China's feudal society practiced polygamy, and men could have a large number of wives and concubines as long as they had economic permission, and enjoy the blessings of the qi people. In modern Nepal, there is a plurality of spouses, but not polygamy, but polygamy. The same multiple spouses, Nepalese women did not live to become queens, but on the contrary, they lived a miserable life.
1. Polygamous at the call of the Nepalese Royal Family
In today's world when men and women are equal, most countries in the world practice monogamy, but the nepalese royal family calls on the people to practice polygamy, which is inseparable from Nepal's national conditions.
Nepal is very poor, remote and war-torn, and has been in place for a monarchy until 2006, with all the power of the state in the hands of the king and the weak royal family. It wasn't until 2008, when Nepal changed its monarchy and froze the king's rights, that it became the Nepal we see now. Nepal's national resources are scarce, its per capita GDP is very low, and it relies mainly on international relief.
Before the Nepalese royal family advocated polygamy, the general local woman has no right to choose her husband, she married the eldest of this family, then naturally the second, third and fourth elders of this family are her husbands.
In this regard, the Nepalese royal family also issued specific rules: multiple husbands must be related by blood, generally brothers or cousins, which is conducive to the coordination of family relations. A woman must bear a child for each husband and continue the bloodline for each husband. The maximum number of husbands cannot exceed 5, and in order to protect the rights and interests of women, the maximum number of husbands is set to 5.
The detailed rules announced by the Nepalese royal family sound strange, but if it were not for helplessness, the royal family would not have made this move.
Under the polygamous system, women's miserable lives
Polyandry in Nepal has always existed. Nepal attaches great importance to friendship between men, that is, sharing a wife, they can also accept. Who did my wife sleep with that night?
At that time, a woman named Desurya had 5 husbands, and she could choose who to sleep with every night, as long as she put a keepsake at the door of her room, the other brothers of the family naturally understood, and at night they would go back to their rooms alone to sleep.
This system is very bitter for women. They are required to treat every husband fairly, and they cannot treat any husband with special feelings, even if they have it, they can only hide it in their hearts and cannot say it.
The average Nepalese woman serves three or four husbands. In addition to serving their husbands, they also have to bear a child for each husband, nepal's medical conditions are very poor, giving birth to a child is like walking through the ghost gate, and some women have lost their lives.
As a Nepalese woman, I am really bitter, not only physically sinful, but also mentally unfree.
The children born often only know who the biological mother is, do not know who the biological father is, but the men in Nepal do not care, anyway, they are their own children, who are the same.
Such a strange custom exists only in the mountains of northwestern Nepal, where they generally serve 3 to 4 husbands, who, due to poverty, most of them go out to work far away, and only their wives and children live together. Although the life was very poor, it was still harmonious and peaceful.
Three majority of young people pursue spiritually free love
In addition to polygamy in the impoverished mountainous regions of northwestern Nepal, most young people pursue freedom of marriage and love, and some of them can get the consent of both parents, who will marry them in the form of traditional arranged marriages. If they have young people who don't get the consent of both parents, they will go out on their own and start small families, and when their parents are discouraged, they will come back. Because after all, they are their own parents, and they will not have long-term resentment towards their children.
Women in northwestern Nepal have no chance to choose their own lives, and some even marry at a very young age, have a wedding at their husband's house, return to their mother's house, and raise them to marriageable age and then live in their husband's family.
Many people who have been to Nepal find it incredibly poor, an extremely economically backward place, and the rights and interests of women and children are not guaranteed. Nepal's polygamous situation today may not be comprehensible to us. If it were not for Nepal's own conditions, it would not still be the practice of polygamy in some areas, although it is a bad practice, but it is really a last resort.
Many things only if we really understand the story behind it, we can calmly accept, every seemingly bizarre fact, often behind the helpless truth, only we really understand, we can calmly accept. The more we understand, the more tolerant and peaceful the mind becomes.