooted in adults.

Many times, people do not hate children, but are angry at the negligence and indifference of the parents behind the children.

In addition, some media also like to over-exaggerate such events and highlight contradictions. In fact, if you think about it, are there only young children crying in public? There are also big men who smoke, uncles who call loudly, and aunts who open voices to brush videos, but few people openly accuse them.

Every year, there are endless reports of young children crying in public and being accused of abuse, causing many parents to tremble when they take their young children out, feeling:

"It's so humiliating for a child to cry in public."

"The reproachful eyes of passers-by are like knives pierced in the body."

Is society's tolerance for children really low?

I don't think so, I watched an interview on the CCTV education platform about the noisy children on the high-speed train during the summer vacation. In fact, most people in society are still kind, especially those who have children themselves, they can understand the difficulty of parents with children, basically choose to forgive, unless they can't bear it, they will come forward to stop it.

If the child's parents have public moral literacy at this time, and timely appease and educate the child, there will generally be no contradiction.

The key is to understand each other and communicate friendly.

Contradictions mostly occur when one of the child's parents refuses to admit their mistakes, and accuses others of being too lenient, or uses the child's age as an excuse to say more angry things:

"What do you care about as an adult and a child?"

"If you have the ability, don't have children!"

The contradiction also occurs when the accuser does not care about the cause of the matter, but only demands an immediate return to calm, an aggressive tone, bad words, and hurtful words:

"People who hate taking their children out and can't manage it well."

"Such a small baby should not be brought out!"

In other words, it has evolved into conflicts between adults, so I say that it is not that society has reduced its tolerance for children, but that in an impetuous society, people stand in their own positions and it is difficult to understand each other.

I am also a mother of a child, and in public, I will make all preparations in advance and try to manage my children well. Because I think parents must first have public morality in order to prevent their children from becoming bear children. When a parent has public morality, he/she will definitely make various preparations before the trip so that the child can travel quietly.

I have seen very attentive mothers, taking young children on the plane, afraid of the noise of the children, intimately prepared small gifts for the passengers around, including earplugs, small crafts, small snacks, etc. I believe that passengers feel her quality and will not be deliberately embarrassed.

Parents know their children best, and when taking their children to public places, we can find a way to make their children quiet in advance. For example, my family is a 5-year-old boy, I know that he is quiet when he watches the Spider-Man cartoon, my 6-year-old nephew is quiet when he watches the Ultraman cartoon, the 8-year-old nephew is attentive when he plays with small blocks, and the 6-year-old boy next door gives snacks to eat.

If parents have the heart, prepare more toys, snacks, picture books, cartoons that children like, and let them keep quiet in public as much as possible. If you accidentally disturb others, you must sincerely apologize and ask for forgiveness, which is also the public morality that children should have.

In short, as long as you have a heart and a good attitude, the people around you can feel that you are deliberately calming the child, keeping quiet, even if the child occasionally has a situation, you can understand each other, rather than conflict.

Of course, as a boy's mom, I would say that despite being prepared, sometimes I really can't help myself. The chief physician of the Department of Psychiatry of Beijing Children's Hospital affiliated to Capital Medical University said in an interview: "Children's ability to control their behavior and emotions lags behind that of adults, their ability to understand and execute adults' instructions is poor, their effective attention span is short, and they are easy to sit still." ”

Therefore, raising children is really a complicated, difficult and troublesome matter, not only requires parents to try to control their own and their children's words and deeds, but also requires people in society to understand a little more.