When people reach middle age, some people are radiant, and some people are rusty.
If you compare yourself with others, you will find that the gap between people is not generally large, but outrageously large.
The Sutra of Tranquility says, "Man is good and clear, but his heart is disturbed; his heart is quiet, and he wants to hold him." ”
A person is restless because there are too many thoughts and desires, but too little ability. If you want to calm down, either quit your desire or realize it.
The middle-aged man who can live more and more calmly is often a high person in a certain aspect, and his level has surpassed that of his peers. The reason why he is able to make trouble is because when chasing desire, he has a lot of superiority, and the reasons are generally the following four.
01
The money in your pocket is the confidence of being a person.
When people reach middle age, how can they not talk about money? Chai rice oil and salt, childbearing, supporting parents, everything is short of money.
Guo Degang said: "People live for fame and fortune, which is very good, I am just to make money." I eat well, dress well, and live a good life, so that I can talk well. If someone throws a hundred million out, I will say crosstalk every day and do nothing. ”
Make money hard, try to cut the door, and when the wallet bulges, you will find that life is really good. Perhaps, 80% of the problems can be solved with money, if not, it may not be enough money.
In Zhihuli, someone asked: "Do you still need to go to work with 2 million in hand?" ”
GaoZan's answer was: "Wait until you have 20 million to talk about the problem of not going to work." ”
Money is the basis of being a person, like a big shed, shielding itself from the wind and rain, and all disasters are blocked. The ancients said, "Destroy the wealth and eliminate the disaster." That's the way it is.
When a person has nothing in his pocket, even if he holds a mobile phone, he cannot open it - because he cannot afford to pay the traffic fee.
When a person has money, he has more courage, less trouble, more opportunities, and more times when he is concerned, he will naturally live calmly.
02
Going home and having someone to love is the root of a gentle heart.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun married a rich husband, and since he got married, he has not done anything and worked as a full-time wife at home.
Later, as soon as her husband turned around and fell in love with someone else, she had to re-enter society and look for work everywhere. In order to have a warm family, she fell in love with her girlfriend, and although she got the understanding of her girlfriend, she could not avoid being scolded a few times.
Money can solve many problems, but "true love" is often not among them. The love that you spend money to buy will eventually lose to money.
For a middle-aged man, family is his backing. After work, I saw a hot meal on the table, heard the laughter of the children, and the tiredness of the day was less than half.
No matter how many friends you have, how many places you can go to drink and sing, you still have to go home in the middle of the night. People lying in hotels, although there are people waiting, but they can also be particularly lonely.
There is a song that sings: "There is half of me in the military merit badge, and there is also half of you." ”
A very calm person, he must not be alone, but have a family to support him, to protect him.
03
Treating people very kindly is a great embodiment of the pattern.
Have a pony and befriend a bug.
One day, the pony asked, "Do you think the snow in winter is beautiful?" ”
The bug was dazed and didn't know how to answer. Pony thinks that Bugs is dishonest and unfit to be friends, so he goes home alone.
The old horse said, "Bugs can never survive the winter, how can you ask such a question?" ”
The pony thought about it and was relieved.
The ancients said: "Summer insects cannot be spoken of, and cockroaches do not know spring and autumn." ”
Respect the differences of others, do not argue with stupid people, do not care about bad people and bad things, and life becomes calm.
Your heart is as big as the sea, then ships, sharks, turtles, corals... will be free to come and go in your world. Even a storm can't affect your life.
Dr. Luo Zhenyu resigned from CCTV in 2008 to become a freelancer.
Once, the other party asked openly, "Are you mixing well outside?" ”
He said: "If you don't go out, you don't know how wonderful it is outside, and if you don't go out, you don't know who gave your life." ”
The larger a person's pattern, the freer he lives, and anything, for him, is just a piece of cake. Therefore, he lives calmly, never has a ceiling on life, and will not be swayed by others.
04
Doing things without haste is a sign of strict self-discipline.
There is a question: what do you do when you are in a bad mood?
Most people will answer: go to eat a meal, eat until you are good; drink, a drunken party to rest; find someone to chat, complain about the pain; lie down, do nothing...
A person who is really calm, it is difficult for you to see his "face", how the mood is, there will be no obvious signs.
The ancients said: "Soldiers will come to block, water will come to cover." "As long as there is enough faith to face the dilemma, then the mood is not good, that is, it is something that has been expected."
Those who seem to go with the flow are actually following the trend - they can bend and stretch their husbands, and they can go against the grain and become big things.
Plans can never catch up with change, but change is fixed and can be within certain ranges.
Let's say you do something and start with two sets of plans – success and failure. Whatever the outcome, it was predicted.
A person, the more self-disciplined, the more free. Middle-aged people who look calm, have "self-discipline" behind them that you don't know. His firmness has long suppressed his emotions.
05
Ray Dalio, known as the "Jobs of finance", pointed out in his book "Principles": "No matter how the world changes, you can always summarize your principles and achieve success and happiness by constantly summarizing your principles." ”
God won't let anyone go nowhere, it's just that your current path is not good. More importantly, whether you are willing to go on, whether you can walk calmly and calmly.
I have seen such a sentence: "A person can mute himself, and he has a natural sound in his heart." ”
People reach middle age, the rest of their lives and long, walk slowly, do not panic, is the flower will only be fragrant.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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