Children are inherently unique, as long as parents know how to appreciate the child's strengths, respect his interests, and let him develop from his strengths, the child can grow up healthily.
The best way to correct a child's shortcomings is to amplify his strengths.
When people have strengths, their heads are lifted, and with self-confidence, it is easier to learn.
We can see through many experiments that your attitude towards your child will determine the structure of your child's brain and his attitude toward learning.
The brain is constantly changing the distribution of nerves according to external needs, and your behavior will go back and change your brain— the brain is the product of environmental and genetic interactions.
For example, there are two kinds of voles, one lives in the hills and one lives in the grasslands. Polygamous living in the hills, monogamous in the grasslands, scanning the brains of these two kinds of male rats in the laboratory will find that polygamous male rats, its brain tube space memory of the hippocampal gyrus back is relatively large - because it has to remember which side has a wife, which is the change in brain structure brought about by the demand. The same goes for people.
▲ The brain produces ideas, ideas guide behavior, behavior produces results, and the result changes the brain. From Einstein we learn two lessons:
First, the degree of intelligence is not directly related to the size of the brain, but to the density and way of nerve connections. Einstein's brain was only 1230 grams, and according to height and weight, it should be 1350 grams to be normal.
Second, one cannot be good at everything. The brain is like a piece of bread, the more spatial ability cuts, the less language ability - Einstein's spatial ability is quite good, but he is a language retardant, called his mother at the age of three, and can only speak at the age of five, but he is fortunate to have a good mother and sees where his ability lies.
▲ In the past, we all knew: where to fall, where to get up. wrong! It should be: where to fall, to get up in another place!
Because you fell here, it proves that your ability is not here, and if you change places, we say 360 lines, line out of the yuan, now a pluralistic society, any field of play famous will have food.
▲ What is genius? Genius is to put the right place and let the child's ability play out.
In the past, we said that if you can't do math, you can do 10 problems, and if you can't do 100 problems, you will do it one day. Of course, there is nothing wrong with this, because we Chinese believe that diligence can make up for clumsiness, and foolishness can move mountains.
But we have forgotten one thing--human life is limited, and when the fool removes the mountain, the fool is old, and this life has passed.
▲ The Brain Science Conference in the United States began to study the relationship between brain and education a few years ago, and there was a big slogan on the wall - if the child did not learn well, the teacher did not teach correctly!
Why is that?! Because any child has strengths, starting from the strengths, you can definitely bring the child up.
▲ Learning must be active to be useful, and it will change the connection of nerves. The shadow of childhood will affect the functional development of the child's brain - the nerves of the abused child will atrophy, and the memory will also be affected.
Don't scold your child before he does his homework, because tension can cause nerve cell death. If students read books with fear, they form a negative cycle.
▲ If the child lives in a very noisy environment, his intelligence will be affected, and his brain development is incomplete.
▲ Be sure to let your child sleep well, because sleep is directly related to learning - when sleep enters the fourth stage, the brain will secrete growth hormone, serotonin and orthodondrine, and the latter two are directly related to memory.
Therefore, the head overhang and the cone are not effective, because once a person is sleepy, he enters the first stage of sleep, at which time he cannot read and cannot enter - only reading words cannot understand sentences.
There is a scientific basis for thinking day and night, and dreaming is the time when we go to the past and learn the new. Dreams that occur during the day when I first go to bed are things that happen during the day, and dreams that come after midnight are things that happen seven days ago.
▲ Raising children is not a science, it is an art. Science is repetitive, and every child cannot be the same, and must squat down and see the world from the child's eyes.
Parents should not be snobbish, see the child test 100 points on the smile, less than 100 points on the test to put on a stinky face: where are the 4 points?!
Don't think your child will do anything. Give your child the opportunity to make mistakes, and when he makes mistakes, be sure to forgive him — give your child the opportunity to explore the outside world and help him connect his nerves. Don't tell him to memorize the same thing and do the same thing every day.
If you want your child to surpass you, you must give him space to surpass you, and don't say without moving: I eat more salt than you eat rice, and cross more bridges than you walk... That's right.
You forget one thing, he listens to you, he's amazing is just like you, he has no room to transcend you. And what we want is: our children are better than us, stronger than us!
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