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As the saying goes: "Troubles come every day, and there is nothing natural about not picking them up." ”
It's easy to say, but it's hard to do. After all, you and I are ordinary people, with interests in the heart, responsibilities in the body, and pain in life.
When I was a child, I looked forward to growing up, and then I made a lot of money and lived a happy life; when I grew up, I realized how ignorant it was to "look forward to growing up".
In any case, time will not go back, and the days will go on. Since there is no escape, then face it bravely and learn some ways to resolve your troubles.
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The first sentence: Things should come, and things should not be left.
Life is a process, when you come, you cry and cry, and when you leave, you don't leave an inch.
In fact, we experience "coming and going" once a day without seriously realizing it. This is "looking in the mirror."
With copper as a mirror, you can wear a crown. Get up early in the morning, take a look in the mirror, tidy up your dress and hair, if it is a woman, you also have to put on makeup, let yourself go out with a pale color, more confident.
Looking at it, in the mirror, there was nothing there, it was just a reaction to everything on the outside.
You walk to the mirror and in the mirror is "you"; whatever action you do, there is "action" in the mirror; when you leave the mirror, there is no "you" in the mirror. This process is very much like "one life, one life and one death".
Zhuangzi said, "If the heart of the person is like a mirror, it will not be welcomed, but it should not be hidden, so it can overcome things without hurting." ”
If you put a mirror in the depths of your heart, you can reflect everything in the outside world at any time, but you will never let a certain scene stay in the heart all the time. Come and go, go, and be well.
Think about it, why are you bothered? Most likely, you are reluctant to go to the past, and you grasp the present fiercely, so the depths of your soul are very "full" and cannot bear it.
A friend of mine, who is in his forties this year, has been divorced for five or six years.
Some time ago, he met someone he liked and had a few meals together. Just when he was planning to have a good relationship again, the other party refused. Because he has been in contact with his ex, which is unacceptable to the other party.
After all, feelings are pure, like eyes, and can't tolerate a grain of sand.
From now on, those who have loved will let go; don't sigh when you lose opportunities; give back to "yesterday" the rotten things of yesterday; live in the present, you are not tired.
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The second sentence: those who are good at fighting fire do not welcome their smoke, and those who are good at waterproofing should not be anxious.
Liu Bowen, founding father of the Ming Dynasty. It is rumored that he was able to know five hundred years in advance and five hundred years in the future, and his ability was superior.
He said: "Those who are good at fighting fires do not welcome their smoke, and those who are good at waterproofing should not be in a hurry." "If you want to put out the fire, don't face the direction of the smoke, otherwise you will choke; to stay away from the flood, you must be calm, don't flutter hard." Summing up actions and turning them into wisdom is "reverse thinking."
When you are troubled, think in the opposite direction, do it, and unconsciously come to the opposite side of the problem - happiness.
Liu Bowen had been unhappy before following Zhu Yuanzhang, the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty. He simply went into hiding, read at home at ease, and wrote the book "Yu Ion".
In the book, there is such a story: the prince of the Chu kingdom feeds the birds with sycamore seeds, hoping that the birds can make the song of the phoenix.
Minister Chun Shenjun said: "No matter what the birds eat, the habits will not change. ”
Zhu Ying, a protégé of Chun Shenjun, listened to this sentence and continued: "You know that birds do not change their habits, so why do you want to raise some rogues, hoping that these rogues can help you?" ”
Chun Shenjun was obsessed and eventually was harmed by a "rogue" Li Yuan who had been taken in.
Man, knowing that there are tigers in the mountains, is partial to the tiger mountain, which is courage, but it is also the courage of the puppeteer, and it will eventually hurt himself. It is better to take a step back, wait for the tiger to go to the mountains to see the scenery, and even completely give up such an idea.
Apply to life, to give two examples: First, you meet a colleague who is in direct confrontation with you everywhere, and you stay away from him, no matter what he says, it is not the same thing. Over time, the relationship between two people will fade, and colleagues will not hurt you.
Second, when someone chases you and says something ugly, you avoid it and go in the opposite direction. If the other party's words cannot be heard, it will naturally be meaningless.
All that entangles you can be avoided, the key is whether you are willing or not, whether you can do "dare not dare".
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The third sentence: Where life can be more satisfactory, everything is only half satisfactory.
The above sentence is a couplet in the Lingyin Temple. Tell us that nothing will be complete, and it is enough to have half of it.
There is a story in the Cautionary Tale.
During the Southern Song Dynasty, there was an official named Li Zhi, who was originally the Taishou of the Southern Jian Province. Later, because of his greed, he was dismissed from his post. He was exiled to Lingyin Temple as a waiter pouring tea.
One day, after the abdication of Emperor Gaozong of Song, he often went to the West Lake, and the Lingyin Temple was a place he often visited. Therefore, he met Li Zhi and talked for a long time.
Emperor Gaozong of Song said, "If I help you say a word, you should be able to reinstate the official." ”
After that, Li Zhi once again entered the official field. Emperor Gaozong of Song was also angered by Emperor Xiaozong of Song, and sighed that "the tree is old and the wind is blowing, and the people are old and cheap." It seems that the emperor must also accept the law of "people walking tea and cooling".
Everyone wants "all the best", but the reality is not so, but it is not satisfactory.
The Son of Heaven must be angry and troubled, let alone ordinary people? Compare it this way and you'll be happy. And you won't always admire the Son of Heaven.
Life, half past, half future; half sober, half confused; half giving, half getting; half joy, half sadness... Everywhere is half good, so why bother? Let go of the unhappy half, and what remains is "as you wish".
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In the "Cai Gen Tan", it is said: "A battle of idle wealth and wealth, although it is still gained or lost; a hundred years of good time, busy and busy, even if the life is also a death." ”
Glory and wealth were not yours or mine, but you and I hurt each other because of this and did our best. If you get it, it is not worth the loss.
A hundred years later, who remembers whom? Happiness is nothing more than eating when hungry, sleeping when sleepy, drinking tea in idle time, and making money when busy.
Open your hand, there is nothing in the first place; clench your hand, where is the dust?
From now on, if the heart does not move, it will not hurt.
All wounds heal themselves.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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