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Yesterday, my mother told me that the daughter of the neighbor's family is divorced, and recently when she saw the neighbor, don't ask about the daughter, otherwise it will be very embarrassing. I was very surprised to hear this news, because as far as I know, the daughter of the neighbor has only been married for two years, and the child is not a few months old. Therefore, I can't help but sigh, how can people get married and divorced now as casually as eating and drinking water...
Before I could finish sighing, my mom said, yeah, I haven't seen divorces in recent years. However, I found a strange phenomenon that free-married couples are more likely to divorce than blind couples. Then, my mom gave me examples of couples divorcing in recent years. However, I think that free marriage couples are more likely to divorce than blind dates, which is a very normal phenomenon, nothing strange, the main reasons are as follows:
Couples who are freely in love are more likely to have unrealistic fantasies about life after marriage than couples who love each other
When people think of free love couples, the first thing that comes to mind is that they have an emotional foundation, understand each other, and are willing to enter into marriage. Life after marriage should be sweet and sweet. Even after they get married, they will have quarrels and difficulties. However, marriage has love as the basis, and it should be able to resolve easily in the end. Divorce shouldn't happen to them. However, people who think like this ignore one of the most critical issues: couples who love freely are more likely to have unrealistic fantasies about married life than couples who love each other.
Couples who love freely are more likely to have unrealistic fantasies about married life because of love. For example, get up with your partner every morning and ask each other good morning; pet the cat and dog together, take care of the children; boo the cold and ask for warmth; never quarrel, and so on. But the real married life is often full of the dullness of chai rice oil and salt, and there are also hysterical quarrels over a little thing. Therefore, couples who love freely are more likely to be disappointed in their married life and then move towards divorce.
Couples in free love are more likely couples than blind dates, the marriage relationship is simple, and there is not much outsider interference if they want to divorce
Free love couples, they know, fall in love, get married, the whole process is only the two of them, basically no relatives and friends matchmaking, interference. Therefore, their marital relationship is relatively simple. After marriage, whether it is divided or merged, it is only between the two of them, and there is no outsider to intervene, and outsiders cannot intervene. So, as long as they want a divorce, they rarely drag the mud and water.
However, a blind date, two people from the beginning of the acquaintance, there is a gap between one or several outsiders. As long as they want to divorce after marriage, the people who have matched their blind dates think that they bear the responsibility for this marriage and find ways to make up for it. Therefore, blind dates, it is not so easy to divorce, there will be interference.
Couples in free love are more likely to get married because of a whim than blind dates, and it is very easy to divorce after marriage
Blind dates, that is, groups of people who enter marriage in the form of blind dates. Before deciding to enter marriage, they often fully consider the other party's economic situation, family structure, parental character and other practical reasons. It is difficult for them to enter into a marriage with an impulsive component. However, couples in free love, they are often emotionally dominant, decide to get married, and many times lack rational judgment of reality. Therefore, it is easier to get married because of a momentary impulse, and it is also very easy to divorce after marriage.
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