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Who will give a child unconditional love? Only parents, grandma can't do it, aunts can't do it.
When the situation is good, the relatives are relatives and can be like a family, but when the situation is not good, the relatives are relatives, and only relatives.
When we understand this, we can better grasp the scale, and we can also cherish the current family life, cherish the partner, and cherish the love between the child and the child.
Quadruplets are born and the whole family rejoices
Twenty-one years ago, a real estate tycoon in Hunan Province, Luo Siwei, had a double harvest in his family business, and this year was particularly special for him, because his wife gave birth to quadruplets, three boys and one woman.
His wife, Ms. Tang, was conceived naturally and conceived quadruplets, which was a sensational event in the country at that time.
29 weeks pregnant, Ms. Tang has signs of premature birth, the four babies were born with a total weight of less than 4700 grams, the hospital issued 11 critical illness notices in a row, but Luo Siwei has money, can provide the best medical conditions for the child, under the treatment of doctors, the last four children survived.
The four children survived the difficulties, which was the biggest joy for the family.
But who knows, the contradiction between husband and wife has really begun.
The wife wants to have her own career, and the husband wants the wife to marry and teach the children
There was a difference of opinion between Ms. Tang and Mr. Luo, who believed that he had enough ability to support the whole family, and hoped that his wife could teach her husband and children at home, and taking care of her four children was the main goal.
This is a reasonable requirement because parents do not have only one child, but have four children, which really takes a lot of time and effort to take care of.
Mr. Luo hopes that his wife will take care of the children at home, just accompany the children, because he has hired four live-in nannies for the children, taking turns to take care of the children, the mother is only accompanying the children at home, there are four nannies to help, the mother will not be hard, nothing more than no personal freedom, and the other personal career will be abandoned.
But at that time, Ms. Tang had her own ideas, she did not want to become a full-time wife, she had her own ambitions.
Ms. Tang is mainly worried that if she does not work, the gap between her and her husband is getting wider and wider, affecting the relationship between the two people, and she is a full-time wife, which will be very passive.
The two people have never been able to reach an agreement, the marriage is full of quarrels, and finally the feelings are exhausted, and when the children are 4 years old, the marriage of the two people has come to an end.
Mr. Luo hopes that the four children can live together and win the custody of the four children, on the condition that after that, regardless of the circumstances, the four children will enjoy 80% of the inheritance rights.
Tomorrow and accidents, you never know which one comes first
After the divorce, Mr. Luo reorganized the family, and then the family had two more sons.
But in 2015, an accident brought Luo Weiwei's life to an end.
At that time, the four children were not yet underage, and the agreement on the divorce agreement of the parents was not known to fight for by the four people.
Luo Weiwei left 47 million yuan of property and 47 properties, which were shared by his grandmother, stepmother and two younger brothers.
At that time, grandma decided to let her four children go abroad to study, so her aunt took her four children abroad to live.
The aunt also did her best to take care of the four children, and the four children achieved excellent results after adapting to the foreign environment.
But just after the four children were admitted to college, her aunt told them that she could not afford the high cost of their studies, hoping that they would be able to transfer their property to their own name, otherwise they would no longer be able to study.
The last four children had no choice but to return to China and find their biological mother, Ms. Tang.
There was a brief glory after the divorce, and soon returned to the ordinary
In addition, Ms. Tang, a mother of four children, initially found her own direction after the divorce, opened a red wine club, and the business was booming.
From a full-time wife to a strong woman, this stage is her happiest stage.
Unfortunately, the good times did not last long, because she was not good at business, and then the business became worse and worse, and finally she had to close her doors.
Ms. Tang changed from a "rich person" to an ordinary person, moved into an old house, and lived an ordinary life.
When the four children appeared in front of her with the box in tow, and learned of the condition of the four children, Ms. Tang was dumbfounded, she thought that the children were living a life of fine clothes and food, but she did not expect that the children were sent to the fence.
Now, because he has no money to pay the rent, he has been swept out of the house.
Grandma refused to see each other and found another way
The child's guardian is the grandmother, the property is also in the grandmother's name, for the sake of the four children, Ms. Tang let the children talk to the grandmother, but the grandmother of the four children refused to see each other on the grounds of poor health.
This is the most chilling place for the children, who thought that Grandma loved them the most, but now Grandma refuses to see them.
The four children asked the TV station for help, hoping that Grandma and Aunt would give an explanation.
A decision made 5 years ago that shrank the children's property and left only 7 houses
Later, with the help of the TV station, the uncle of the four children came forward to explain.
In addition to leaving 47 million yuan of property, Luo Weiwei also has 33 million debts, and the estate is divided, and the debts are also divided.
In this way, the property that is evenly distributed on each child shrinks.
Five years ago, Ms. Tang negotiated with the child's grandmother and uncle to inject the cash obtained by the children into the company, in order to repay the debt and to be able to make the company run normally.
Unfortunately, in the end, the company lost money, the property was basically zero, and only those few houses were left at present.
Of the 7 houses, 6 were in grandma's name, and one was in grandma's name and four children's names, and the aunt proposed to let several children pass on the 7 houses to her own name.
The aunt thought it was reasonable to do, because caring for the child required financial resources and energy, and she needed to be protected.
The children, on the other hand, thought that the aunt was doing this with selfish intentions, that is, she wanted their house.
In addition, the houses are in grandma's name, and after grandma is a hundred years old, the inheritance of these houses is not only them, but also aunts and uncles.
In the end, I chose to live with my mother
The four children finally chose to live with their mothers and live in the old house, and the children's tuition fee problem was also solved with the help of a lawyer, and under the premise of paying off the debt, the aunt and grandmother divided the remaining property among the four children.
A family farce is over, and a problem can be seen in this farce: neither grandma nor aunt is the closest person.
In times of crisis, the closest to the child is still the mother, the mother and father can unconditionally pay for the child, for the sake of the child, but the grandmother and aunt, although the child is very close to the person, but can never replace the parents.
Parents take care of their children, do not ask for returns, others take care of children, there must be corresponding returns, otherwise they feel that their efforts are in vain.
For Ms. Tang, if she was willing to give up her career dream and be willing to stay by her children's side, there would be no such farces as to happen later, even if her husband had an accident, and she stayed by the children's side, the children would not be sent to the fence, and finally swept out of the house.
No one can replace the position of the mother in the child's heart, and I hope that the mothers can cherish the parent-child relationship with the child, and when making the choice, they must take into account the children's growth and feelings.