Wen 丨 Fish Dad Image source: Fish Dad Real Shooting
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In the eyes of many friends, I really am not a person who can play.
So what activities they have, they often don't call me anymore.
Later, when I had children, it became even more so.
Because I prefer to be with children.
So those socials and parties became irrelevant to me.
Few people want to play with me, a man who always carries a baby.
They always feel that the child is a burden, and it is a moment to avoid it for a while.
I remember once in a friend's car, there was a young man in it.
My friend said to him: "You are also going to get married, learn from the brother in the back, he is a milkman, and he has experience with children." ”
"I don't want to have children, it's too annoying."
I can only laugh.
But I feel like a playful person.
Because I can always mingle with the kids.
Can you say that kids can't play?
People who can play with them will definitely be able to play.
So, in the eyes of the kids, I'm a playful person.
Especially in the eyes of my son, I am a big toy.
As soon as I called, he immediately responded with a fart, and then rushed to the park, meadow, and river on the opposite side.
And in the small playground downstairs of the community, there are always children who invite me to participate in their games.
And I'm always having fun.
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Xi Murong said that if a child has not been exposed to nature in his life, such as touching the bark of a tree or stepping on dry and crisp fallen leaves, she cannot teach him art.
Because he has not been exposed to beauty firsthand.
I strongly agree with that.
In the process of accompanying my children growing up, I have always taken them to walk in the arms of nature.
When he was very young, I used to play with him in the countryside.
Look at the grass and flowers on the side of the road.
Pick up stones from the river.
Teach him to tell the difference between dandelions and other weeds.
Let him grab everything he can, too.
So what he touched was a real world.
Let the child see the clouds, listen to the wind, and shake the trees.
Playing can make the baby's senses develop better.
And when the child can run and jump.
Especially when there are boys in the family, many mothers have headaches, saying that their children always can't stop.
Children cannot be blamed for this, because God has given them such bodies.
Scientific studies have shown that boys have more dopamine in their blood and more blood flows through the cerebellum. Dopamine increases the probability of impulsive and risk-taking behavior. The cerebellum, on the other hand, controls behavior and bodily actions. The more blood flow through the cerebellum, the cerebellum is more active, so boys love to move.
Therefore, the boy should exercise more to give the boy the opportunity to vent the irritability caused by hormones.
So I used to take my son to the square and run and sweat.
But this way he slept better at night.
And when reading, I pay more attention.
Harvard Medical School professor Lighty said: "Physical exercise alone does not make you smarter, but it can put your brain in the most conducive state for learning." ”
So don't be afraid of children playing and affecting learning.
Proper exercise can promote children's learning.
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And there are many special benefits to playing.
It can enable children to understand the rules and learn to communicate better.
If you participate in a child's game.
You will find a very wonderful thing - the rules are always repeated, perfected, and then enforced.
They take the game very seriously and put all their intelligence and energy into the game.
Such an experience is very beneficial for the child's development.
I remember once playing in the small square downstairs with small fish.
There are two children competing for a soft-skinned basketball.
Then another child joined.
The little one looked at me and meant to want to participate.
I said go if you want to play, stay safe.
Then he took off his coat and went.
But something bad happened.
Several boys fight for a ball, and then there will be a conflict.
You pull me, I push you away.
Finally, he forced the child holding the ball into the bushes and surrounded him.
Because there are no rules, the game goes on in chaos for a while.
Some moms can't play.
I saw that the children were happy, so I gathered everyone, divided them into groups, and then made the rules.
Let them play in pairs with passing.
After a few rounds of playing, a miracle happened.
A child discovered a play facility in a small square that had a circular hole to pitch.
So it was agreed to score goals.
And then it's fun.
Everyone kept refining the rules and adding new children.
That night, playing until after 9 o'clock, the children still ran and passed the ball with great interest.
Every child is seriously involved.
Such gains are enormous.
Especially today's urban children live in beautiful and comfortable rooms that they have renovated.
Take online courses or experience the virtual world.
And their bodies need this movement even more.
What's more, children's hearts need such experiences.
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And as adults, we don't have such troubles.
With a mobile phone and the Internet, you can wood up for a whole day.
If your mind has been tormented by this world and is lifeless.
Going to the gym and singing doesn't work.
But one thing works well – remember to let the kids play with you.
Writer Zhou Guoping once wrote:
I wrote down a scene I saw: a couple playing with their children in the river at dusk, enthusiastically fishing for tadpoles for their children.
I immediately found something wrong with my account, and the truth was -
At dusk, a child takes his parents to play by the river, teaching them to catch tadpoles in the river with great interest.
"Useless" things like catching tadpoles, if it were not for the guidance of children, we probably would not do it. We have long lived in a utilitarian world, only doing "useful" things can never be done, where is the effort and interest to play, to do "useless" things?
It wasn't until the child was born, led by the child, that I returned to the long-forgotten non-utilitarian world, willingly sacrificing many "useful" things for "useless" things.
So, it's really kids who take us to play, to the park, to track beetles on blades of grass and ants on dirt. Children renew our sense of the world.
In fact, many wonderful things in life are just what you don't find.
What you have to do is change little by little.
For example, instead of buying a bunch of toys, we can take our children to do their own crafts.
Encourage children to draw, just prepare a small blackboard for tens of dollars.
Build fun bricks with your kids, use your imagination and use your little hands.
Let the child make food choices and do some housework together.
Go for a walk outdoors together, don't be afraid of boredom, in fact, there will be many unexpected discoveries while walking.
Go kite flying together, or go pick up a few leaves.
You can also go to the countryside and plant a few small trees together and watch it grow.
You can also go to the library with your children and watch a movie
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There is a lot that can be done.
The point is you have to do it.
If you say you won't, follow your child behind your back and let him take you to do it.
You will find that playing is really the foundation of learning between heaven and earth.