Life goes around and busy, many people in the age of 50 faded impetuous, more and more understand life, cherish life.
Indeed, when we no longer pursue certain things excessively, we see the world more clearly.
A gentleman loves money, has a way to take it, and uses it in a way. For money, we must learn to do subtraction, consider the problem of pension in advance, and spend our hard work on the blade.
Wang Yangming once mentioned in "The Unity of Knowledge and Action" that we must learn to be a "stingy" person. People should serve the old and think more about the second half of their lives.
On January 13, 1989, this poem two months before Haizi was lying on the track, let many people imagine the future, but they had to face real life.
The poem reads: From tomorrow, be a happy person; feed the horses, chop firewood, travel the world; from tomorrow, care for grain and vegetables; I have a house, facing the sea, and spring blossoms...
Perhaps this is the dream of many middle-aged and elderly people at this time, but in order to achieve such a state of mind, it is necessary to take precautions, while ensuring good health, manage their own money bags, and spend less useless money.
Don't be stupid and generous, spend useless "righteous money"
When I was young, I called on friends and thought that the connections I had accumulated could contribute to my life. But in fact, it is not until the age of confusion that the only person who can help you is yourself.
Once for the so-called friends, a word of money, sweat like rain, now, with those people are running their own things, some of them even can not remember each other's names.
There is a saying in the "Augmented Sages": "Lending money is like giving, and collecting debts is like collecting." ”
At this age, the circle must be streamlined, and people with poor character must learn to refuse to "borrow money".
It is easy to borrow money, but when you repay money, it is easy to become enemies with each other. Why take that risk? Be a person, don't be those who are too kind and easy to be easily manipulated by others.
Of course, if the other person is kind to you, and you feel that even if you lose this money, it doesn't matter, it won't affect your life, then you can do as you please.
But if it is a very ordinary relationship, then it is best not to have money with each other, otherwise it is easy to be self-defeating and turn against each other.
Don't be fake and generous, spend meaningless "gift money"
Human contact has always been a unique way of communication in Chinese society. The Book of Rites also wrote: "Coming and going, not coming and going, not being polite." ”
For those gifts that we "owe" are to be repaid, which is the foundation of being a human being. However, for those who are completely meaningless, at this age, there is no need to participate anymore.
Especially those who are interested in their interests, they have deliberately found a matter that is bigger than the sesame seeds, and they also want to hold a banquet to invite guests. Such people, we must stay away from them, not to offend, but also not to approach.
There is also a situation that you are involved in the big things and small affairs of his family, but he never shows his face in your family's affairs. This kind of interpersonal relationship that is doomed to inequality, even if you follow the gift, you will not receive the attention you deserve, and you must give it up as soon as possible.
As a person, you must be careful of this kind of person who loves to take advantage of small things, and I don't know when I will pull you into the pit.
There are also those classmates, colleagues, friends, and relatives who can't hit the eight rods for many years, and they don't have to go with the gift. Even if you go, it is nothing more than exchanging your pension money for an "invitation".
Don't be confused and spend meaningless "useless money"
With the different times, the concept of consumption is also changing, and many young people like to spend through capital. And this way of consumption is not suitable for people in the 60s and 70s.
When you are young, you may squander some, because there is still a chance to turn the tables, and in the middle-aged and elderly, even if you have the ability, you must plan ahead and leave some retreat for the rest of your life.
Don't be greedy and cheap, buy things that are not practical; don't be greedy and cheap, and consume things that seem like "pie in the sky".
The former has only the function of filling your home, reluctant to throw it away, but never needing it; the latter is easy, making you suffer a big loss because of greed and cheapness.
At this age, such as investment, health care products and the like, we must be cautious and consume rationally.
People can't obey the old, and our understanding of some new things is not as good as that of young people. Therefore, when encountering "tempting things", be cautious and know how to listen to the opinions of your family.
People are most afraid of not being able to carry it clearly, and many times we will say old children, old children. It is true that many old people reach a certain age, just like the heart of a child, but we must remember one thing: "There is money in the hand, and the heart is not panicked."
In this lifetime, people can't earn endless gold and silver, can't finish sulking, busy work, and can't hear all the right and wrong.
Some people say that children are debts of past lives. For their children, middle-aged and elderly people should have the correct mentality: "It is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish."
Teaching children the ability to make money is more conducive to their children's lives than giving them money directly. As a parent, no matter how much you love your children, don't hollow out the "old bottom", you must leave yourself with the confidence of self-sufficiency.
Rousseau said: "The money in our hands is a tool for maintaining freedom." ”
In the middle and old age, after a lifetime of hard work, it is also time to think for yourself. Those once unfulfilled wishes, those hobbies that long but don't have time to try, it's time to get started.
There are too many unpredictable variables in our lives, and life is really fragile. When people are old, they must ensure that people who have economic autonomy and have the ability to manage their wallets can live a better life.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]