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Should a widow be born?
I believe that if in the TV series, this widow must be born, and then it is how the single mother raises the child with hard work, how the child becomes an adult, and the mother finally struggles to come. But is this really the case in reality?
In reality, whether or not to give birth to a widow is a test of a woman's wisdom and courage.
Some people may say that if the child's grandparents promise them to bring their own, and the child's father is the only son, then why not satisfy them? Does it have to be done to allow the elderly to bear the loss of independence while also losing future grandchildren or granddaughters? Such a daughter-in-law is too cruel!
There was a mother who experienced such a thing.
She got the bad news of her husband's death when she was three months pregnant, and after the whole family held their heads and cried, the in-laws brushed and knelt down to her, begging her to leave the baby in her belly, saying that they only had this one thought. Without their future grandchildren, they can't live.
The woman's family did not agree, they felt that the woman was young and light, with a child without a father, how could she live in the future? Even if you remarry, you will be very affected.
However, the in-laws strongly promised that after giving birth to the child, the daughter-in-law would still be free and completely remarried. Moreover, the children do not need to be raised by the daughter-in-law, the old couple will do their best to support themselves, and they also said that they can sign the pledge.
The daughter-in-law was soft-hearted and agreed. After the child was born, after weaning, in order to cut off the emotions, the daughter-in-law moved out of the in-laws and has since broken off contact with the child.
A few years later, the woman remarried, had a happy family, and had a cute baby with her other half. She thought she could live her life to the fullest, but she received a court summons.
It turned out that the former in-laws were very difficult to provide for their grandchildren because of physical and economic reasons, and after thinking about it, it was better to let the child's mother accept it.
So they appealed to the court, demanding that the former daughter-in-law pay for the maintenance of the child for several years and accept custody of the child.
The woman panicked and took out the previous agreement, but the court declared it invalid, agreed to the old man's request, asked her to compensate the old man for several years of maintenance costs, and take the child away.
How can the husband of the new family accept this? The otherwise happy family became quarrelsome. The woman herself could not accept the child, because she had never raised him and had no feelings for him.
And the child's side, because he has been following his grandparents for a long time, is unwilling to leave, and he is also very reluctant to this so-called "mother".
The old man broke the contract and killed two families.
So the question is, should the widow be born?
I think as a mother, I must have a number in my heart. You have to understand what kind of situation you will face after making your own decision.
First of all, you can't blindly move yourself, and feel that leaving your child behind is the great hero of the old X family. You know, being a "hero" comes at a lot of cost. After that, the child's parenting expenses all depend on the mother, because to bring the baby, it will also affect the mother to find a job, and even affect the mother's family. After all, when the mother goes out to look for a job, taking care of the child may need to be helped by the grandmother and grandfather.
Secondly, it depends on the attitude of the mother's family. After all, as a single mother, whether the mother's family can become a reliable backing is very important.
Finally, don't be soft on other people's promises and go against your intentions.
In the case of the woman in this matter, it was her mother-in-law's promise that made her decide, but she did not expect that she thought that the impregnable promise would also be overturned, and it would become an important turning point in her life.
Whatever decision you make, follow your heart. Only in this way can we face setbacks without remorse and calmly.
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