After the child enters the age of 1, there are more and more "skills", in addition to learning to shout, turn over, walk and other gratifying performances, of course, there are also bad changes.
During this time, many children are likely to have a bad habit, inexplicably waving small hands to beat people, from parents, grandparents, to neighborhood children, can not escape his "clutches".
People say that when they are three years old, they look old, although they are only more than 1 year old, they now have "violent tendencies", and when they grow up, they have to go to the juvenile detention center before they finish reading.
First of all, please calm down, this matter has nothing to do with "violent tendencies", so why should children beat people?
Because the child is more than 1 year old, the brain begins to develop, and there are more emotions and needs to express, but the development of language is far from keeping up with the thinking, and in a hurry, it changes from wanting to "move the mouth" to "moving the hand".
As parents, we have to look at this phenomenon correctly, and how to deal with it next.
01 Say "NO" without hesitation
Three steps, no matter what the reason, once the child hits someone, parents must stop him on the spot, tell him that "hitting people is not right", appropriately add two sentences "can not hit people, can not bite people, will be hurt", the most critical point is to tell the child "you can directly tell mom and dad what you want".
02 Guide children to learn to be gentle
The habit of children doing it is a problem that may be encountered in the process of growing up, as long as it occurs once, there are countless times, even if the parents prevent this "war", the next time it will happen, teaching children how to deal with it is the solution once and for all.
For example, the child argues with the partner, tell the child "How good it is for everyone to take turns playing with toys, next time you take our Stevie for a small train to play", if it is because of the rush to express something, tell the child "Baby don't worry, next time you want which thing you want to show to the mother"
03 Parents don't follow suit
This is a question that must be repeated many times! Because in the "6+1" model, many parents, especially grandparents and grandparents, will see their children's "hands-on" as a very interesting thing.
Some old people will even say "Come, baby, hit Grandpa" and "Oh, the baby is really comfortable", once the wrong consciousness is formed, the future correction will inevitably take more detours.
In short, on the road to growth, as a parent, you will encounter various problems more or less, but don't worry too much, as long as you give the right guidance, the child will not go astray.