Recently, the hot search has quickly become a persuasion list.
Experts from all walks of life bombed in turn, making it seem like forming a team to pick up cultural relics at the Panjiayuan stall.
Source: Sina Weibo
Of course, today's young people are not easy to fool, the new era of fertility concept "fewer children and good children, happy life", "children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, I enjoy happiness without children and grandchildren" has long been engraved smoke and smoked lungs.
The funny thing is that not only experts are persistent as fathers, but our domestic dramas are also tirelessly popularizing fertility fooling.
Still struggling to keep big and small?
As we all know, there is only one soul torture in the world that can be comparable to "like dad or mom", that is-
"Big or small?"
As an enduring preservation of TV dramas, "Baobig and small/womb" can highlight the danger of production and the danger of human nature, and has long carried the heavy responsibility of completing the visual expression of Chinese-style ghost gates.
Ask pregnant women, pregnant women unconditionally choose children, choose uterus.
Ask the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law unconditionally chooses the child and chooses the uterus.
"This Life is also the First Time" Chen Lanqing suffered hemorrhage after giving birth, facing whether to protect the uterus or the uterus, in the face of life and death, the mother-in-law actually said that she wanted to protect the uterus and refused to sign, on the grounds that "without the uterus, it is not a woman."
"Lady's Character" heroine's sister-in-law suffered hemorrhage after childbirth, and the doctor told her that she must cut the uterus to save her life, and the heroine immediately thought of her mother that year, and it was precisely because she chose "keeping small" in the problem of "keeping big and keeping small", which led to the death of difficult labor.
This became one of the reasons for her fear of childbearing, and she worried that when she faced this problem, she did not know how to choose, "as if everything was wrong".
But the reality is that no one will ask the heroine this question at all!
From a medical point of view, a fetus that depends on the mother for survival, when the mother's life is difficult to preserve, the fetus will definitely not survive.
From a legal point of view, article 18 of the Mainland Maternal and Child Health Care Law clearly stipulates that if the pregnancy continues due to serious diseases, which may endanger the safety of the pregnant woman, or seriously endanger the health of the pregnant woman, the pregnancy may be terminated:
"After prenatal diagnosis, if any of the following circumstances occur, the physician shall explain the situation to both husband and wife and submit a medical opinion on termination of pregnancy:
(1) The fetus suffers from serious hereditary diseases;
(2) The fetus has serious defects;
(3) Continuing the pregnancy may endanger the life and safety of the pregnant woman or seriously endanger the health of the pregnant woman due to serious illness."
So in any hospital, when pregnant women give birth, there will be no doctor suddenly running out and asking you to keep big or small.
Giving priority to the life safety of mothers is a medical principle, after all, the fetus cannot be counted as a legal natural person before birth, so why talk about abandoning the big and protecting the small?
The same is true of the setting of protecting the uterus, life is gone, what kind of uterus to keep?
Although in reality, there are indeed cases of women insisting on preserving the uterus.
For example, the mother Xia Jinju in the documentary "Shengmen", 33 years old, has been pregnant 6 times, gave birth 2 times, in order to give birth to a son, she is pregnant with three children.
As a result, there was heavy bleeding on the operating table, and when the doctor told her that she needed to remove the uterus to save her life, she still asked the doctor - "I'm only 33 years old, can you try hard." ”
Source: "Shengmen"
Fortunately, this extremely difficult operation was finally successful, and Xia Jinju saved her uterus.
But the price was cardiac arrest twice, blood loss of 13,000 milliliters, equivalent to four changes of blood in the whole body, and was immediately transferred to the intensive care unit after the operation.
Is it worth it?
Under the gender discipline of thousands of years that "a woman without a son and no womb is incomplete", Xia Jinju actually has no other choice.
How can a choice without choice be called "free will"?
If you can only be a "woman" if you leave the womb at the cost of your life, then this "woman" is not appropriate, let's treat ourselves as individuals first.
Those misguided pregnancy truths
In addition to ensuring the big and the small, according to incomplete statistics, domestic dramas have at least four common misleading plots.
One is retching = pregnancy.
A family is eating at the dinner table, a group of people are meeting in the office... A female character suddenly covers her mouth and gags, then quickly gets up and rushes to the bathroom, yue twice, you know, the next plot will be around the "find the child's father fell and miscarried, resignation, go home with a second child, three children" and other central ideas for 38 episodes of in-depth discussion.
Such a plot is easy for the audience to form some stereotypes, such as the signs of pregnancy are retching, so if there is no retching in pregnancy, is it abnormal?
Source: Zhihu
In fact, retching is only one of the pregnancy reactions, not all pregnant women will have it, but not all pregnant women have such mild symptoms.
In the book "An Economist's Guide to Pregnancy", one of the statistics mentioned is that almost 90% of women have experienced nausea and nausea, and more than half vomit.
Severe morning sickness is eating and vomiting, vomiting to acid reflux heartburn, or even vomiting blood and vomiting to hospitalization.
Source: Zhihu
The second is that breastfeeding is beautiful.
For a long time, we have seen too many beautiful breastfeeding pictures like this:
Source: "Our Day"
But what is the reality?
There is a pain called breastfeeding pain, breast warming will hurt, blocking milk will hurt, feeding will hurt, one to two hours to feed the baby, the probability means that the mother's nipple will enter the endless cycle of broken skin - bleeding - scabs.
As Huang Ali said, "Breastfeeding is a barbaric ritual that reminds you that your body is now a canteen!" ”
图源：Hard Knock Wife
And for people who have no fertility experience, under the subtle influence of these pictures, they are likely to have the cognition - isn't it just to feed? How uncomfortable can it be?
Source: Station B
The third is screaming production.
In TV dramas, one of the most common production performances is to scream heart-wrenching and gritting teeth hard.
But when actually giving birth, yelling not only consumes physical strength, but also over-ventilation can easily lead to maternal hypoxia.
The labor process is different, and the way of force also needs to be adjusted in time, and there are many examples of muscle strain and perineal tearing caused by too much force.
Source: Haha and Six Six
The fourth is the special forces production process.
Usually pregnant women are fine in the shot of one second, and they are about to give birth the next second, or they are directly finished.
It is inevitable to give people the illusion that having children is fast.
In natural childbirth, there is a term called "open finger", which refers to the expansion of the cervical opening, and the general birth needs to "open ten fingers", which means that the cervical opening needs to be opened about 10 cm to allow a normal-sized baby to pass through.
Professor Zhang Hongtao of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology mentioned that the delivery time of the first mother is generally "841", that is, it takes about 8 hours from regular contractions to the opening of the uterine mouth, and it takes about 4 hours from the opening of 3 fingers to the opening of 10 fingers. From the opening of the uterus to the delivery, it takes about 1 hour, which adds up to more than 10 hours.
Preoperative according to the different conditions of vaginal birth and caesarean section, as well as shaving (skin preparation), urinary catheter, prenatal enema... and some other common preparations.
Source: Dreams of the Stars
After the operation, there are a series of difficulties that need to be overcome, such as exhaust, belly pressure, lochia, and constipation.
Source: Yue Ono
Some people say that it is not a documentary, there is no need to shoot the whole process.
Of course, this is not necessary, but we cannot ignore the tendency of lens selection.
Source: "The Life of a Witty Doctor"
Before her sister wrote about the scratches on the walls of the obstetrics and gynecology department of the hospital, she wanted to talk too little about the cost of childbirth.
Source: She Journal
And these easily misleading lenses, the truth of fertility obscured by the lens, we also talk too little.
Less use, more respect
In many works, pregnancy exists only as a dramatic driving element, a plot tool used to intensify the relationship between the sexes and the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
How to shape an evil mother-in-law?
There is nothing more likely to make people's blood pressure soar than "daughter-in-law has a difficult birth and chooses to keep her small, and daughter-in-law is pregnant and makes her miscarry".
Source: "Emergency Department Doctor"
On the contrary, how did the screenwriter discover the brilliance of the evil mother-in-law?
In "North and South", You Shanshan who is known as the Beijing version of Guli has a particularly mean mother-in-law, in the eyes of her mother-in-law, she is a foreign scheming woman who uses pregnancy to ascend to power.
But You Shanshan, who originally hated her teeth when she mentioned her mother-in-law, suddenly completely relieved one day.
What is the reason for the change?
Oh, it turned out that she heard that her mother-in-law chose "Lord Bao" when she was in distress during childbirth.
Source: "North and South"
Another kind of imagination of a good mother-in-law also tends to use pregnancy problems.
To give an outrageous example, "Brilliant Season" Dink's daughter-in-law was unexpectedly pregnant, so she secretly had an abortion without telling her family, and her mother-in-law not only did not say or scold after she found out, but also took good care of her.
Finally, under the influence of this kind mother-in-law, Dink's daughter-in-law said to her husband, an economic prisoner who was arrested and sent to prison, in the finale, "Behave well in it, and when it comes out, let's have a child." ”
Source: "Brilliant Season"
Another example is how to create a scumbag husband?
Cheating is just a small meaning, cheating during pregnancy + ignoring the pregnant wife, this is called buff stacking.
Also How to make the plot more tense and exciting?
- Join a pregnant woman.
For example, in "Detective Wars", a pregnant police officer who is pregnant with an eight-month pregnancy, drives a speeding car, falls a building, rolls stairs on the screen, jumps into the sea to swim immediately after giving birth to a child's pants, and then fights with the murderer 300 times.
So this imminent superhero became a countdown to the plot.
Source: "Detective Wars"
The emergence of the above plots essentially reflects the creator's tool humanization of pregnant women.
Pregnant women are seen as a container for the concept of fertility, a tool for creating hot search topics.
From the character's point of view, we don't see her fertility intentions, psychological anxiety, physical pain, and the thickness of her life as a woman.
From the perspective of fertility, our understanding of fertility is also limited to those video narratives that people take for granted:
——Retching is pregnancy, breastfeeding is a beautiful ritual in childbirth, and keeping big and small means that childbirth is extremely dangerous...
After all, there are still too few facts about fertility that everyone can receive.
Of course, her sister also saw that some works are consciously correcting or supplementing some expressions, such as "Dear Child" close to the real production process, the embarrassment of postpartum incontinence, such as "Go to a Windy Place" for "keep the big and keep the small"...
Source: "Go to a Windy Place"
Although the stereotypical plot of some episodes still exists, it is already an important step to "see" the truth about fertility that has been glorified in the past, and to "tell" the once unspeakable pain and shame.
More correct fertility science and more sincere "being seen", for those women who want to have children, it is not to add anxiety, but to predict the risks in advance and be prepared.
Her sister believes that this is not only about the quality of childbirth, but also about the quality of women's lives.