Author: Insight Lao Cao
Every year passes, every year passes, and the pass is difficult.
There is a description of the current situation of middle-aged men on the Internet:
Wearing cheap clothes, living a life of suffocation, opening your eyes is a chicken feather of life.
Don't dare to complain to your wife, dare not shout tired with your parents, dare not argue with your children.
The upper can not afford to provoke the old, the lower education is not good, and the middle wife is not forgiving.
Desperately earning money, money is not earned; Desperately taking care of the family, the family did not take care of well; Always thinking about others, but no one is good at forgiving you.
And all this, when the New Year closes, will be infinitely magnified.
01
Before I felt that money and wealth are all things outside the body, fame and fortune are all clouds of smoke, and being in the red dust and not following the flow, that is called a cloud light and breezy, that is called a transcendent world.
However, when the New Year comes, even the most calm middle-aged men will also panic.
My wife looked at the bag for a year, the mobile phones of my children and classmates were the latest models, my parents firmly believed that the health care products with remarkable curative effects, and various gifts and red envelopes from my relatives.
Which one is less? Which one can fit? Which one do you dare not consider?
Things outside the body and passing eyes can think for yourself, and in the eyes of others, it is filial piety, love, human affection, and courtesy.
A middle-aged man, seemingly beautiful, has a car, a house, and surplus food in his pocket.
In fact, the hole in the hurdle vest is known only to the back spine, although not obvious, but a little cool.
In order to keep his life in place and not be pulled down the mud pond by the sudden belly and back of the enemy, the middle-aged man turned the once unbending strength into a sixpence and greedy for white moonlight.
I've seen a Peppa Pig sticker on the sleeve of Lao Zhang's shiny down jacket, which he says is a prank played by a child, but I know that the place often has feathers floating out.
Young colleagues say that Mr. Li never invites everyone to dinner, and I know that he spends thousands of dollars a month to buy medicine for his sick old mother.
Old Liu nibbled on steamed buns for several months, just to buy a long-desired bag for his roommate's wife on his wedding anniversary.
No one remembers that they were also dressed in white like snow, sword qi like frost, and they were also the spirited young man.
During the year, no money can be the norm, but not the New Year.
Every year passes, every year passes, and the pass is difficult.
No matter how difficult and tired it is, you can't let down the people you love, then you can only wronged yourself and treat yourself badly.
The waistband of the trousers can be strangled again, and the back groove can be bitten again, which is not a big deal.
Middle-aged men are not worthy of the New Year, people are not worthy, and money is even more unworthy.
02
It's been a busy year, and although the seven-day vacation comes from a patchwork, it is also the longest vacation.
In addition to family reunions, friends and classmates have not seen each other for a long time, and the party naturally cannot be less, especially for wanderers outside, once they return to their hometown, no matter how bad the popularity is, they can catch up with three or five parties.
It stands to reason that the friends I made at that ignorant age probably talked about reminiscing about the past, nostalgia, talking about the brother who played football together and the girl passing by the playground, I thought so naively.
But as I got older, there were only a handful of such situations as the thinning hair on my head.
Everyone seems to have no time to miss youth, and compared with the current anxiety, youth is not important.
At the gatherings of those years, we drank, chanted, sang, blushed, and talked endlessly.
In today's wine bureau, we talk about houses, cars, business, and borrowing money, with smiling flatteries and hypocrisies.
At the same table, I had forgotten who gave the pencil and who borrowed the eraser, and just snuggled around the classmate who was the big boss and kept toasting.
My childhood brother has long been unable to remember the skewers he has played together in those years, and the girls he chased together, but he just smiled and talked to classmates who could borrow his money.
Maybe I'm too naïve, everyone has grown up, everyone has their own troubles, whose life is not a chicken feather? There's nothing wrong with being realistic.
Only occasionally midnight dreams, we are still young, still dreaming, vowing not to bend for five bucket meters.
Forget it, be that middle-aged man, admit mediocrity, accept ordinary, and stay away from the hustle and bustle that has nothing to do with yourself.
Middle-aged men are not worthy of the New Year, people are not worthy, and their status is not worthy.
03
In the vast black land of the northeast region of the mainland, there is such a folk proverb: The old lady celebrates the New Year, and the year is not as good as the year.
It's not a rough story, but it's not very comprehensive.
Middle-aged men celebrate the New Year, and every year is not as good as the year.
After thirty-five, I never remember how old I was, and whenever someone asked, I always vaguely said, Ben four.
On my birthday at the age of forty-one, I suddenly gasped, and I couldn't say that I was running four, I had to say that I was running five.
In fact, age is not too terrible, what is terrible is the direct reaction of age to the body.
I remember many years ago, playing football in the afternoon, barbecue small beer in the evening and sitting in an Internet café, and the next day it was still alive and jumping.
But now, if I don't sleep during my afternoon nap, I can't guarantee whether I will lie on my stomach at my desk in the afternoon.
In those years, a minor illness could recover in a few days, and this time Yangkang was a month, and he still sweated from time to time.
In those years, beautiful girls in the girls' dormitory could be seen reading in front of the window across several buildings, and now they can't necessarily see the beautiful GIF of the mobile phone when they squint.
When people reach middle age, time is like sand between their fingers, and ten years and eight years have passed at every turn.
The decline of physical function is also like an arrow that cannot turn back when it opens a bow, and it disappears without a swoosh.
When it comes to the New Year, middle-aged men who want to rest well are often more tired and busier than usual.
A block of several hours to go home, the middle-aged man's back can't afford to hurt;
Back in the various wine bureaus of his hometown, the middle-aged man's liver cannot afford to hurt;
Waking up early and greedily walking relatives and smiling faces, the middle-aged man's spirit cannot be hurt.
Holding his neck and gritting his teeth, he finally survived those few days, and when he looked at the calendar, the vacation was basically over.
Middle-aged men are not worthy of the New Year, money is not worthy, status is not worthy, and the body is even more unworthy.
04
In those years, we were newborn calves, waving our fists and saying that we wanted to change the world.
When we reach middle age, we lower our eyebrows, raise our hands, lower our heads, and apologize to the world one after another.
In those years, we were in full bloom, had the world in mind, and firmly believed that anyone with dreams was great;
When people reach middle age, we falter, fly and dog, and just want to take good care of the people around us.
Middle-aged men can shed blood and tears, but they cannot lie flat, they cannot be rotten, and they cannot be irresponsible.
When a man reaches middle age, he may have no money or power, but please believe that you are still the pillar of that family.
Every time you insist, it is a contribution to your home; Every effort you give will be seen by those who love you.
Middle-aged man, pack up your mood and go home for a good New Year.
Give it a thumbs up, after the Chinese New Year, let's keep going!