He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
After a year, I feel one thing more and more:
Rich people do not like to show off and keep a low profile, like the "invisible man" in the crowd, for fear that others will notice him.
And those who have no money often like to show off, for fear that others will not know him, eat, wear, use, and want everyone to see that "he is rich".
This Spring Festival, are there such people around you?
"Poor and generous".
The parents were poor, and the child wore washed clothes, but he wore new clothes, had good cigarettes in his pocket, and when he saw a lot of people, he rushed over.
Give everyone a cigarette while showing off the watch you wear on your wrist.
"Rent a luxury car".
Another phenomenon is renting a car home for the New Year.
See a piece of news:
A young man rented a luxury car for 500,000 yuan, but when he returned to the village to drive, he had a car accident.
It is necessary to compensate not only for the money for repairing the car, but also for the depreciation of the vehicle, the money lost every day during the repair of the car.
All of them are calculated and are enough money to buy a scooter for themselves.
"Show off the comparison".
Especially in rural hometowns for the New Year, such things are happening every day.
A group of people get together.
Talk about work, about income, about savings, about houses and cars.
While bragging, showing off, and comparing.
Between the lines is a chain of contempt.
What about those who are really rich?
They don't party, don't show off, and don't show up.
Do not participate in meaningless social interactions, do not mention their career and income, will not easily appear in the noisy crowd, and do not like to be the object of everyone's discussion.
Why do rich people tend to keep a low profile?
First: means of self-protection
Never underestimate the jealousy of others, jealousy makes people ugly.
Rich people are smarter, they have insight into people's hearts and understand the truth that "wealth is not exposed".
For example:
You are developed outside, driving millions of luxury cars back to your hometown for the New Year; At this time, relatives, neighbors and friends who can't get to the bottom will come together to flatter you and befriend you.
What is the purpose? Find you to borrow money or get some resources from you.
You don't know them and subconsciously want to refuse.
But what will your refusal be exchanged for?
In exchange for their name-calling, slander, slander, ridicule, and even some violence.
Rich people choose to keep a low profile, in fact, it is a kind of protection for themselves and their families.
After all, "if you are not afraid of thieves, you are afraid of thieves."
Second: rich people "see through"
For the rich, they have more resources and wealth in their hands.
There are so many people in this circle, and they know who can bring benefits to them.
In their own right, they are the best business cards.
Those who know them will not despise him because of his low profile;
People who are not worth his friendship, even with all kinds of mockery behind his back, he does not care at all.
From another perspective:
The quality of life you are showing off, the wealth you are showing off, is nothing in the eyes of the rich.
You think that earning tens of thousands a month is quite a lot, maybe these tens of thousands are the living expenses of the other party for a few days.
Why do people without money always like to show off?
First: showing off is to cover up "low self-esteem"
The more you lack something, the more you like to show off, this is human nature.
"Poor and generous", this is the truth.
"I'm poor, I don't have money, but I can't let outsiders see that I have no money, otherwise I will be faceless and will be looked down upon."
So you will find that the more people who have no money, the more they attach importance to something "external, packaging their own image".
For example:
Wear clothes, buy expensive, even if it costs half a month's salary;
To eat, we must pay attention to quality, and we like to rush to pay;
To buy a car, it is better to overdraft your future income than to save face.
The pocket is empty, and it does not affect their heart to save face.
In fact, this in itself is an inferiority complex.
Another example:
How does a poor boy package himself in order to get the attention of a girl?
To make yourself look "rich", of course.
If you want to catch big fish, you have to have bait, right? Fishing bait, is their show-off and self-packaging.
Second: showing off is to increase your network
Like what:
Some people always like to show off their wealth in the circle of friends, package themselves, and create personalities.
What is the purpose?
Perhaps he is running his circle of friends, trying to increase his value and give himself some connections.
It's just that such connections are meaningless.
What you can provide value and benefits to the other party is called networking;
You have no value, no one will be your network.
In these days, really smart people will not show off their wealth, and everyone understands the truth of "making a fortune in a muffled voice".
Today's Topic:
During the New Year, have you ever met someone who likes to show off?
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