Text/Confucian everyone cherry
"A gentleman is knowledgeable in literature and is courteous." A gentleman must not only be knowledgeable, but also know etiquette, and only then can he be educated.
Good upbringing is the wealth of a person's life, to be a cultured person, let people like a spring breeze, they can harvest the beauty of life.
Upbringing is not innate, but nurtured. Parenting is not illusory, it is hidden in every detail of life.
The force of closing the door
The greatest upbringing of human beings is to have a heart that is always thinking about others. Parenting is always reflected in the subtlest places, such as the eyes, sitting posture, and opening and closing the door.
There is a detail in the movie "The Dream of the Covered Bridge", the hostess's husband and children always close the door loudly, it is useless to say anything, she has not understood why she said what they did not change. It wasn't until later that she met a photographer who was polite and would gently close the door every time she went out. This shows the difference.
One is that he will only make himself comfortable as he pleases, and the other knows how to make others as comfortable as possible.
When you open the door, wait to see if there is anyone behind you, which is considerate to the people who come after you; when you close the door, it is a respect for the people in the house to be lighter and not make a loud noise.
"Opening the door" and "closing the door" is a small thing, some people always pay attention, some people do not care. But it is such a small thing that can reflect whether a person will think about others and know how to respect others.
Speak in a measured manner
A gentleman is sensitive to words and sensitive to deeds. Truly cultured people must think twice.
There is a cloud in the "Vegetable Root Tan": "It is better to make people have the joy of first friendship than to make people tired for a long time." "Speaking to know the right way, doing things to know how to move forward and backward, in order to make others feel happy when they first know you, and have been with you for a long time, and they don't feel bored."
As soon as some people open their mouths, they can make people feel like a spring breeze; while when some people open their mouths, they hurt people like a man on their backs.
Truly wise people speak very carefully. For things that you don't know, you will never pretend to understand and talk nonsense; you must be rational about the things you know, and be silent at the right time.
The amount of talking more and less does not determine the level of a person's ability, and the sense of proportion of speaking and the character and education revealed by the subtleties are the winning points of a person.
Grasping the measure of speaking not only pleases yourself, but also warms others.
The habit of punctuality
Lu Xun said: "Life is based on time, wasting other people's time is equivalent to seeking wealth and killing people; wasting one's own time is equivalent to chronic suicide." ”
Time is money, whether it's your own or someone else's.
If you are late or break the appointment for no reason, waste the other party's time, and even have not half apologized afterwards, this is actually no education. Every delay is actually an overdraft of one's own character and credibility.
Adults are punctual, and they keep a rhythm of life. Everyone's rhythm of life deserves to be respected, not disturbing the rhythm of others is cultivation, and not letting others disturb their own rhythm is the skill.
Maintaining your own rhythm and living a balanced life is the realm of life.
Received will reply
There will always be people who think that some messages received are "just see it, don't reply", but they ignore the anxious waiting mood of the person who sent the message.
"Timely reply" is a small detail, but it can reflect a person's character cultivation.
I remember a university professor who was respected by all students, and he taught many classes, but he would remember the name of each classmate. No matter when you ask him questions, even if he can't be busy at the time, he will always be able to reply to messages after a while.
Email him and always reply within 12 hours, or he will automatically leave a message: "Sorry, I'm in a certain place, your email I will reply on a certain day of a certain month", and the time he will reply to the email will also be the morning of the agreed day.
"Give someone an answer, this is respect for you, but also my responsibility." When it is time to reply, reply according to the priorities of the matter. Timely reply at work will not affect the work process; timely reply in life will not worry the family.
Receiving the message will be replied in time, it seems to be a simple small thing, just a few words, do not need to spend too much, but reflected, but it is a person's sense of responsibility.
Diane said: "Nurturing this thing is like a blood vessel, it can grow intricately in the deepest part of a person's flesh and blood, inseparable. ”
The details are seen in people's upbringing. These little things that happen all the time in life, some people pay attention to them all the time, and some people don't care. But it is such a small thing that best reflects a person's upbringing, attitude and habits.
Details determine fate, and the difference between a thousand and a thousand miles is lost. Many times it may not only refer to success or failure, but to see a person's cultivation from these details, and often cultivation is the most fatal factor that determines a person's long and short.