In the process of baby's growth, there will always be some mistakes, how should parents educate their babies? A good education will benefit children for life. Most parents yell angrily at their children and even start scolding. Parents are doing this only to vent their emotions.
Children are only taught lessons, not education, and this kind of lesson does not help the baby grow at all. Children will only be more confused under the influence of their parents' irritable emotions, because they do not know what they are wrong, and they do not know how to correct it. Similar mistakes may be made in the days to come, and the problem will not be solved at all.
Adults sometimes do things wrong, let alone children? They are full of curiosity about new things, as for what is right and what is wrong, it may not be clear, the baby understands the world through practical actions, and satisfies his own little desires.
When a child makes a mistake, the parent's education method determines whether the baby can follow the right path in the future. Parents should give their children the right guidance, we can learn from Sun Li, as a mother, her way of education is different, and the way of dealing with problems is different from ordinary parents.
Sun Li once posted a Weibo post: she said that she stipulated that children were not allowed to play games from Monday to Friday. One Monday afternoon, her baby and so on took advantage of the mother's absence, played a game, and after the child finished playing, she took the initiative to explain the matter to her mother. After listening to the child's words, Sun Li did not blame and scold the baby, but happily rewarded the child for playing another 20 minutes of the game.
Because the child was very honest, he was rewarded. Sun Li's practice is really an example for baoma. Many netizens commented that the average family, even if the child takes the initiative to admit the mistake, will be blamed by the parents, and then tell the baby: the next is not an example, there will be no such reward.
Facts have proved that if the child makes a mistake and the parents blindly blame on the side, the baby may pay more attention to hiding his mistakes and will not actively correct them.
The child makes a mistake, the parent's way of dealing with it
Reprimand your baby regardless of the occasion.
Children are small, but they also have strong self-esteem. If parents reprimand their children regardless of the occasion, the baby will only be more rebellious, unable to recognize their own problems, and will not take the initiative to admit mistakes. Sometimes, knowing that you have done something wrong, you will also work against your parents.
Scolding babies for no reason.
Sometimes the child makes a small mistake, and the parent scolds for no reason at all, and does not listen to the child's explanation at all. In doing so, it is likely to blame the baby, which will be the opposite effect. Children do not like parents and such family education, and will also produce fear and disgust.
Turn over old accounts and satirize children.
After all, children are young, and it is normal to make mistakes. Many parents like to go through old accounts with their children, the original intention is to let the baby learn more lessons, and not to make the same mistakes in the future. This kind of behavior of parents is actually satirizing the baby. Originally, the child has realized that he has made a mistake, but the parents often turn this matter out and criticize themselves, which will make the child feel very annoying.
Let the baby no longer make mistakes and grow better
As a parent, you should learn from Sun Li's practice. Correctly look at the baby's behavior of making mistakes, and the child will slowly grow in the process of making mistakes. Making mistakes is not all about running into trouble and getting into trouble, but babies are more curious and want to try something.
First: After the mood is stable, then criticize
After making a mistake, parents may be angry and reprimand their children. When adults are emotional, they will say a lot of excessive words. The irritable emotions of parents will also make children feel nervous and psychologically stressed.
Parents should calm their emotions and then slowly reason with their children. In this way, we can also deal with problems more rationally and use correct words to guide the baby.
Second: Choose the right time and place
Every baby has self-esteem, and parents should protect their child's dignity, which will make the baby more confident and positive. Even if the baby makes a mistake, parents should not criticize the child in public in front of many people. In this way, the baby will not only not willingly admit his mistakes, but also be angry about the behavior of his parents.
Parents should choose the right time and place to educate the baby, for example, you can go back to the home and then criticize the child, only the family is present, the baby will not feel lose face.
Third: Ask the reason for the mistake
Mistakes are made for a reason, and parents should carefully ask their baby what really happened. Allow the child to talk, understand the details of the process, and then help the baby analyze the cause and find a reasonable solution.
Once the baby has been wronged, the child will feel particularly wronged, and he will not like to tell the parents about anything in the future.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
It is very normal to make mistakes on the child's growth path, and parents should stand in the baby's position, think about problems, communicate with the baby as friends, and guide them in the right way. In this way, the child will have the courage to take responsibility and will become more and more excellent.
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