At the age of 6, she wet the bed, but spent her whole life paying for it!
Do you know? Your child's whole life is paying for your bad emotions.
There is a little girl who has been smart and well-behaved since childhood, and her academic performance is also very good.
When she was 6 years old, she accidentally wet the bed, and her mother did not comfort her, but taunted her: "How old are you and still wetting the bed, is it harmful?" ”
Her mother's words made her both ashamed and nervous. But the next day, she wet the bed.
At this time, my mother was even more angry, yelling at her and shouting: "The sheets that were changed yesterday, do you think I am not tired enough at work?" No food, no drinking tonight, no sleeping on an empty stomach..."
Therefore, the 6-year-old did not dare to close her eyes all night, for fear that she would wet the bed again and make her mother angry. That night was the most painful and torturous night of her life.
In the decades that followed, she always couldn't help but wet the bed every three to five minutes, and she couldn't change this bad problem by any means she could.
After talking about several boyfriends, they all broke up because they disliked her, and she became more and more inferior, and finally even normal social, work and life were affected.
Later, after seeing a psychiatrist, she found that she had suffered from severe depression. It turned out that when she was a child, her mother's "vicious" face had been imprinted in her mind and lingered, forming a subconscious influence.
Parents' emotions will be fully absorbed by the child, don't think that time will dilute everything, and don't think that the child is still young and has no memory. The moments when your emotions are out of control will leave a big mark in the child's subconscious.
These imprints will accompany the growth of children and subtly affect the child's personality and life.
Knowing about "what is the experience of having a mother who is often out of control", the true answer of a netizen is very heartfelt:
You will be depressed, and then you can't escape. Even, the mother's self has become the most hated appearance she once looked. And his own children, continuing their terrible past, they can't do anything about it...
Montessori once said: "Everything we do to a child will blossom and bear fruit, not only for his life, but also for his whole life." ”
Your vicious tone and horrific expression will be carved into the child's soul. Again and again, it is a force that is more powerful than anything for children. There was once a psychological interview about many children raised by irritable parents, and it turned out that children who grew up in this way generally have such a situation: constantly apologizing, thinking too much, being particularly afraid of disappointing, ignoring their feelings, always pleasing others, glass hearts, insecurity, and so on.
Yelling and scolding may only be a matter of tens of seconds, but for children, the harm will run through the entire life in the future.