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I went shopping with my girlfriend and met a well-dressed woman in the parking lot, and if it weren't for her pushing a stroller in her right hand and carrying" a small baby in her left hand, I would have thought it was a single aristocrat.
In the impression, after many women become mothers, they will change from a girl with fashionable clothes and exquisite makeup to a sloppy "woman".
Of course, many mothers may not like the word "dirty", but it is also an indisputable fact that the focus of life revolves around the husband and child family. After having children, the following 5 changes, each woman can not escape, see if you are the same?
Cleanliness is "cured"
I remember that Long Yingtai wrote in "Children You Take Your Time" that one of her "single aristocratic" friends Ruo Bing wanted to come to the house as a guest, and in order to welcome the arrival of her friends, she carefully cleaned the outside of the home several times. Even in order to make himself look not a "yellow-faced woman", he deliberately rubbed fat powder to dress himself.
However, after seeing Ruo Bing, she blurted out a sentence "How did you become like this, yellow-faced woman?!" "Just beat my mother back to her original form."
This is also a true portrayal of many mothers, there is no way to keep the home clean and tidy, even on the clothes that go out every day, there will often be some rice grains that do not know where to stick.
No matter how delicate it was before, how much cleanliness it had, as long as you have a baby, these "problems" can all be cured.
A friend left a message saying: "After having a child, the cleanliness habit is good, I used to go to the toilet, I saw that I didn't flush it out directly, and now I have a baby, and I can eat it when I look at the baby's stink." Her words are not exaggerated at all, and the creature of "baby" has such a powerful function.
It's getting stronger
Last year, there was a hit TV series "Thirty Only", in which the 3 women who impressed me the most were Gu Jia. She is a mother, in order to let her son enter a good kindergarten, she will not hesitate to put down the pride in her bones to please others. After being bumped into by a good friend, she said, "Nothing, everything is for the sake of the child, these are the practices of being a mother."
1, weak women become "female King Kong"
"Women are weak, for the mother is just", did not have an understanding of this sentence before becoming a mother, did not have a deep understanding, after becoming a mother, I found that I was "Transformers" and "Superman", all the characters with heroic colors can be put on themselves, and can not let the child suffer a little harm.
2, anything will be
Before getting married and having children, he was a "ten-finger non-stick yang chunshui" person, and sometimes even the green onions and garlic seedlings could not be distinguished. After becoming a mother, everything will be done. All kinds of complementary foods, frying and frying, all kinds of line; pans, ovens, electric cake stalls, microwave ovens, everything is proficient.
There is no time left
Before I had children, I got up every day after 7:30. Nowadays, it is basically kept at 5:30 to get up, and then start the busy life of the day: breakfast, cleaning the house, waking up my brother and sister to get dressed and wash, packing up the housework and sending the children to school, going to work by themselves, picking up and dropping off school, accompanying them at night, etc., until after 10 pm, the time is your own.
Most mothers feel the same way, even full-time mothers, the time of day, is still around the children and family.
Sometimes I think about giving myself a vacation and going out to play for a few days, but the front foot just came out, and the back foot began to call and tell my husband how to eat the meals prepared at home, where the children changed their clothes, what time to pick up... There are busy things, endless hearts.
Parenting Tips: Sometimes it's not that Dad won't do it, but Mom habitually takes care of everything, so that she has no time and her husband has no more value.
It has become "key"
Friend Yang Le used to be a woman who was very concerned about dressing, and when he graduated many years ago, when most of his classmates were still wearing clothes for tens of yuan, Yang Le's clothes ranged from hundreds to thousands of dollars per piece.
It is not how good her family conditions are, but how much more than others can afford her salary. At that time, the students all envied Yang Le, capable and willing to spend money for themselves.
However, since becoming a mother, Yang Le is no longer as "big-spending" as before, more expenses are spent on children, and he can't change a few clothes a year, and almost nothing more than a hundred. She said: "After becoming a mother, I began to become more and more critical, constantly saving money, thinking that the money saved would give my children a little more security in their future." ”
Parenting tips: In fact, it is not that the mother has "changed", but the responsibility on the body has become heavier, which has little to do with how much the father can earn, but has begun to have more planning for himself, his children and the family.
"Scum" is easy to learn
There is a particularly interesting and meaningful answer: After becoming a mother, I became studious. How many are scum before becoming a mother, and how many become "school bullies" after being a mother.
Many mothers are determined not to let their children lose at the starting line, so they change the cultivation of the law, from various picture books to various interest classes to tutoring classes, no matter how expensive, they want their children to sign up for learning.
In order to better understand the child's various performances, better education guidance, buy a variety of parenting books, no problem to pull a few times.
Some people have summed it up particularly well: science used to be treated as air, and now science is regarded as a "god".
Parenting tips: From the cultivation of children's interests, children can receive a better education, do not impose their own ideas on children.
No matter what changes occur after the mother, watching the child thrive under their own care is something that every mother will feel happy and fulfilled. But no matter how it changes, don't forget "yourself".
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
Many women like to entrust themselves to their husbands and families after getting married and having children, in fact, when you "hand over" yourself, it is easy to lose yourself, so no matter what kind of identity you become, you must stick to yourself. The five variations above, how many did you hit?
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