-01-
Perhaps, the love that every woman craves is "willing to have one heart".
However, this premise is to be able to meet someone who is "inseparable" from you.
Perhaps, in this world, there is no more romantic thing than "holding the hand of the son, and the son is old", the two youths know each other, walk through the hustle and bustle of the world together, and turn ordinary days into romance and warmth. Even if there are many storms and sorrows in life, they will think that as long as they are still around each other, it is very good.
Such a love, even if the green silk turns into white hair, what is so terrible?
However, the longer men and women are together, the longer they get along with a comfortable partner.
Just because, the emotion of men's greed, that is, there is a person around who is not tired of getting along, after all, life is already very cumbersome, and the people around them, and then add some distress, the meaning of "home" does not exist.
So, the women who fascinate men and can't let go are mostly a person who makes him feel warm to get along with and gives him warmth.
-02-
Two people living together, no matter how sweet and poetic, can not avoid the nuisance of some problems of reality.
At this time, the way of communication between each other is particularly important. In life, there are always women who complain about men's indifference, "think about it yourself", "You have to think so, I can't help it"... A man's words like this will not necessarily make the woman stop here, but will make her more angry, and then take out what happened eight hundred years ago, and shake it off, and the two people will fall into an endless cycle of quarrels.
In this way, the relationship between two people will also be like a straw, which may be overwhelmed at any time.
It can be seen that in love, it is very important for a woman to be able to grasp the scale of getting along with him.
After all, the nature of women is sensitive and suspicious, always a little thing, will think of the west, imagination, and in the eyes of men, many things that do not need to be explained, but also will be repeatedly entangled by her, annoying.
Smart women, who know how to properly pretend to be stupid, make good use of these three "noes" when getting along with men, and attract his infatuation with himself.
Love him, but don't want to "control" him
In love, the most feared thing is that one person wants to completely control another person.
There are no fools in life, when you are speculating about others, most of them will think about you in their hearts.
If two people, obviously in an intimate relationship, are both pondering each other's thoughts, then there is no doubt that this relationship is very dangerous. After all, most people, ordinary people, don't have so many "Mr. and Mrs. Smith."
And the woman that a man wants is actually a person who can understand him. Even if you don't understand him very well, you won't bend over backwards and test him.
When there is less warmth in love, only cold, then this love, separation, is not far away.
There are always women who want men to do something for themselves, and they will give each other a sentence: Don't you love me? Can't you do anything for me?
Love is never forced, but he can voluntarily and actively want to do it for you. Otherwise, even if he reluctantly agrees to you in the moment, he will have a knot in his heart, and when one day, he can't bear it, it will be the time when your emotional crisis comes.
So, don't threaten him with love, kidnap him, because no one will like to be forced, but like to pursue ease and happiness.
Smart women will be good at straightening out the differences between men and themselves, she will be clear, not what they like, men must like, not gender differences, he must be "controlled" by himself.
When you want to pinch him, his "face" will jump out of his heart and refute you, even if he does not say it, he has begun to resist in his heart. Therefore, he suffers for him, and you cannot get anything yourself.
Loving someone requires you to support each other, but it also requires you to learn to be independent when necessary.
Therefore, the more women who know how to give men a sense of ease, the more they let men be fascinated by her, because: the more space is left, the longer the time spent with them, and the more comfortable the two people are.
Quarrel, but never use the past to "turn over old accounts"
Perhaps, in most people's minds, they will think that two people together should be transparent to each other and have no small secrets about each other.
However, in real life, in fact, everyone has their own past that they do not want to mention, and they also have stories that they want to put in their hearts for a lifetime.
Therefore, when two people quarrel, if you take the other party's past to turn over the old account, most likely let the contradiction change from a drizzle to a downpour.
I remember seeing a story once.
A woman goes to her boyfriend's company to pick him up from work, and just in time, sees her boyfriend greeting his former first love, so she wonders if they are rekindling their old love
So, began her "detective career", every day to check his call records, look at his WeChat chat, the man perceived her suspicions, directly explained to her, but she could not listen at all, pretending to be relaxed as if she did not care.
Later, the man couldn't stand it and had a big fight with her, and she finally spoke out of her inner doubts and hysterically proposed to break up. But not long after they separated, he heard his good buddies mention that it turned out that the boyfriend and the first love greeted each other, which was a chance encounter, and the family was already married.
The woman was dumbfounded, but it was too late to regret it.
In love, don't remember other people's past, you know, not all things, need him to report the details to you clearly, when he can explain to you, you should take out the heart to believe in him, do not let the two people's affairs, the more trouble, the bigger.
The most basic thing to love someone is to give the other person trust.
Do not "turn over old accounts", treat each other with sincerity, do not pursue the root cause, do not stalk, and focus on cultivating common interests and hobbies, so that men will be more fascinated and more obsessed with you.
Gentle, but not chattering at him
Perhaps, everyone will have some scruples when facing their friends.
For example, if you remind him once, he listens, and you will continue to say it, but if you find that your words are just a kind of wordiness in his eyes, and even he will think more, then most likely, you will shut up.
Because in your opinion, in friendship, there may be some unpleasant words, but you have fulfilled the obligation of friendship, because everyone has their own ideas and choices, and you can't interfere at will.
In love, you especially like a person, and when you face him "not listening to you", you will not treat him like a friend, but "very patiently" chattering to him until he listens to you.
However, love sometimes requires positive communication.
It is important to care for and care about him, but don't be meticulous, there is no measure, he is not a child, he also has his own pursuits, you are not his mother, there is no need to make choices for him.
Just like quarreling, some women, will not quarrel, start the cold war, once or twice may be very effective, he will coax you back, but for a long time, he will not bother to coax you, your trick is not good, what to do in the future.
Instead, it is better to calmly open the words and let each other take a step back.
Instead of chattering and accumulating resentment and letting him report to you in every detail. When you nag the other person over and over again to try to touch his heart, you have already lost, and he is likely to be left with only perfunctory and indifferent to you.
Therefore, a wise woman, she will know how to stop in moderation, and will not let her "chatter", in his heart, become a complaint.
What men like, in fact, is the most gentle and considerate of women.
Many times, you think your advice is a romance, but most likely, in his opinion, it is a nagging. Some words, say once, point to the point, let him know your worries, it is enough.
-03-
Perhaps, when men and women talk about love and enter marriage, the best mode of getting along is: you are laughing, I am making trouble, everything will not be deliberate, but just a natural, no pandering, no suspicion.
Life is long, life will always be lonely, there will be loneliness, there will always be longing for the people around you, can give themselves enough care and care.
But when men and women get along, we must maintain the best sense of distance.
You can be yourself, I can be myself, the two of us are both independent of each other and dependent on each other, leaving will regret it, and we will not get tired of getting along together. That's it, it's already good.
Don't think that sticky is true love, and being transparent with each other is falling in love.
True love is never that you don't say, I understand, you look at each other, I understand, but when we can face the problem, calm and indifferent, not arguing, not noisy, not jealous, not doubtful, mutual trust, equal communication.
Living a life, the spark that can collide is to get along, not to cater, but to be very dependent, not romantic, but very dependent.
This is the plain life that fascinates men, and you, the woman who keeps him inseparable.
Author, Frank Fox
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May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!