01
From childhood to adulthood, from the beginning of understanding, since contact with girls, what are the three words that I have heard the most? Chasing girls? Isn't it?
So this will form a fixed thinking pattern in your mind, thinking that the girl is chasing, and certainly love is chasing. And I want to tell you, there has never been such a thing as chasing a girl, after all, she is a person, not a prey, even if she chases her hand, it is easy to form a deformed love relationship.
Because the determination of this romantic relationship is not a natural mutual attraction, but more of a choice to weigh the pros and cons.
If you think that a girl is chased, what do you think when you like a girl very much, pursue it bitterly, and can't chase it?
You just think that your own pursuit is not enough.
It's easy to form an obsession that, in the next step, ask yourself to double down on giving and doubling down on please. In the process of this pursuit, you will definitely lose yourself and take on a "kneeling licking" posture without you being completely aware of it.
If you still can't catch up, you are even more unwilling and keep the vicious circle going on.
In fact, whether you like it or not, I don't know, it is possible that the like has long since deteriorated, but it is driven by obsession.
So the reason is very simple, if you think that girls are chasing, then you are easy to become a licking dog, and even doomed to become a licking dog. The more this happens, the more counterproductive the result, the more the result is not as desired, and the more you will be willing to meet the situation, the vicious circle.
We must believe that love is not chased, and the so-called pursuit process is actually the process of mutual understanding and determining emotional choices.
Before that, two people are mutually affectionate, have already had a good feeling, and have the intention to be together, and then through a period of contact and observation, determine the final choice.
02
Love is not chased, "kneeling and licking" to the end, there is no good result, it is difficult to escape six possibilities.
1, look down on you.
Women are never moved by men's "kneeling and licking", but they all look down on such men and despise them in their hearts. Only men who can maintain a generous attitude can make them look up and be curious.
Always remember that a woman's love for a man always has to be a little adoring.
In the process of "kneeling and licking" a woman, you will definitely lose your principles, bottom line, dignity, no man's spirit and bloodiness, and what is attractive to her.
2, not worthy of her.
The better for a woman, the more it will make her feel that you don't deserve him. At the same time, you will fantasize in your mind that the next person you meet will be better, better for yourself, and then not take you seriously.
Gradually show a condescending attitude, ignore you, and then the temper becomes bigger and bigger, unscrupulous, do whatever you want, and do things according to your own mood.
3, the value of the squeeze dry.
She will become dissatisfied, have more and more demands on you, and keep asking you until her value is squeezed dry, not even the spare tire.
Anyway, she can enjoy everything you have for free, including material contributions, and simply use your emotions to satisfy her own unearned gains. Desire is endless, and there will inevitably be more demanding requirements in order to get better enjoyment and take advantage of yourself.
4, very self-respecting.
You can't restrain her, without any scruples, including not being afraid of hurting you, not being afraid of losing you. This is all because you can give everything she wants, you can make any request, you can agree, and you can forgive any mistake.
Over time, you will become do whatever you want, do not care about your feelings, but also feel that you are right, no matter what, you will accept her.
You can't restrain her, and she doesn't want to restrain herself, so it's easy to indulge yourself.
5. Injured yourself.
Because of your "kneeling licking", she becomes more and more selfish, more and more greedy, and eventually makes a mess of you and hurts you. This has a great impact on your emotions and psychology, and even affects your view of love for a lifetime.
Eventually lose the vision of love, become more and more inferior to themselves, in the future days, even if you meet someone you like, you dare not pursue, or psychological distortion, become dark and paranoid.
I am afraid of repeating the same mistakes, and this emotional trauma may take many years to heal.
6. Nothing.
Licking to the end of nothing, this is an extremely common situation, it is impossible to hold a beautiful person, the longer you pursue, the more you feel tired.
Even if you are a good choice, she has lost curiosity and freshness about you, preferring to choose someone who is not as good as you, but can make her feel fresh. So in the end, it usually ends with "nothing", the pay that should be paid, the one that should not be paid is also paid, and nothing is left, except for the scars.
03
So know that love is attracted, always attracted, only because you are attractive, the other party will be willing to pay for you, responsible for you.
What is the beginning of a relationship?
It is a strong psychological desire to be close to each other emotionally aroused by the good feelings of appearance and personality.
Even if she pursues it hard, it is just a choice for her to weigh the pros and cons, which is a good choice in the moment. In fact, she is still indifferent to your feelings and shows a very strong personality, gradually making the relationship unequal.
In the future, if you encounter a better choice, you will certainly not hesitate to abandon you, because you have never occupied a unique position in her spiritual world.
If you want to harvest beautiful love, you can only start from yourself, rely on your own personality charm to attract her, and don't behave so humblely. Even if you can't attract her, it's nothing, because no matter how good people are, they can't attract all the opposite sex, and they have to have the right attitude.
Where there is no herb at the end of the world, generous, no big deal, the more you can maintain a generous attitude, in fact, the more attractive to women. The lower the performance, the more you will be looked down upon, and then there is personality charm, you can't show it.
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