Wen | Jingma
Two days ago, when I was playing with my child in the community, there was a one-year-old child next to me learning to walk, and my mother was playing with her mobile phone in the back.
After a while, the child fell to the ground and cried wow, and the child's mother glanced at the child and pretended not to see the mobile phone.
The child saw that the mother ignored himself and cried louder, I reminded the mother that your child wrestled, but the mother calmly said, the child learns to walk where there is no wrestling, you let him fall, wait a moment to get up on his own.
Sure enough, as this mother expected, the child cried a little, found that the mother ignored himself, could only climb up on his own, the child got up and walked back to find his mother, pounced on his mother and asked his mother to hug.
The mother told the child that if she fell down, she would just stand up! In the future, I will have to look at the road more when I walk on my own!
And I looked at the child's aggrieved face and thought that this child should be very hurt.
Children learn to walk, so as not to stumble and fall easily.
But when a child falls, the mother's reaction can affect the child's mental health.
When the child wants to be independent when he is young and has no way to be independent, he needs to be attached to his mother, needs the comfort of his mother, needs his mother's embrace, and needs his mother's approval.
When the child falls, there is not only pain, but also feels that he is out of breath, useless, and will fall down when he learns to walk, and this frustrated psychology needs the comfort and comfort of the mother.
If the mother turns a blind eye, it is easy for the child to feel that the mother does not love me, and I am a child who is not worthy of love.
When the child falls, the mother must remember the "three don't three wants" in order to avoid the baby's psychological injury
Don't: Don't turn a blind eye, don't panic, don't blame
Don't turn a blind eye
When the mother follows the child to care for the child, when the child falls down, it should not be completely invisible.
It should be seen whether the child's reaction when he falls is very heavy, whether it is very painful to fall, and whether he is head-on the ground when he falls, so as to understand whether the child is seriously injured.
Don't panic
When the child fell, he did not feel very uncomfortable, but the mother screamed in panic, how did you fall, the child did not cry and cried out.
The child himself is not very painful when he falls while learning to walk, and it is not like adult wrestling, after all, the child is relatively small, and he will not fall too hard when he falls.
The child originally thought that wrestling was a very normal thing, but the mother shouted when she saw the child wrestling, but it would make the child think that wrestling was a very serious thing.
Don't blame
Children wrestling is not what he wants, nor is it what he thinks, parents must not blame the child, how do you walk without looking at the road, how can you wrestle so carelessly, you see I do not fall.
In fact, this is also a kind of harm for the child, because the child falls down and he is also very unhappy, he himself is also very uncomfortable, and the mother's rebuke is even worse.
Some parents do not blame their children but will blame the shoes, blame the feet on the ground, blame the floor is uneven, hurt my baby wrestling.
This will make children learn to blame others for doing things badly, without thinking about finding reasons for themselves.
Three points: to observe the child, to comfort the child, to analyze the cause with the child
(1) Observe the child
After the child wrestles, it is necessary to observe whether the child's skin has been injured? Are there any sprains to your child's bones? Let the child stand up and move, if there is no big problem, do not worry too much, suffer some trauma, parents should help the child deal with it in time.
(2) Comfort the child
Even if the child's fall is not very heavy, he feels very frustrated inside.
Parents should comfort their children at this time, tell their children that wrestling is very normal when they learn to walk, and slowly fall more, they know how to avoid wrestling, in order to really walk steadily.
(3) Analyze the reasons with the child
Analyze the cause with your child, why did you fall? Is he in too much of a hurry? Or is it because there is something on the ground that you don't see? In this way, the child can avoid and make mistakes on the same problem again, so that the child can slowly learn to walk more steadily.
How do you react when your child wrestles? Feel free to leave a comment below the comments section.
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