Among the many vivid characters in "Dream of the Red Chamber", there are only a few who are truly long-lived, Liu Grandma is Shou Kui, and Jia Mu is second.
"The village elders always talk about the river, and the brother is looking for the root cause" In the middle of the time, when Liu Grandma entered the Rongguo Mansion for the second time, Jia Mu asked How old Grandma Liu was, and Grandma Liu got up and replied: "I am 75 years old this year." Jia Mu said to the crowd: "At such an old age, I am still so tough." It's a few years older than me! ”
Jia Mu died at the age of 83, and when she "returned to the mansion at the end of her life", Grandma Liu was still alive, and even later she ran to rescue Sister Qiao, and her thinking and actions did not see the old dragon clock. Although Jia Mu and Grandma Liu are both rare old women, but there is a huge disparity in origin, one is a rich and wealthy family, the other is a poor peasant family, the reason why they live a long life, there is a common point, is a "happy" word, a quiet and open-minded personality, can think openly when things happen, have a good attitude.
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Idyllic and idyllic
Jia Mu married from the historian of "three hundred miles of Afang Palace, unable to live in a history of Jinling", to the Jia family of "white jade for Tang Jin to make horses", and lived a life of glory and wealth, dressed in gold and jade. She herself said: "In the more than sixty years since I came to your house, I have seen what I should see and eaten." ”
Although Jia Mu was in a wealthy position, she was very idyllic and contrived, not like Wang Xifeng,not like Lin Daiyu's sentimentality, not like You Sanjie's fierce and strong, not like Jia Yingchun's weakness and cowardice. For the daily affairs of Jia Fu, everything is no big or small, and all let Feng Jie take care of it. She herself said: "Don't care if you are happy, talk and laugh, and raise your body." "In fact, after people get old, they should pay more attention to their diet and living, good health, and tranquility is also a good way to delay aging."
There are three states in life, pessimism, optimism and dashan. Pessimistic people look at the world at the foot of the mountain and only see the nether path; optimistic people look at the world on the mountainside and see the willows and dark flowers; people who look at the world on the top of the mountain see the sky and the earth. Daguan is open-minded and optimistic, whether in good times or bad times, in the face of success or failure, you can do "not to be good with things, not to be sad with yourself", good or bad can be afforded and put down.
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Young mindset
Although Jia Mu is old, she has a young mentality and loves to be lively. She used to say, "I'm a person who loves happiness, and I can chew two bites and sleep." When I was bored, I laughed with these grandchildren and it was over. "Every festival, Jia Mu and her juniors will hang out in the Grand View Garden, watch plays, have fun, relax their hearts, talk and laugh. Jia's mother is a junior, one is to enjoy the joy of heaven, the other is that the young people are full of blood and have a lot of fun, and being with them makes her own mood also adjusted.
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Charity for the sake of nostalgia
Although Jia Mu was the elder of the feudal family, she "pitied the poor and the elderly, and the monks gave alms" and cherished charity. When Grandma Liu entered the Rongguo Mansion for the second time, Jia Mu accompanied her on a tour of the Grand View Garden, and the land under the Xiaoxiang Pavilion was covered with moss, and Grandma Liu did not take the stone YongDao, but she took the land, but unexpectedly, "Gollum" fell and fell, and everyone clapped their hands and laughed. Jia Mu laughed and scolded: "Little hooves, don't pull up, just stand and laugh!" After Grandma Liu got up, Jia Mu asked her, "Can you twist your waist?" Tell the ladies to pound. ”
Once, when the incense was burned in the Qing Void Temple, xiao Daoist accidentally bumped into Sister Feng and was chased, and Jia Mu hurriedly drank and said, "Don't scare him, if you are scared or scared of the strange and pitiful, won't he be in pain?" He ordered someone to give the little Daoist a few money to buy fruit to eat, and also explained, "Don't make it difficult for people to be for him." Watching the play until late at night during the Lantern Festival, Jia Mu ordered "the play to be suspended, and the children who saw it pitifully also gave them some hot soup to eat and sing again."
People with good hearts can delay aging. Confucius said that "the benevolent person lives" (Analects of Yongye) and "great virtue will attain its longevity" (Zhongyong). Kindness in heart and helping others can make the spirit comforted, the psychology balanced, and conducive to promoting and maintaining physical and mental health.
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Contentment is always happy
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Shou Kui Liu Grandma is a poor farmer, simple and kind, and her longevity is content and happy, optimistic and cheerful, in her own words: "How big a bowl to eat." "Contentment is a positive pursuit of life. In ancient times on the mainland, there was a saying that "the cloth is warm like a brocade, and the coarse tea and light rice are also sweet". Contentment and happiness make people safe in their walk, safe in sitting, safe in poverty, and safe in suffering. Contentment and constant happiness are not resigned to fate, but in the people, and the success is in the heavens.
"Jia Baoyu first tried the clouds and rain, and as soon as Grandma Liu entered the Rongguo Mansion," he wrote in a reply that at the end of the autumn and early winter of this year, the weather was getting colder, and Liu Bao's son-in-law Wang Dog was sitting in a poor village, and there was still no food and clothing for the winter. At a moment when she was at a loss, Grandma Liu came up with the idea of going to rongguo mansion and said, "We have found it, and with the blessing of the bodhisattva, some opportunities are unknown." Qiang pulled up the former relationship with the Jinling royal family, and dragged his grandson Ban'er early the next morning to "pick up the old face to try his luck." After hard work, he brought back twenty-two pieces of silver, enough for the farmers to eat for a year. It can be seen that even if Grandma Liu's family road is difficult, she does not complain about the world, is open-minded, does not compare, is active and enterprising, and enjoys it.
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Free humor
Grandma Liu has a good psychological quality, even if she is in the Houmen wang clan, she is not blindly inferior. When the second person entered the Rongguo Mansion, even if Sister Feng and Mandarin Duck made fun of her, she still wisely and open-mindedly said: "Let's coax the old lady to open her heart, what is the annoyance!" You tell me first, and I'll understand, but everyone makes a joke. ”
Sister Feng took a plate of flowers and planted a full head for Grandma Liu, and Jia Mu couldn't look at it anymore and said, "You see she dressed you up as an old goblin." Grandma Liu immediately smiled and said, "Although I am old, when I was young, I was also affectionate, and I loved a flower powder, so I will simply be an old man today!" "Her generosity, her freedom and open-mindedness are evident.
Grandma Liu is witty, humorous, and cheerful. When the second time she entered the Rongguo Mansion, Jia Mu invited her to the feast, and she blurted out: "Old Liu, old Liu, eat as much as an ox, eat an old sow without looking up." "I drummed my cheeks and didn't laugh, but I could cause people up and down to laugh, some spraying rice, some spraying tea, and some rubbing their stomachs. Grandma Liu brings joy to everyone, but also makes her mood happy. Humor is a great way for older people to stay in a good mood, healthy and long-lived.
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Zhi En Tu Bao
In addition to being content, dutiful, tolerant, and enterprising, Grandma Liu also knows how to repay the favor. "Zhongxiang Kui Baoyu but dust fate, Mu Emperor EnJia family Yan Shize" In the middle of the time, the Jia family fell, the disasters continued, the loved ones and friends all turned their faces, the birds flew into the forest, and Sister Qiao faced the doom of being sold by the "fox uncle and adulterous brother". At this moment of crisis, Madame Wang was helpless, and Ping'er had nothing to do but cry. At this time, Grandma Liu happened to arrive, and after listening to the ins and outs, she said: "What is so difficult about this, no one will let them know, and it will be over as soon as it is thrown away." ”
Among the relatives and friends, only Liu Grandma was righteous, and although she was more than 80 years old, she still ran back and forth to rescue Sister Qiao and take her to the countryside. It is really "defeated and noble, and the family is dead." Occasionally, because of the Liu clan, I happened to meet a benefactor." It can be seen that Grandma Liu saved people from danger, and the good moral character and healthy psychological quality of Zhi En Tu Bao.
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Fun comes first
As mentioned above, both Jia Mu and Grandma Liu have achieved "the way of nature and the cultivation of nature." "In terms of living environment, the rural fields are the place where Grandma Liu lives and works, while Jia Mu lives in a deep mansion compound, a rich family with a group of slaves. The key is to go your separate ways and go with the flow. They enjoy it and are content. Grandma Liu is seeking pleasure in poverty, and Jia Mu is seeking pleasure in happiness and forgetting worries. As long as the mentality is balanced, no matter what the objective conditions such as food, clothing, housing, and transportation, maintain a normal mind, and always feel comfortable and comfortable.
Jia Mu and Grandma Liu's longevity path of taking music as the first also has some enlightenment for today's elderly people, who should pay attention to their spiritual life, as long as they seek and develop, they can achieve happiness in the old age. Happiness is sought in the heart, and life is born in happiness.
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