Children do not sleep in separate rooms, which is indeed a headache for some parents, after all, as the children get bigger and bigger, the matter of sleeping in separate rooms has become the primary consideration of parents, otherwise it is not only the problem that the child's personality is difficult to be independent, but also many problems will ensue.
Case:
My friend recently talked to me about the problem of the child sleeping in separate rooms, he actually thought of letting the child sleep in other rooms as early as the child was five years old, but his wife said that he did not need to divide the room too early, and then the child would naturally sleep in other rooms.
At that time, because he could not help his wife, his plan to sleep in separate rooms was frustrated, but when the child was seven years old, he was still unwilling to sleep in separate rooms. At this time, the wife also has this idea, but she is suffering from the child's continuous pampering, even if she is forced to sleep in separate rooms, she is faced with the child's howling and crying.
The fact that children are reluctant to sleep in separate rooms does give parents a headache, but some parents say that their children do not have to sleep in separate rooms, and when the time comes, children will naturally want to sleep in other rooms. However, such an idea is not necessarily right, if the child is not willing to sleep in a separate room, then it will have these effects on the child.
What are the effects of children's reluctance to sleep in separate rooms?
1) The child cannot be independent
Children's independence is very important, because after the society, the child is to face alone, the parents naturally can not accompany the left and right, if the parents do not give the child a room to sleep, then the child will become extremely dependent on the parents, unable to get out of the society to live alone.
2) Affect the life of the couple
This problem is very realistic for many parents, after all, there is a child in the middle, and it will become very inconvenient for the husband and wife to make love or want to say some love words. Therefore, if the child has not been sleeping in the room, then the quality of life of the couple will be greatly reduced, and the feelings between the husband and wife will even be affected.
Therefore, if the child is not willing to sleep in a separate room, what method should parents use to guide the child to sleep in another room? In fact, parents must first understand why their children do not sleep in separate rooms, so that they can achieve ''the right medicine''.
What are the main reasons why children do not sleep in separate rooms?
1. Darkness
For children, darkness is like a natural enemy, so it needs the company of parents to slowly fall asleep. But this does not blame children, this is because since ancient times, we have written in the genes ''fear of the dark''", so when we are alone in the dark, it is inevitable that there will be fear, let alone a five- or six-year-old child.
2. Attachment
Children grow up with their parents from an early age and never leave for a moment. If you leave your parents at such a critical moment as sleeping, it will obviously have a negative impact on the child, because for the child, it is necessary to have a sense of security around the parents at this time, so they will not be used to sleeping alone.
How to let children accept the ''sleeping in separate rooms'' is indeed a problem, but parents do not have to be too embarrassed, master these 4 small skills, you can cultivate an independent little warrior, let the child immediately sleep in their own 'small world'.'
What are the four tips to help children sleep in separate rooms?
One: Step by step
Parents should understand the principle of step by step, if the children will feel panicked at the beginning of the room, parents should let the children get used to sleeping alone by sleeping in separate beds.
Because the parents are still around at this time, the child will sleep more steadily, but in the process, he can begin to familiarize himself with what it feels like to be around without his parents.
Two: Wait for the child to fall asleep
If the room has been divided, then parents can accompany the child to wait for the child to fall asleep and then leave, because at this time the child will slowly fall asleep because of the biological clock, and the parents can wait patiently for this moment to go, so that the child will not be afraid to fall asleep because the parents are not around.
Three: Shape courage
Courage removes all obstacles. --Pasternak
Parents can prepare a fairy tale book to tell their children some positive and positive little stories, so that children know that darkness and evil will eventually be defeated by the light and the brave. In this way, the child's heart will be more courageous and more open to the darkness.
Four: Give the child '''companion''
This companionship is not to accompany the child, but to give the child a small partner who is enough to soothe their young minds. Such a small partner is best a furry toy, because this kind of toy can make the child hold and fall asleep, while increasing the child's sense of security, it can be said that it is the best substitute for adults .'''Accompaniment''.
After all, the child must go to his room alone to establish his own "small world", because this is the first step for the child to independently walk out of the small world of the family. If the child sleeps in a separate room for infinite delay, then the child may lose the opportunity to be independent, and parents must bear in mind to avoid letting the child refuse to sleep in the room through pampering or denial.
【Transferred from: Sohu Original — Haitao Daddy Parenting 】