Nurture neighborly dreams
Netizens asked: Is the child allowed to develop at his own pace, or does participating in various tutoring classes allow him to win at the starting line?
Now I have these two extremes around me, and seeing other people's children win at the starting line, it is inevitable to be anxious. But there are some voices around me saying that chicken babies are useless, children who can become material do not use chickens, and chickens that cannot become talented materials are useless. What do you think?
Reply: It is not advisable to over-provoke, it is not feasible to let it go, and the best education is to make the comprehensive achievements of human society and civilization into a buffet, so that every child can enjoy the education feast under the premise of guidance. Because education to enhance the overall cultural knowledge of mankind is the basis for the intergenerational inheritance of human society and civilization.
Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms live in plants or animals... All life must adapt to the natural living environment in a passive adaptation + active taking.
Chicks must adapt to flying with guidance, vegetarian animals such as antelopes + hares teach their offspring to avoid predators, lions + tigers teach cubs to hunt... As a community-based viviparous mammal with the highest comprehensive IQ, the slowest growth and development, and the strongest growth and plasticity in the natural life system, the integrated social survival skills formed by humans also need to be passed on to the next generation through demonstration and guidance. Therefore, in order to pass on the social civilization way of survival that has been formed from generation to generation, modern human society has formed the most complete group survival skill inheritance system in the natural life system - education.
The story of the wolf child
In 1920, in a mountain village near Kolkata, India, two human children were found in the wolf pack, kamala, eight, and Amara, 6. When the wolf child was first discovered, his life habits were the same as that of wolves, walking on all fours, sleeping during the day, coming out at night, afraid of fire + afraid of light and water, only knowing that he was hungry and looking for food + sleeping when he was full, not eating vegetarian food and only eating raw meat (no need to hold it, putting it on the ground and tearing it open with his teeth to eat), not using human language + howling like a wolf after midnight...
Francis Bacon said: "Reading history makes one wise, reading poetry makes one wise, mathematics makes one thorough, science profound, ethics makes one solemn, and logic makes one argumentative." Whoever learns something becomes a character. "Children born in China speak Chinese + write square characters + use chopsticks, children born in the UK speak English + write ABC + use knives and forks, children born in India speak Hindi + write + eat pilaf ... Although, the story of the wolf child is difficult to distinguish between true and false. However, it tells people a basic fact that human social civilization did not evolve overnight.
"The Teacher Says"
The ancient scholar must have a teacher. Teachers, so preaching is also karmic to solve puzzles. Whoever is not born to know can be confused? If you are confused and do not follow the teacher, you will be confused and will not be solved in the end. Before I was born, my hearers also preceded me, and I learned from them; after I was born, I also heard the Tao before me, and I learned from them. My master Daoye, fu Yong knows that his years were born in my lifetime? Therefore, there is no nobility, no low, no length, no less, the existence of the Tao, the existence of the teacher.
Teachers, preaching, receiving karma, solving puzzles. Teachers, people who teach morality, teach academics, and answer difficult questions. Teaching morality and teaching academics is the teacher's initiative to undertake the indoctrination of children's learning and growth according to the requirements of the existing civilization and wisdom of human society; to answer difficult questions, the teacher answers the growth confusion encountered by students in real social life according to the wisdom of the survival of human social civilization that he has mastered. That is to say, the main body of education work is divided into two parts, one part is taught by the teacher and the student listens, and the other part is the student takes the initiative to put forward the confusion encountered in the growth and the teacher passively answers.
50 years ago, the people of all ethnic groups in the country had the right to receive culture and education equally, 100 years ago, a small number of benevolent people were running and shouting for the whole people to receive cultural education, 500 years ago, literacy and learning belonged to the patents of gentry and officials, 1000 years ago, the Song Dynasty people only needed to know half of the Analects to govern the world, 1500 years ago, Sui and Tang Chuxing passed the imperial examination to select management talents for the country, 3000 years ago, cultural characters belonged to Tianzi exclusively. The longer the evolution of civilization, the more comprehensive civilization wisdom achievements accumulated by human society. Of course, the deeper the popularization of human culture and education, the higher the level of education per capita. The results of the 2021 education statistics show that the average number of years of education of the working-age population in the country has reached 10.9 years.
Life is education
The Jin Dynasty writer and philosopher Fu Xuan pointed out in the "Prince Shao Fu Zhen": "Near Zhu is red, near ink is black; sound and harmony are clear, and the shape is straight." "Tell people that a person living in a good environment will be affected by good, living in a bad environment will also be affected by bad, emphasizing the comprehensive impact of the environment on people's learning and growth." Learn to walk upright with the appearance of your parents, imitate the emphasis of your parents to learn to use human language, learn to complete the basic self-care ability of life like your parents... As a social mammal with the highest comprehensive IQ in the natural life system, the most typical feature of human high IQ is that it has a strong ability to actively imitate. Therefore, for children, life teaches them what they learn, and if they do not teach, they will not learn anything.
Horses are not fertile without night grass, and people are not allowed to be rich, which means that horses do not eat grass at night and do not grow fat, and people who do not have additional property will not become rich. Terrestrial plants must absorb water and micro-minerals from the soil + receive sunlight to grow, vegetarian animals must eat plants + replenish water to maintain stable basic vital signs, carnivores must kill vegetarian animals + replenish water to maintain stable basic vital signs... As a rare omnivorous mammal in the natural life system, humans can feed directly on plants or eat animal meat. Similarly, the comprehensive intelligence of the human individual does not grow in a vacuum, and education can make the individual intelligent.
Modern human society for children to "learn to spare" the world's mainstream languages include Chinese + English + French + German + Spanish + Russian + Arabic, etc., the civilization survival skills accumulated by human society include mathematics + physics + geography + chemistry + medicine + law + politics + morality + etiquette, etc., music can be subdivided into piano + drum kit + violin + guzheng + flute + erhu + guitar + singing, etc., dance includes classical dance + ballet + folk dance + modern dance + tap dance + jazz dance + street dance, etc. Fine arts are generally divided into ink painting and oil painting, sports including Chinese chess + chess + Go + swimming + rock climbing + boxing + martial arts + table tennis + badminton + swimming + jump rope + athletics + long jump + ice and snow sports and other hundreds of small events... Hardly any subdivision of a child can be self-taught. Therefore, education is the most basic cause in modern human society, as long as there are places where human beings live, there are educational activities, which is not long ago china's three aerospace heroes used the "Tiangong Classroom" to teach children a historic lesson.
To learn to walk upright, to learn to speak, to dress, to eat & cook, to clean up personal hygiene... Life is like a one-way marathon without a unified starting point, itinerary and end point, learning is the main line of children's growth and development, who learns fast and learns more can win the "first hand" in the process of growing up with peers. Therefore, education to enhance the overall cultural knowledge of mankind is the basis for the intergenerational inheritance of human society and civilization, and it is not advisable to over-provoke and let it go.
The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain, need selfless companionship from the family, and need sincere teaching from the school and society. Nurturing neighbors: Explore the use of neighborhood friendliness to promote social harmony, promote social moral education and indoctrination, and promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone, with a view to "tailoring" children's growth plans with parents and building an educational service ecosystem where neighbors help each other in the community.