The way young Zhuang men and women love freely and interesting marriage customs
The Zhuang are the largest ethnic minority in the Chinese, and there are Zhuang distributions in 31 provinces, autonomous regions and municipalities directly under the Central Government in the country, mainly concentrated in the south, and the Guangxi Zhuang Autonomous Region is the main distribution area of the Zhuang nationality.
Zhuang young men and women love freely in the form of songs, throwing hydrangea balls, playing wooden troughs, looking across the street, touching eggs and so on.
Adult young men and women of the Zhuang ethnic group go out to drive the ruins and sing mountain songs in the fields and villages, and generally parents will not restrain them. In feudal society, the Han people's restraint on their children (especially daughters) was famous. Therefore, the song has become one of the main ways for young men and women of the Zhuang ethnic group to love freely. In Zhuang society, men and women usually have to learn to sing a few mountain songs from the age of twelve or thirteen, and by the age of seventeen or eighteen, they must be able to learn love songs. There are strict rules for the location of singing mountain songs, whether in a secluded mountain village or in the middle of the street, it must be a place that everyone recognizes or can be seen by anyone. The timing depends on the local agricultural production season. The number of events held varies from year to year.
Throwing hydrangeas is when the Zhuang people rush to sing, the girls carry colorful flower hydrangeas, neatly line up to sing mountain songs, if they see the favorite young man, they throw the hydrangeas to him. The young man took the hydrangea ball, and if he was satisfied with the girl, he wrapped a small gift around the hydrangea ball and threw it back to the woman, and the love began. Throwing a hydrangea ball is the beginning of knowing each other, the beginning of love, not the end of love as some literati say.
Troughs are usually held at the beginning of the Lunar New Year, and at first young women use wooden sticks to beat the grooves, hitting a variety of different sounds, and everyone is happy. Then a few women beat the wooden trough and then sang a mountain song, and then many young men took the wooden stick and ran to the edge of the wooden trough to strike together, and every time they knocked, everyone sang the mountain song to express the love between men and women.
In the Jingxi area of Guangxi, there is a kind of love custom of looking at each other across the street. On the day of each rush, young men and women come to the intersection early in the morning, and the man stands on one side and the woman stands on the side, only a few steps apart, looking at each other. Stand until the sun goes down. The two sides raised eyebrows, and if they intended, signaled each other to leave everyone.
The Zhuang people in Du'an, Guangxi Province, have a particularly interesting love custom of "touching eggs" on March 3. At the beginning of the game in March 3, both men and women hold an egg, stand opposite each other, and then hold the red egg and touch each other. If the red eggs of the two sides break at the same time, it is considered that the fates of the two are connected, and if there is a fate, the red eggs will be given to each other and eaten. If it is only a unilateral red egg that breaks, it means that the two sides have no fate and have to eat the red egg themselves.
In marriage, introduce interesting customs.
The bride is not allowed to look back on the road, and if she looks back unintentionally, the bride will go to the well or the river to get water for the bride to drink, as a punishment for the bride.
When the bride's cave room is to sit, when the bride is introduced into the hole, the bride will sit opposite the bride and step on the bride's feet with her feet until the bench is hot and the floor is warm, which means that the bride will take root and blossom and bear fruit.
The bride draws new water, that is, the bride draws water for the first time after passing the door, the Zhuang people are very particular about this, the bride is taken to the well or the river by the sister-in-law, first bow to the source, and then throw a few coins to draw water, intended to inform the water god, the bride has paid money to buy this water, and the barrel mouth should be full of water to the water source, praying for the future full blessing.
Steal the groom's shoes, when the night of the cave, the groom will hide the shoes, if the bride steals them, the bride will decide in the future.
The Custom of Marrying a Man is very popular in the Xianzhuang tribe, that is to say, after marriage, the man must live in the woman's home, much like what people say now, although this phenomenon has slowly changed, but in many poor and backward areas still retain this, in addition to men and women on the day of marriage, women will accompany the sisters to the groom's house, but will return to the mother's home on the same day.
After consultation among the elders of the clan, according to the surname of the clan and the ranking of the men of the same generation, the son-in-law is changed to a surname and a name, and the daughter is ranked as the older and the son-in-law is also ranked as the oldest; he is regarded as the son of the family, and the peer and he are called brothers and brothers. It is absolutely forbidden to call brother-in-law and brother-in-law. In the future, all children will follow the mother's surname. Men who have been added to the family are respected, both in the family and in society. Capable and authoritative, the masses can elect him as a village cadre and enjoy the same status as local men. If the wife dies prematurely after marriage, she has the right to inherit the family property and the family must marry him another daughter-in-law. Where "entering the rich" is prevalent, people, whether they have a boy or a child, can be regarded as the heir of the succession and a reliable person for the elderly.
After three days of marriage, the bride can return to her mother's house accompanied by her husband, and usually does not pick up her home until she is pregnant, which is called the husband's family.