Everyone wants their life to be comfortable, rich, and able to live the way they want it to be. For this goal, we will always work hard, to learn, or to strive. However, in the end, we find that everything in life is not what we expect, and there will be many things that disappoint us and make us taste the opposite of what we want.
Just like love, before encountering love, we will feel that love can withstand all difficulties, as long as we truly love each other, we can overcome everything and finally have a happy ending. After truly having the experience of love, we will understand that in the original, no matter how strong the love, it is indispensable to talk about money.
The same is true for friendship, if the economic conditions of two people are too different, the relationship will naturally change slowly. Even if the person with relatively good economic conditions does not care and does not feel that he has suffered, for the other person, there will be some time when the relationship between them is not equal. Such a situation is more, this person's heart will slowly inferiority, so as to begin to alienate this relationship, back to their own circle.
In this state, as Mir said: "When the poor god quietly comes in, the false friendship becomes more and more rushed and fleeing." ”
In life, although we don't want to talk about money, and even feel that talking about money is too tacky and too hurtful, in the most real life, we will slowly understand that since we want to live, we are naturally inseparable from money.
Whether in life or in the face of various interpersonal relationships, we can find such a phenomenon, that is, under normal circumstances, a person who has been short of money for a long time has these three unconcealed tastes and cannot be hidden.
01 When it comes to some topics about money, they rarely talk, afraid of showing themselves cowardice.
In today's life, as long as the economic conditions are acceptable, we will choose to give ourselves a better life. Even in some consumption, even if others think it is too exaggerated, but for themselves, as long as they can afford it, they are willing to spend.
However, such a life is not something that everyone can have, and the economic situation is different, and the concept of consumption and living standards will naturally be very different. Such people get along together, if they just talk about some more ordinary topics, they will naturally get along very harmoniously. If we talk about the problem of consumption, some differences will appear.
The more such topics, the more people with relatively poor economic conditions will naturally not often pick up such topics, and can only keep quiet and listen to others' sharing. Although they will not hate their current life, in such a situation, there will be some inferiority in their hearts, some embarrassment, afraid that they will say too much and be timid, so that others can see the shyness in his pocket.
02 There are not many friends around, and I rarely go to some parties.
Generally speaking, the better a person's economic conditions, there must be many friends around him. Even if you are just an ordinary wine and meat friend, the number of people you know is innumerable. And when they attend various parties, they do not consider the problem of money, and the more times they meet, the more friends they know.
A person who is financially strapped will naturally not have such a life. Even at a party, they wonder how much they need to spend or whether they have the ability to do so. If you often go to eat with others, it is like rubbing rice, and your heart is definitely uncomfortable. Instead of being seen that way, it's better to take the initiative to reduce the number of gatherings.
For such people, in their lives, in addition to having a few sincere friends, the others are just acquaintances, and naturally there are no wine and meat friends. Therefore, the quality of a person's economic conditions depends on his arrangement in life.
03 When buying things, they will be careful, or they will think about it for a long time.
Everyone has their own favorite lifestyle, there are things they like, but some people have the ability to satisfy their own lives, and some people can only think.
Just like in life, we can see that some people like to eat what they like, and what they want will quickly satisfy themselves, and naturally they will not taste the happiness and happiness of satisfaction, because such a life has become a very common state for them.
But for some people who are not very good, they have something they like to eat, but they can eat it instead of wanting to eat it, but they will plan in advance and consider when to satisfy themselves, or when they have some happy things in life, they will generously fulfill their own wishes.
When they like something and the price is a bit out of their budget, they also put it there and think about it a lot before making a decision. When the things you like are not satisfied, you will feel inferior when you have something in your heart.
Spinoza said: "The greatest pride and the greatest inferiority both indicate the weakest of the heart." ”
A person's inner inferiority is actually from the weakness of the heart. When a person can't control his mentality, he can't withstand some blows in his life, encounters difficulties, and will only choose to withdraw and return to his circle.
However, if a person maintains this pessimistic and negative mentality, it is difficult to improve his life. A person has always maintained an inferiority complex, how can he see the beauty of life?
Bi Shumin said: "It is not terrible that inferiority appears, as long as you put the inferiority on the table, find out the causes and manifestations of inferiority, and face it calmly, the inferiority will become a paper tiger, and it will be broken with a poke." ”
If you want to overcome this inferiority psychology, you are adjusting your mentality, you can calmly face anything you encounter, drive away the inner vanity, drive away the inner lack of self-confidence, and this inferiority will naturally be far away from you.
Poverty is not terrible, the terrible thing is that you don't have a good attitude. With a good attitude, there is no need to feel inferior to those material gaps.
psychology