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Keigo Higashino wrote in "Relief Grocery Store": "How fragile the bond between people is. ”
Feelings are like a mirror, as long as it is broken, it cannot be reunited; feelings are like a bubble, mostly virtual, rarely real; feelings are like all year round, and they will change at a certain time.
Is the camaraderie between people really reliable?
On an idealized level, friendship is indeed the most beautiful thing in human beings. People who can have a long-term friendship are definitely the ones who saved the galaxy in their previous lives.
On a realistic level, friendships are often unreliable. Today it may be your attachment to me, tomorrow it may be the hatred of the enemy. Everything will change.
Take the relatives, classmates and friends in life, do you think these feelings are worth our trust?
Someone once said, "Don't trust any feeling easily, but you can enjoy it when it's strong." ”
All feelings have a day when they fade, and all we can do is cherish the warm minutes and seconds. Of course, if it is destined to be hypocritical, then we don't need to cherish it too much, just let it go.
02
The so-called kinship is often particularly shallow.
Someone once said that relatives are just a bunch of familiar strangers.
Because we have a certain blood relationship with it, we are particularly familiar with it. However, because we do not have much contact with them and are prone to conflicts, relatives can most likely only be counted as strangers.
To treat relatives, we must have the affection of relatives. And to treat strangers, there is another set of practices. When the two identities of relatives and strangers are combined, I believe that many people will be helpless and do not know how to deal with it.
Some people choose to blindly be good to others, eager to dig out their hearts and lungs, and give all their wealth to others, so what is it? It can only be regarded as the naïve ignorance of the self.
Some people choose to keep a certain distance, not to get too close to others, both to save themselves and respect others, anyway, kill two birds with one stone, why not enjoy it?
You know, in this shallow human world, the better you treat others, the more others will hurt you. The so-called "I would have set my heart on the bright moon, but the bright moon shone in the ditch" is this truth.
No matter what relatives you treat, it's almost enough, too deep into the drama, it will hurt you.
03
The so-called classmate affection is often particularly shallow.
What is a classmate? It's a student from the same school. Of course, we can have another explanation—the stranger who is forced to be bound to an environment and has to know you.
Like the feelings between classmates, in fact, it is particularly contradictory, you say it is not good, but you and him are very good brothers or sisters when they are young; you say well, but after graduation, they will go their separate ways, and then later, even if they meet again, they will become strangers.
When we are young, we will pay special attention to the so-called classmate feelings, thinking that there are two brothers in a lifetime, and two sisters in a lifetime. However, all ideas are nothing more than our wishful thinking.
When we are a certain age, or have been beaten by society, we will naturally clearly realize that all feelings are just a drama, and we sing you on the stage, each wearing an impenetrable mask, which is meaningless.
Just like the so-called twenty-year class reunion, thirty-year class reunion, you and I see each other again, and after all, we don't know each other, we can only joke with each other, and then leave in a hurry, and see you again.
As a person, there is no need to regard the so-called classmate feelings as too important, what should be cherished, we should naturally cherish, and should not cherish, even if we are close in the past, we may wish each other well and respect each other.
04
The so-called friendship is often particularly shallow.
We may wish to think about the question, what is a true "friend"?
True friends should be close friends and confidants who accompany us, walk forward with us, and help each other, not fox friends at the wine table.
However, in today's world, there are too many fox friends and too few confidants. To put it mildly, some people have never met a close friend in their lifetime, and how can they talk about enjoying the feelings of friends?
The most hypocritical feeling in this world is the love of friends who play every scene. You always lie to me, and I have been lying to you, both sides cheating, and consuming energy and time, especially worthless.
Some people see others ascending, and they regard others as friends, full of flattery, unnecessary.
Some people see that others have money, and they desperately approach others and make friends with others, which is very humble.
Some people see others' traces, and they regard others as their true friends, without emotion, really cheap.
Therefore, it is better to treat those who do not have the love of friends and abandon them fiercely, there is no need to be too entangled.
05
Write to the end
Speaking of this, I believe many people will say that if even relatives, classmates and friends are not real, then we will not live like a lonely family?
Life is a process of constantly living lonely. Like sheep and lone wolves in the animal kingdom, sheep will always want to fit in, and then wait to be eaten by wolves. Only a lone wolf will dwell in the mountains and forests and become a true overlord.
I remembered the sentence: "Knowing that if we lean on the past, we will be hurt, but we still insist on going our own way, and we can't blame others for the injury." ”
As a person, there is no need to overly entangle worthless feelings. You are enthusiastic, I am also enthusiastic, and you are thin, then I am also thin, do not owe each other, since then for the boundary. That's all.
Wen/Shushan has deer