Impatient children, all have aura and understanding
Source of this article: Pao Dad Talks About Knowledge (ID: paobazhishi)
Raise an impatient child, and you will see a series of related problems in him, impetuous, unsteady, impatient, emotional, hairy, coarse, thick leaves.
These problems often annoy you. It makes you worry even more: are these hidden dangers of his growth, will they become obstacles to his life?
As a parent, you feel that you must help him change.
The way to change is naturally to constrain and set rules, at least, the rules that other children can abide by, he should also do. However, when the rules were set, he often couldn't do it, or he couldn't do it for several days.
What to do? It seems to have to be punished. No more, I had to increase the punishment and let him have a longer memory.
There are usually three kinds of results for such tubes:
The first is that the more you manage, the more urgent. His patience is getting worse and worse, his temper is getting more and more grumpy, and his parent-child relationship is becoming more and more tense. In extreme cases, running away from home occurs;
The second kind, really controlled, safe, calm. However, when he reached the rebellious period of about 13 years old, the days of suffering of his parents came. The repression of the past erupted at the same time, like a flood;
The third result is worse, not only is it managed, it has changed, and the reverse period has not been released, and it is quite proud as a parent. However, you know what? The inferiority and repressed personality will accompany him for the rest of his life.
So, what else can be done?
First of all, you have to understand that different people have different natures, and children are the same. Impatient children, belonging to the D nature of the following four categories of people.
What is nature?
How do children with different natures teach?
Please scroll to the bottom to find out.
Children by nature are inherently more anxious than others.
However, the impatient child, all have aura, understanding, and quickly shift their interests, which is the reason for his impatience.
The so-called "interest is the best teacher". This sentence is most appropriate for impatient children. As a smart parent, you should not only allow him to constantly transfer interests, but also take the initiative to provide him with more points of interest, and quietly help him determine the one he loves the most.
You will find that when he finds the real favorite point of interest, at least, in this interest, his problems are all gone. He began to become a child who could sit still and endure.
In fact, such a child, you can rest assured, interest will not only give him direction, but also give him grades and achievements. Moreover, only interest can be given to him. He's not the kind of kid who wins by execution, he's going to win life with ideas and creativity.
Such a child is full of desire for freedom by nature. Although he has many hobbies and seems to have a lot of things he wants to do, being able to do what he doesn't want to do is the most important thing for him.
So don't give him too many rules and tasks outside of interest. Putting on a bunch of things he didn't like, frequently reminding him that he had to get it done, would be extremely irritable, and even see the home as a cage.
If he doesn't like to learn, it must be because what he wants to learn is boring and doesn't interest him. For him, edutainment is the greatest reward and encouragement. Make those things a little more interesting; or associate those things more with entertainment; or, when he can't find the joy of learning, allow him to play more and learn less. He will definitely appreciate you.
Don't think again, "The rules that other children can follow, you must do the same." Giving him a relaxed environment is the most perfect love for him. Raising an impatient child, the best thing you can do for him is to first lower your moral standards and disciplinary standards as much as possible without affecting others.
In fact, when you complain with him in a considerate mood about the rules and disciplines that you have to abide by, he can do better.
When encountering situations where the rules are not clear, some people think: this thing is not said to be done, or do not do it. This child is different, his reaction is often: did not say no, it should be OK. Because he has curiosity, he has a passion for exploration. This curiosity, you must protect, lose this, the meaning of his life, directly lose a large half, or even all.
What is "education by nature"?
1 Different nature, different education
2 "Education in Accordance with Nature" open class
How is nature determined?
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