Sloppy marriage, less happy
Shakespeare said, "A sloppy marriage is less happy." "Deeply impressed.
Marrying someone casually is really a risky thing. People who marry hastily must pay for their sloppy behavior.
Marriage is like a gambling game, careless, full of losses.
Marriage is a lifelong event for a person, and it must not be sloppy and sloppy. If you treat your marriage hastily, then marriage will definitely treat your fate hastily.
If you know all about one person. It is impossible to marry her (him). If you don't know a single thing about a person. It is impossible to marry her (him). Whoever it is.
In this world of lies and falsehoods, it is quite difficult to truly understand a person. Don't say that knowing a person is a week, some people, even if you know each other for several years, you may not know much for decades. There are people you never know what the other person thinks or wants to do.
If you want to survive and develop, you must deal with people in society. So be sure to understand some people, especially the people around you, especially the people around you.
Get to know someone. It is impossible to know all about one person. But if you want to spend your life with someone. Then you must understand his view of marriage, morality, values, outlook on life, on this basis, but also to understand the other party's growth background, the degree of education, personality, mentality, living habits, personal self-cultivation and their own quality.
Marriage does not rely on the efforts of a single person to determine whether the marriage is happy or not, it depends on whether the two people's views on marriage, morality, values, and outlook on life are unified. The growth background, education level, personality, mentality, living habits, personal self-cultivation and their own quality are difficult to be the same, but as long as the two people's views on marriage, morality, values, and outlook on life are unified. If two people have feelings, then two people can understand, tolerate, and even complement each other, thus creating a harmonious and happy marriage.
The purpose of marrying a person is to form a life partner with that person, to overcome the difficulties and adversities in life together, and to create and seek happiness together. Marriage is not about seeking a spiritual or physical harm to another person. Not to live because of marriage and leave each other's trauma, there is the pain of suffering words.
If the two parties are combined, it is one plus one greater than or equal to two, then it is suitable; if one plus one equals negative numbers, then it is better to be friends or give up.
Getting married is a major event in a person's life, and it is not sloppy to come, so we must be very cautious and leave more time for ourselves.
Marriage directly affects the happiness of two people in the second half of their lives, and also determines the fate of two families.
Do not marry in a hurry because of the right age, nor can you ignore other factors because of the appearance of the other party's money.
Marriage pays attention to the door to the door, and looking at the family situation before marriage can make people take many detours.
As a parent, after completing the first half of a child's life, you may wish to point out the way for the second half of your child's life.
Please tell your children: you can love freely, but get married, try to find the following 3 kinds of families.
1. Be reasonable and get along harmoniously
As the saying goes, "It is difficult for a clean official to do household chores." ”
The merits of family disputes are one of the most complex issues in the world.
Between people, the three views are combined, and many contradictions can be avoided.
On the contrary, the public is justified, and the mother-in-law is justified.
No matter how loud it is, it is difficult to reach an agreement; no matter how fierce the quarrel, it is impossible to communicate effectively.
Before getting married, be sure to go to each other's homes to see the family environment and also look at the family atmosphere.
Talk to each other's parents and get a first idea of how the other family gets along.
When encountering different opinions, whether to calmly communicate and solve them, or to have their own opinions, no one will let anyone.
A child who has been educated in the stubbornness of his parents is mostly tainted with arbitrariness.
Such a person may let you go everywhere when in love, but after marriage, in the chai rice oil and salt, it will reveal an incomprehensible nature.
On the contrary, if the parents have three correct views and are reasonable, such a family must be full of tolerance and understanding.
Most of the children who are "rich" in harmonious families are reasonable.
"Heshun has a hundred blessings, and everything in the family is prosperous", the harmony between husband and wife, and the prosperity of the family are the greatest happiness in a person's life.
2. Be filial to your parents and be grateful
There is a saying that goes like this:
"If you are a kind person and you have received kindness and help from others, a natural emotion will arise in your heart, and this emotion is called gratitude."
Gratitude is an essential emotion for human beings.
Raising a grateful child, whether or not he has a career, is the greatest achievement of parenthood.
As the widely circulated saying goes, "The attitude toward your parents is your truest character." ”
People with good character, no matter where they go, the road is smooth.
On the contrary, people with poor character, the darkness in their hearts will sooner or later devour their conscience.
Such a partner will never be grateful for our efforts in marriage and family.
They will only see their own bitterness and tiredness, and then blame you for all this.
Marriage is not a lone struggle of one person, but the mutual cooperation and mutual achievement of two people.
Before you get married, you should go to the other person's house to see how the person who is about to enter the marriage hall with you treats his parents.
He who is not filial piety shall not marry, nor shall he marry.
3. The family style is correct and proactive
Someone said: "Family style is a wordless book, the source of a person's spiritual growth." ”
Deeply.
Family style is the best heirloom, enough to affect the fate of a family.
In life, some families were originally very rich, but in the end they fell, while some families were originally very poor, but in the end they prospered.
The problem is at home.
Before getting married, the most taboo thing is to see that the other party's family is rich and rush to get engaged, for fear of missing out, or seeing the other party's family situation, they generally plan to break up and show no mercy.
Whether the other person's family is rich or poor, it is necessary to see where the money comes from and where it is spent.
The "Yan Family Training" has a saying:
"Living with good people is like entering the room of Zhilan, and it is self-reliant for a long time; living with evil people, like entering the abalone's wanton, and it stinks for a long time."
Parents who gamble well can never teach their children down-to-earth.
Families who are good at taking shortcuts are not worth the rest of our lives.
Roland said: "You don't have to be reluctant to love, you have to be responsible for marriage." ”
Before young people enter the palace of marriage, they will inevitably be carried away by love.
As a parent, the guidance and advice on the marriage of children are indispensable.
The authorities can be "confused", but the bystanders must be "clean".
Marriages that achieve mutual success are more likely to be stable and long-lasting
Oswald Schwartz said: "A happy marriage is one of the greatest happiness in life." ”
A happy marriage must rely on one's own efforts to strive for and operate with heart; and the happiness of marriage is exactly what everyone yearns for and aspires to.
Marriages blessed by parents are often easier to achieve happiness and fulfillment.
Some marriages are like oranges, and every petal is sweet; some marriages are like coconuts, quite large shells, and there is not much sweetness in them.
Whether a marriage is good or not depends on one thing, that is, its own management.
As the saying goes, marriage has "risks", and it is necessary to be cautious when entering the "city".
May you and I, both inside and outside the "siege", be able to grasp the fate. Take the key to happiness firmly in your own hands.
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