Author | Inspector (total 1613 words, about 4 minutes to read)
With the opening of the two-child policy, more and more families are very excited about "regenerating one".
For the birth of a second child, not only are "young families" more active, but also some "middle-aged families" are also eager to try.
Although it is said that having a second child is a policy launched by the state to benefit the country and the people, and wanting to add another child is also a strong support for the policy, but for different families, having a second child has a different meaning.
For young families, the couple is relatively young, and it is also a good thing to have another one, and all aspects can be mastered;
For middle-aged families, there are many defects, such as the energy of the couple, the physical endurance of elderly mothers, etc., and the most critical thing is to consider the specific family conditions.
▼ Middle-aged families who want to have a second child face "no small risk"
In a post on a social networking site, we saw such a case.
The 40-year-old Xiao Zhang couple belongs to a middle-aged family, although there is already a big treasure that is about to go to college, but the couple who are not small in age are still unexpectedly pregnant with a baby.
At that time, all the relatives in the family advised them not to give birth to this child, because Dabao had reached the threshold of adulthood, and it was not a happy thing to let them have another newborn younger sibling at this time.
However, they thought that they did not have any hard work when taking care of Dabao at that time, the child grew up quickly, and the boiling was over, and finally insisted on giving birth to this child. It is in this way that all the voices of opposition in the family are upheld and very impulsive.
Moreover, the child's grandparents have retired, and after hearing the news, they can only go out to work hard, hoping to reduce the burden of some families financially.
After the child was born, the couple felt that they were physically weak, they did not have enough energy to take care of the child, and Dabao, who was going to school, had to be busy with his own studies.
Financially difficult, physically poor, such a life pressure falls on the couple, it really makes them feel very regretful.
▼ "Giving birth to a baby at an advanced age" is a huge physical challenge for mothers
Normally, pregnant women need to go through a 10-month gestation process, and in such a process, it is a big burden for the body.
According to the advice given by the doctor, if you want to have a second child, it is best to be around 25 years old, and 35 years old is a "watershed".
Once you are over 35 years old, if you want to, there may be some risk of pregnancy.
Although you have seen the case of a 67-year-old man getting pregnant and having a child before, this is after all a case and a lot of risk, and it is not recommended that you take this risk.
For mothers over 40 years old, even if the economic conditions are good, their physical fitness has begun to decline significantly, and aging is a topic they have to face.
Although it is true that from a physiological point of view, it is also a great challenge for their health index and the risk index in the reproductive process from a medical point of view.
Pregnant women at an advanced age have a higher probability of developing gestational diabetes and other complications during pregnancy, and the probability of fetal malformations is also greater.
▼ Even if you have a second child, some family conflicts may break out
★ Can children "live in peace"
If there is also a huge age difference between children, it is indeed more difficult to reunite their children into a new family.
Not all teenagers can accept a younger sibling who is more than 10 years away from themselves. Dabao may not adapt, accept, dislike the second treasure, or have the psychology of competing for favors and jealousy.
This is also a relatively risky thing for newborns to integrate into the whole family.
★ Children's "growth education problems" cannot be ignored
For middle-aged families, couples no longer have enough energy and patience to take care of a newborn child, so the burden of taking care of children can only be handed over to their brothers and sisters.
If the children's relationship and emotional connection are not so deep, and Dabao still faces huge academic pressure, he often does not have the energy to take care of Erbao.
Therefore, this newborn is a big burden for every member of the whole family.
In the current era, there are many middle-aged and elderly couples who have the intention of having another child, although childbearing is their right, but this not only involves the problem of economic strength, if there is no sufficient energy to give birth to a child, then taking care of the child will also bear the burden and risk of the child.
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For the whole family, the growth and education of a child also affect the family's economic burden and cost expenditure.
Therefore, parents must not think one-sidedly about the problem, and cannot let their impulses bring risks to the family and bring pressure to their children. It would be unfair to every child to have consequences for the decisions they made.
Parents, do you currently have plans to have a second child?
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