In 2016, mr. Yang Dai, who was 105 years old, passed away, and this time a faint turn did not take away the prosperity of the world, but only left us with countless worries.
What life is, how we should live, probably no one can understand this truth, so smart people cherish the present.
Just like Mr. Yang Dai, she has never been an enemy of this world, she does not envy those fame and fortune, she only does what she should do, not happy or sad, the atmosphere is indifferent.
I think this kind of life seems simple, but it is actually extraordinary, because few people can see through themselves and see others, and even fewer people can be satisfied and transparent about this life.
Maybe we will never have the experience of Mr. Yang Dai, but we can learn some truths in life from her words, love what we love and hate ourselves, do what we want to do, live the life we want to live, be the master of our own life, and live our own best colors and happiness.
Sending you my favorite 5 sentences, I feel empowered every time I see them, and I hope it will help you as well.
In this life, the most difficult thing is to see ourselves clearly, because we will always have expectations of ourselves, or we are particularly inferior, and it is difficult to have a clear understanding of ourselves.
But did you know that people who can clearly understand themselves can live out their true selves?
Just like Mr. Yang Dai, she never felt that it was a loss to temporarily give up her studies and career for Mr. Qian Zhongshu, and she would not lose herself in the process, she knew what the most important thing for her at each stage was, and she could also find the most comfortable lifestyle for her at the same time.
I think such a woman lives a transparent life and lives happily, because she has love, has a family, has happiness, and has a career.
In reality, there are many women who do not want to love for the sake of their careers, and they are very sorry to give up their careers for the sake of their families, so they are entangled in pain and reluctance, waste time and life, and ultimately get nothing.
The reason why this is so is because we do not see what we really want, do not know what the real self is, so we are afraid of being criticized by others, afraid of living worse than others.
But in fact, we really care about how we live, only we are ourselves, we don't need to compare with others, and we don't need to think too much. It's enough to focus on yourself, to focus on what you want, to please yourself, to satisfy yourself.
Therefore, whether you want to be a strong woman or not, whether you choose to be a full-time wife, it does not matter, what matters is whether you are satisfied with your current life and whether you can find your true self from it.
The love between Mr. Yang Dai and Mr. Qian Zhongshu is envied by many people, because they are like-minded, they all like to read, they all like literature, and they also let us see how transparent people who like to read live.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu liked Mr. Yang Dai and did not shy away from confessing that Mr. Yang Dai also fell in love with this man who was a little bookish and a little childish.
Their love began simply and lasted a long life. In fact, in this life, they have also encountered many tribulations and experienced pain together, but they know how to be satisfied and are willing to wait, so they get the best happiness.
People like them, the thinking is very deep, but also very simple, they do not think too much, to identify one thing with attachment.
So, if you feel that you can't live this life by trying your best, read more books, this is the most cost-effective way to improve yourself.
I've met a lot of people who like to read, and most of them don't live badly, because the truths learned from books can make us transparent, and they can also make us reinvent ourselves and get happiness.
If you are experiencing pain right now, I hope you are not discouraged, because there is always some uphill road in life, and this process must be laborious and tearing heart and lungs.
If you don't believe it, please look at Mr. Yang Dai, I believe that when she gave up her Tsinghua studies to accompany Mr. Qian Zhongshu, she must have struggled inside, and I believe that when they experienced the life of persecution together, they must have been very painful in their hearts, but she never wanted to give up, worked hard day after day, and finally waited for the dawn of her own.
In fact, in addition to Mr. Yang Dai, there are too many such people around us, who have spent the most difficult time with a high degree of self-discipline, but most people can only see their achievements and brilliance, but do not delve into what they have paid behind them.
I hope that everyone can be happy in life, but if not, I also hope that you do not give up the effort, the standard of success is different, but after perseverance, you will be able to have.
Yang Dai is known as the last talented woman in the Republic of China era, also respected by everyone as "Sir", she is a strong and independent woman, in this life, she experienced the death of relatives and friends, family separation between the two places, but never decadent and panic, but calmly and calmly keep the inner peace, do what they should do.
Truly powerful women, living very transparent and indifferent, they understand that life is impermanent, happiness and happiness will not be permanent, sadness and pain are only temporary, do not need to be too entangled, continue to move forward.
I think this is really worth learning, because most of our pain comes from the attachment to eternity, and too many women will ask: "Why did he say he wanted to raise me for a lifetime, but now it has changed?" "Why doesn't he love me anymore?" "Why did he choose to leave me?"
I understand your unwillingness and reluctance, but the feelings of this world, where there are so many whys, do not love is not love, too entangled, can only let themselves fall into pain, only learn to accept calmly, let themselves and the past reconcile, and separate reconciliation, and reconciliation with the world, in order to get more peaceful happiness.
And I've found that when you try to accept all this, your life will be happier and simpler, because you won't be so obsessed with why, you can look forward, you can be more peaceful.
This sentence is one of my favorite words of Mr. Yang Dai, because it represents her free personality and is also the state of life that I want to pursue the most.
A person's best state of life is to live a minimalist life, but the soul is abundant, and it does not necessarily require a luxurious life, but looking back on this life is full of gratitude and satisfaction.
I envy because I am difficult to do, I am a layman, I want too many things, but my ability is not enough to support these desires and ambitions, so I often struggle between what I want and what I don't get.
I hope that one day I can live like Mr. Yang Dai, unswerving in my choices, disdainful of competing with anyone, not caring about anyone's eyes, and letting my soul go to a higher place.
If you are as envious as I am of Mr. Yang Dai's peaceful life and a life of freedom, let us first learn to let go of unrealistic desires, and don't care so much about other people's opinions, let yourself slow down, first see what you want, and then slowly work hard.
Please believe that time will not fail those who work hard silently, and the fullness and peace of heart will also be the best guarantee for our happiness.
Yang Dai has experienced many ups and downs in his life, but his career and love have been harvested. Thinking about it carefully, the reason why she can be happy is not because of good luck, but because her heart is calm and calm, and she always knows exactly what she wants, so she can live her life so gracefully.
We are all women, we all have expectations and yearning for happiness, but only by continuous efforts can we live up to the expectations of this life.
May everyone be able to have a lot of happiness, may everyone be the best version of themselves, may everyone have a seemingly simple, but extraordinary life.
I am Xi Yan, columnist, older girl who is not old and not old, likes to write warm words, do emotional programs, has published "The Rest of Your Life, Related to Me", if you have a story, remember to come to me.