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01. Preface
The encounter between people is like an invisible spider web.
Shakespeare said, "Friends must be in harmony with each other, so that you can say that they are true friendships." ”
A person's view of choosing friends determines the temperature of his life.
People live a lifetime, will have a very close relationship with many people, lovers, relatives and friends, can make the heart feel the temperature of happiness.
However, not all friends will treat each other sincerely.
In life, there will always be some people who mock you, hurt you, and look down on you. Life is short, meet friends who do not blend in, to stay away as soon as possible.
Especially in the old age, people must learn to choose friends. Because, without energy and time, it is consumed in a low-quality person.
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On the road of life, what kind of friends to make determines the quality of life.
Qiao Zuwang in "Children of the Qiao Family", when he was young, did not work well, and when he was old, he always hoped that his sons and daughters would give him the best care.
He calculated the neighbors and lost all the money of the neighbors, but he left. It is precisely because of his poor character that everyone shouts and beats him like a street rat. So much so that, in his later years, there was no one to take care of him.
Later, in his later years, he wanted to find a nanny to take care of him. I met a friend I had known before, so I asked her to come to the house as a nanny.
Unexpectedly, the nanny was crying poor and calculating, trying to cheat Qiao Zuwang's house and money away. In the end, Qiao Zuwang even gave up his own room and was tortured by illness in the living room until he died.
In this life, in his old age, he should no longer put himself in a state of being calculated.
Stay away from people who always give you trouble, away from those who are full of calculations in their hearts, away from people who are inconsistent. When people are old, giving themselves a quiet living space will be a lot less worry and more happiness and fun in life.
In old age, people should be good people and do not do things that hurt others; choose friends well, and do not easily make low-quality friends.
People are old, rich or poor, away from the three types of "unwholesome" people.
1: Relatives who like to cry poor
When people get old, you will see that some relatives are actually low-quality relatives. For example, a relative who loves to cry poor, but never tries to change.
Relatives who like to cry poor, live in negative energy, and always desire to get help and recognition by complaining and winning the sympathy of others.
As the saying goes, "There must be pity for the poor." ”
People who like to cry poor are divided into two kinds of people. The former is really poor and cries poor in order to get help from others; the latter, who has money, but is afraid of others asking him to borrow money.
Really poor, it is likely to be delicious and lazy to do, have become accustomed to reaching out for money, do not work hard, there is no upward motivation at all.
Having money and crying poor is a kind of "poverty of heart." I just want to live with my own money and don't want to help anyone.
Whether it is relatives or friends, we must pay attention to etiquette. People who like to cry poor, affection is often weak, such people, do not pay.
2: A friend who loves to calculate
Friends who love to calculate, the most important interests, the heart is cold.
With people who love to calculate, you will not feel happy, but will be afraid. Interacting with people who love to calculate, they will also become calculating and live very tired.
Because, interacting with people who love to calculate, it is easy to suffer losses, and occasionally let the other party help him, he will try to find more things.
People who love to calculate, take "interests" as the most important, and their feelings are weak. People are old, and it is often difficult to keep their money when they interact with people who love to calculate.
Money, in old age, is the guarantee of life. Staying away from calculating friends is often easier to hold on to your money.
In the old age, it is necessary to screen the people around you, to the people who love to calculate, the people who like to covet small and cheap, and the groups that always bring negative energy, and they must know how to break away.
People are old, less than the people who love to calculate, and their hearts will be less calculated, so that life will be more quiet and peaceful.
3: The person who taunts you behind your back
In old age, a peaceful life is very important. However, if you are not careful in choosing friends, it will lead to repeated ups and downs in your emotions and exhaustion.
People are old, stay away early, always slander your people behind your back. Especially, people who like to taunt you behind your back.
People who like to satirize you, in fact, look down on you from the heart. In his eyes, no matter how many advantages you have, no matter how good your life is, he will not truly recognize you and bless you from the bottom of his heart.
People who like to taunt you not only do not approve of you, but also like to go around slandering you and damaging your reputation. You don't have to have a deep friendship with someone who looks down on you, and you don't have to have a heart-to-heart relationship with someone who likes to satirize you.
Because, no matter how rich you are and how well you live, people who love to satirize you don't see your good points.
Life is alive, life is your own, you don't have to prove it to anyone. Living your own life is a kind of happiness. People are old, stay away from the people who are mocking you behind your back, and let yourself live quietly.
3. Summary
People in old age, time can not be retained, whether you are poor or rich, please cherish the people who treat you well.
Sanmao said: "I don't have time to be seriously young, and when I understand it, I can only grow old seriously." ”
Treat those "true friends" well, and be sincere to those who are truly in fellowship and true in each other. Because, from them, you will make your life in your later years no longer lonely.
Time is precious, no one can keep the years, do not waste it for no reason. When people are old, don't waste time and energy on low-quality social interactions.
When you are old, be kind to those who are genuinely kind to you, and cherish the people you care about. Live your life well and allow yourself to have a high quality of old age.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.