Life is a long journey.
In the process, you will meet a lot of people, and you will become a passer-by for many people.
When the fate came, they saw each other and hated each other late, and they moved closer in the midst of talking and enjoying each other.
When the fate is over, everyone will suddenly become each other's passers-by. From then on, the two sides never contacted each other again, and were absent for the rest of their lives.
I have to admit that in this world, dependent arising and falling is a common phenomenon.
For those of us who are "sentient beings", how to avoid a lot of confusion in the gathering and dispersion of fate?
In fact, many people know that no matter the success or failure, we must maintain a peaceful state of mind in order to avoid the emotions of gain and loss. Only in this way can everyone maintain a state of light loading and grasp more wonderful in the next life.
Even in love, the same is true.
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If you don't love it, why can't you put it down?
Loving someone is easy.
It takes too much time to let go of someone.
When love can't be loved, why can't many people let go?
From the perspective of love psychology, the fate of two people is exhausted, and many people can't put it down, often not because of love.
Why do you think that? We can find out through the "Zeignik effect".
This effect is a memory effect in psychology.
From the perspective of the "Zeignik effect", two people fall in love, but they fail to end with consummation. Therefore, it is inevitable that everyone will be grumpy and uneven in their hearts. Especially when you think about it, the beauty of getting along in the past will be even more memorable.
It is undeniable that even if it is difficult to forget the other party, this kind of affection really has nothing to do with love.
We often confuse deep love with unforgettable.
In fact, the person who makes everyone remember deeply is sometimes not the person who deserves to be deeply loved. The reason why you can't forget each other is that the memory effect is working.
02
Do three things well and let go of one person.
After the breakup, the two people become independent individuals.
Both sides will have this awareness:
I was reluctant to take a step back, and I didn't have a suitable identity further.
As a result, many friends will think that there is a true love that they have not been able to cherish.
With this mentality, it is more and more difficult for everyone to let go of a past relationship, and in fact, even if two people can break the mirror and reunite, they may not be able to go on happily.
Whether two people are suitable or not will be known after experiencing it.
If it turns out that it is wrong for the two parties to come together, in the end, everyone will return to their single identity after the end of their relationship. At this time, between two people, do not continue to talk about deep love.
Because of true love, each other will stand on the overall situation and strive to complete love.
If they are not suitable for each other, both parties will make the choice to break up after careful consideration. If two people are exhausted, but you are reluctant to let go? Don't dwell on it, you may wish to do "three things".
First: Accept reality and yourself.
Where fate begins.
Men will behave proactively and go all out to impress the hearts of girls.
But love will usher in different stages.
When the passion period is over, the way two people get along will also change. It is undeniable that even so, if both parties love sincerely, they will still see love as an important part of this life.
Getting along with each other will also have understanding and tolerance, which will also warm both sides.
If someone really doesn't want to love anymore, will he still be gentle with you? The answer is often no.
When the feelings of two people fall into the predicament of cold reception, will you still stick to it? When you do everything you can to keep a person, are you still willing to entangle?
In this case, only by accepting reality can we better accept ourselves.
Love has gone far, the best way to cope is not to be persistent, but to learn to cherish yourself, shift your focus to yourself, and treat yourself well from now on.
Second: whether the trade-off is worth it.
Between two people, is there still true love?
In fact, everyone knows very well whether each other can continue.
If both parties can still stand on the overall situation of love, find ways to resolve differences and contradictions, and can smoothly "turn the fight into a jade", it is obvious that such feelings are still worth looking forward to.
When a person's focus is long gone from you.
Even if you blindly pay, you will not be able to impress the other party at all.
Everyone should realize that crying and crying cannot keep a person.
At this time, we have to constantly hint to ourselves that it is really not worth it to spend time with each other. When love encounters a challenge, we may wish to weigh whether fate is worth protecting, if you have the idea of "not worth it", everyone can basically convince themselves.
Next, it becomes much easier to let go.
Third: Make yourself fulfilled.
Loved, how to easily let go of it!
Sometimes, we have to admit the fact that two people who have loved each other, even if they can't go to the step of talking about marriage and marriage, even if they usher in a day when their fate is exhausted, they will have reluctant thoughts.
After all, the two sides have had a lot of romantic times together.
Even so, everyone has to face the fact that the karma is exhausted, and they need to find a way to liberate themselves.
After the two people break up, in the next time, if you want to spend a difficult time, you must be strict with yourself, do not give yourself too much leisure time, but let yourself become full.
Find your personal interests and hobbies and find your dreams.
And, grasp the limited time and strive to become better.
When you become a busy and powerful person, you will meet someone who truly appreciates you for the rest of your life. And at that time, you can also deserve any love.
Reluctance is a feeling.
But love goes far, it's an irreparable fact.
No one can come and go freely in the world of emotions, unless those who have tasted and stopped and have not paid true love can make abrupt stops in love and abandon each other's feelings.
In the journey of a lifetime, everyone will have different encounters.
Especially in the world of love, some people are related to you and will give you a lot of good time.
Those time together will become memories for the rest of your life, and they will become unforgettable. This is an indisputable fact, so friends, even in the face of a breakup, do not force yourself to forget a person immediately.
Time can help us learn to forget.
Before that, friends may wish to start from three angles to help themselves straighten out their thinking. When everyone can correctly understand a relationship and want to get out of it, it will become easy.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.