Less than a hundred years ago, all marriages in China were "the fate of parents and the words of concubines." In the past era, there were also quite a few families who lived happily, and there were many people with children and grandchildren and white heads, after all, the parents who considered their children's marriages were still the majority.
The vast majority of modern marriages are through so-called "free love", and divorce is getting higher and higher, and unhappiness abounds. It can be seen that whether there is "love" before marriage is not a guarantee of happiness after marriage.
As the saying goes, "It's easy to fall in love, it's not easy to get married." ”
I often wonder if Romeo and Juliet were both saved after their martyrdom, would they be able to walk together to the age of grandchildren and white heads?
Maybe it can, maybe not.
In fact, the probability of a happy marriage between Romeo and Julie may not really be higher than the marriage concluded by the "fate of the parents".
Marriages that begin with "love", the expectation value is often full at the beginning, and after marriage, oil, salt, chai, rice, and chicken feathers, it is possible to enter a process of continuous point reduction.
In a marriage where "the fate of the parents and the words of the matchmaker", the two sides will be relatively unfamiliar at the beginning, but under the strong social support system, as long as both parties have good wishes for the marriage, a blank piece of paper on the feelings can also be constantly added.
Especially now those who are in love for a long time, the passion of both parties has long faded, and there is only "aesthetic fatigue" left between lovers and the chicken feathers in real life and the "free" body of both parties, and it may be difficult to even enter marriage in the end.
The essence of the marriage relationship is the contract in which both men and women live together, and the sense of responsibility of both parties and respect for the contractual relationship are the key.
Through "free love" or through "the order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker", both men and women should first have a high degree of respect for the marriage contract of living together.
Objectively speaking, in the past years, the whole society generally respected the marriage contracts established by both men and women to a higher level than now.