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People have passed fifty, known the Destiny, gone through their youth, and seen all kinds of things in the world.
As we get older, our minds should become more and more mature, and after half a hundred years, our internal psychology should become more and more peaceful.
We should try to compete with people for as little as possible, regardless of gains and losses, in order to live a kind of elegant temperament and an ideal realm.
Therefore, after the age of fifty, no matter how big or small you are, if you want to achieve a satisfactory state of life, try not to live in the following three ways.
1, consumption life, waste of time
Someone once said: I would rather be sad and profound than happy superficial.
Deeply believed, people live for a lifetime, but in just a few decades, the preciousness of time, needless to say, wasting time on meaningless things, is a useless consumption.
The so-called expendable life is to spend energy on things that only output and do not import, which not only consumes time, but also consumes lifestyles and behaviors in terms of emotions, physical strength, and health.
Such a lifestyle can often make people have a short period of pleasure, but then feel empty inside.
For example: alcoholism, gambling, long-term mobile phone brushing, useless socializing, etc., are all consumptive lifestyles, and the longer such a state of life lasts, the more negative people are.
In the TV series "Children of the Qiao Family", Qiao Zuwang is such a person, he likes to gather people to play mahjong and gamble money from a young age, gambling day and night, and even when his wife is in labor and her life is in danger, he is still at the card table.
The few friends Qiao Zuwang made on the poker game were also unkind and unjust, some taking advantage of the opportunity to bully his daughter, and some cheating him of money.
The reason why he always encountered such people and such things was inseparable from his own cognition, and he never seriously thought about what he should do and what kind of responsibility he should bear for his family and his wife and children.
Qiao Zuwang's greatest pleasure is to finish playing mahjong, carrying small wine and small dishes, and going home to enjoy.
He was disrespected in the hearts of the children, and the lowest pastime he loved made it impossible for him to do anything decent anymore, because he was used to it.
Consumption-oriented life consumes not only time and life, but also human energy and enthusiasm for life.
2. Dependent survival drags down children
No matter what age a person is, he should try to remain self-reliant, even if he is old.
As the saying goes, raising children to prevent old age, this is no problem, the problem is that you can't use your children as an excuse for you not to work hard, and you shouldn't use your children as your own cash machine.
Obviously, Qiao Zuwang is such a person, he never wanted to do something down-to-earth, all his life was opportunistic, he first wanted to get rich on the gambling table, then he wanted to turn around by raising funds, and then he fell in love with buying lottery tickets.
After repeatedly planting his head on these unreliable things, he locked his eyes on the children again.
When Qiao Zuwang was laid off, he was not very old, but he was idle all day, did not do anything seriously, and after his children grew up, he began to reach out to them for money.
He not only asked the children for living expenses, but also made the children who lived at home pay the rent, and he seemed to have made his life a real dependent way of living.
Under normal circumstances, when children grow up, they will honor their parents, even if you have your own income, they will do their part.
However, you can't have the idea of getting something for nothing from yourself, you shouldn't feel that your children should provide for you unconditionally, and you shouldn't become a burden on your children because of this.
Therefore, try to make more money by your own efforts, and you who are self-reliant are both a role model for your children and your own confidence.
Fifty years old, completely self-sufficient, far better than reaching out to a child, living decently and with dignity.
3. Gossip-style dating, harming others and harming oneself
When a person reaches fifty, he should understand many truths, and he should know the importance of doing things, understand the measure, and cannot open his mouth and be overjoyed.
Especially in interpersonal communication, do not randomly evaluate the rights and wrongs of others, the length of the Taoist people, and you cannot gossip about each other.
The so-called evil comes out of the mouth, which is the truth, and it is prudent to be wise in words and deeds.
Interacting with people, you are sincere, communicating with people, increasing your knowledge, avoid gossip-style dating, no harm is beneficial, and harm others and harm yourself.
The book "The Road Less People Walk" writes: People can refuse anything, but absolutely can not refuse to mature, refuse to mature, in fact, is to avoid problems, escape pain, avoid problems and escape the trend of pain, is the root cause of human mental illness, if not dealt with in time, you will pay a heavy price for this, bear greater pain, mental maturity can not be achieved overnight, it is a difficult journey.
No matter how old we are, we are still walking on the journey of life, and we should not give up.
At the age of fifty, at the best age of our lives, we have faded our youth and become mature; although we are no longer young, but we are not yet in our twilight years, we still have vitality and ideas.
Children have grown up, we can put more time and energy on the things we love, more broaden our horizons, more insights, life goes on, learning more.
Around the world, many people have achieved their achievements after the age of fifty.
Therefore, whether you have the ability before or not, take today as a starting point, refuse to consume life, do not rely on children to survive, do not make friends, insist on reading, exercise, and believe that you can live fifty years old into a different scenery.