The paradox of powerlessness, the voice of a constellation

Everyone is born with a sense of mission, when they are getting closer and closer to this sense of mission, people can also recognize themselves more clearly, maturity, strength may be a reliable standard, but maturity and strength are part of growth, and all growth needs to pay a price, or pain or regret, powerlessness and confusion will follow, this is the price of growth, everyone is the same, no one can escape, and if you do not deal with these darknesses, the results and quality of growth will be affected, And some people may suppress a lot of such things in their hearts, and from the perspective of the constellation, the powerless contradiction is the voice of this constellation.

Cancer

Friends who have Cancer people around them should have this feeling, you can clearly feel that Cancer people are very wrong, of course, this boundary refers to those Cancer people who have been exposed to society, work, love, Cancer people will always inexplicably emit a melancholy breath, even a cold breath, you can't even find a reason to explain this, because Cancer is warm and kind in the eyes of many people, this breath should not belong to Cancer, but in fact, This is the inner contradiction of Cancer, the more disguised and restrained, the more involuntarily it will be revealed.

To be reasonable, boys are generally representatives of sunlight, girls are representatives of femininity, but this cognition may not be accurate enough for Cancer, Cancer boys are very feminine, and Cancer girls are inexplicably a little strong inside, this cognition is the opposite of Cancer men and Cancer women, why do many people say that Cancer men are very warm? In fact, the reason is very simple, because they are delicate and soft, with characteristics that the average boy does not have, and most girls will see this feeling as a sense of security that is very close to love.

And this characteristic of Cancer needs to be said from the essence, Cancer is a passive growth sign, the environment is very large, the root lies in the kindness of Cancer, such as Cancer was also rebellious when he was young, but seeing his mother angry, he is not rebellious, Cancer went out to play with children and fell, but his mother is not next to him, then he will not cry, because Cancer has no people and feelings to rely on, but if Cancer's mother is next to it, then Cancer will absolutely cry.

This growth trend is the growth process of Cancer, and then for example, Cancer's parents often quarrel, the environment atmosphere at home is very bad, the parents are not caring enough for Cancer, then after this Cancer in contact with the feelings of the problem involuntarily appeared, such as Cancer made friends, this friend in the beginning of his very good, then Cancer will also be very good to this friend, slowly once this feeling precipitates, then Cancer will involuntarily produce a great sense of security and dependence, Will treat this friend and this friendship as the only one.

But if this friend of Cancer grows up, his interests change, he is better for another person one day, and he plays with that person every day, then Cancer's heart will be extremely pessimistic, because of what? Because in Cancer's heart, this friendship is the most important to him, so this behavior of his friend is equivalent to betrayal, but objectively speaking, everyone will change in the process of growing up, and secondly, even if the friend is good to others, it is also his own will and rights, in other words, maybe this person's relationship with Cancer has not changed?

Cancer's idea will not be so objective, when he has this idea, look at his friend's vision will change, he feels that you have betrayed, then you are betrayed, you say nothing is useless, because cancer has this idea, his eyes are staring at the point of your betrayal possibility, other places can not see, and then the more you think about it, the more pessimistic, once Cancer is injured, it will shrink, this is instinctive, as long as Cancer sees and thinks of bad things, the result is generally pessimistic, To put it more thoroughly, no matter what Cancer does, as long as he does not think of good results, but thinks of many bad results, then the final result is that he does not do it, escapes, and then shrinks, why is Cancer so homely? So drowsiness? This is not simply a habit of behavior, but the influence of thinking and psychology.

Cancer friends now think carefully about the question, in your world, subconsciously, will there be an idea that no one can understand you, no one can understand you? It is not an exaggeration, as long as the growth environment is not so good, warm Cancer crab will generally have this kind of thinking, and what is more frightening is that he does not know why, and then he is so used to it, which is a norm.

To take another example of a more common real life, such as a weekend, a person who likes Cancer wants to ask Cancer out to watch a movie, Cancer does not know that this person likes herself, so what will she think? Wouldn't it be bad to have to wash your hair and makeup when you go out, and it's so late? Does this person have any purpose? To put it bluntly, once Cancer starts thinking about this, then you can rest assured that she will never go out, there is no reason.

You can imagine how many people this personality of Cancer will make them miss? But if you change Cancer to Leo, Virgo, then you will find that the result is the complete opposite, if someone asks Leo to watch a movie with Virgo, what will they think? The lion will instinctively think of a point, this person may be interesting to himself, anyway, there is nothing to do, the lion will go out, Virgo as long as the person has a little meaning, the probability will also go out, what shampoo and makeup, what is not late, this is not a problem.

So the problem of Cancer appears, that is, the contradiction and powerlessness after escaping, even they have no way to control themselves, but they hide and bury a lot of ideas, expect to be understood, but do not give others the opportunity and conditions to understand themselves, this powerless sense of contradiction is really the voice of Cancer, regardless of men and women, so I often say that Cancer needs a person who can lead her, when she is powerless and pessimistic, she can use love to warm her, when he escapes, he can use a firm initiative to guide him. It is difficult for them to move, or it is hot and cold, just like the Cancer friend himself said, the places outside the bed are called far away, to put it ugly, how can a person who wants to live well and live happily have such a thought?