The all-round baby of the kindergarten, the primary school reduced to the scum, the gold medal teacher: so cultivated, the baby is still saved
Parenting has always been a problem that the public is very concerned about, and it is also a headache for every parent, hoping for a son to become a dragon, and looking forward to a daughter into a phoenix is the hope of all parents. And how many children in the real world can do it? The following is a mother's account of the education of children at home;
The cute and beautiful Juanjuan children are very popular with everyone when they are in kindergarten. However, after elementary school, her test scores were very bad and she always counted down, and her mother was very worried about her study. Teachers praise good students at parent-teacher meetings and never have her name.
After each test result was announced, she was always sullen and unhappy alone in the house, and her temper was getting worse and worse, and she would always cry loudly, and after that, she was no longer interested in studying and did not want to go to school.
Obviously, when she was in kindergarten, she would always be rated as an "all-round baby", whether it was her hands-on ability, drawing, sports, she was very good, the teacher often praised her, and her mother did not believe that she would be a bad student.
One of the walls of the home is covered with the various awards she received in kindergarten, which is a source of pride for her mother, and she always thinks that her baby will be a good child who loves to learn and develop well.
And the situation after going to primary school is very different, the daughter not only did not get good results and even studied is no longer interested, Juanjuan's mother has also reflected on the reasons for the child, many of her classmates are the same as the foundation of the previous kindergarten, is it because she was not exposed to the teaching content of the primary school in advance?
Juan's mother, who had no solution, found Juanjuan's homeroom teacher, and she confided to the teacher: "The child's basic knowledge is too lacking, but she is not unwilling to improve, she cries at home every day and wants to be the first in the class, but I really don't know how to help her at this stage." "Fortunately, Juanjuan's homeroom teacher is a responsible and good teacher, and she has her own unique educational experience for children who have just entered primary school.
Juanjuan's mother, who did not understand, could only go to her teacher to seek a solution, fortunately her teacher was a good teacher with ten years of teaching experience and a good educational experience for primary school students who had just entered the school. So he told the teacher about these problems that happened to Juanjuan
The teacher accompanied Juanjuan's mother in the office for a long time, and the teacher told Juanjuan's mother that the most important thing for a primary school student who has just started is not to absorb knowledge quickly, but to let her first learn to be full of confidence and courage in her heart.
About courage
The teacher said to Juanjuan's mother: "The main purpose of the child going to kindergarten is to cultivate curiosity and patience and enthusiasm for things, even if she does something wrong, the teacher will not criticize her, but encourage her and teach her to learn lessons and find the right way, so that she has a sense of home in kindergarten, and will no longer be afraid to face strangers."
In elementary school, she will meet more classmates, and the main job of the teacher has become to impart knowledge, so that there is not much time to pay attention to each student. Children at this time encounter difficulties and setbacks do not dare to show it, for their own knowledge does not understand nor dare to ask the teacher, slowly will be more and more lack of courage. '
About confidence
Worse and worse grades will make parents worry about their children's future development, but also make parents have a sense of shame, which will invisibly bring a lot of guilt to their children and make him have self-doubt.
Some children like Juanjuan are very popular with teachers and classmates in kindergarten, but after going to primary school, the sense of gap caused by their grades will make them lose confidence and no longer like to learn and work hard.
The teacher also said to Juanjuan's mother: "The content of the knowledge taught now is still very simple, even if you learn a high-level course, the impact on the child will not be great, even if the foundation is not good, it will slowly catch up, so now you don't have to care too much about the child's grades." ”
The teacher also said: "First of all, education is not only to let children learn the content of books on paper, but also to teach children to have courage and confidence, so that they can learn to control their emotions and be able to withstand stress." ”
After listening to the teacher's words, Juanjuan's mother finally understood what the child's problem was. At this time, the teacher took out a set of books, "Children's Emotional Management Picture Book" handed to Juanjuan's mother, a total of 6 picture books, about the cultivation of children's emotions and personality. The teacher also instructed Juanjuan's mother to take the child to read more of this set of picture books.
After this day, Juanjuan's mother will take time out of her daughter every day to read picture books with her daughter. The 6 mentalities and emotions described in it also benefit Juanjuan's mother a lot.
1. Correct your mindset and don't compete for the first
"It doesn't matter if you can't be the first", educating children as long as they try their best to become the first place is the best, and slowly Juanjuan also understands that she is not worse than others, as long as she studies hard, she will make progress, and the sense of gap in her heart over time will gradually disappear.
2. Be brave to face difficulties, and have the courage to try and have surprises
The book "I want to be more confident" teaches children to be brave in the face of difficulties, bravely face unknown difficulties, and improve self-confidence. Funny stories allow children to empathize with and face their inner cowardice.
3. Criticism is also love
The book "Mother's Criticism" teaches children to patiently listen to their mother's criticism and teach children to learn to do what they can, and Juanjuan will no longer lose her temper because of her mother's criticism.
4. Be yourself and not be afraid to laugh
The book "Not Afraid of Being Ridiculed" teaches children that what others think is right is not necessarily correct, and what they think is right should be bravely tried to do, do not care about others' doubts and ridicule.
5. Tantrums have nothing to do to make up for it, and it is better to have the strength to cry than to find a way for difficulties
"It is not difficult to control the temper" book, let the child learn to put the heart to the heart also for others to consider, encounter difficulties to learn to find their own ways not to use tantrums or crying to solve.
6. Defeat timidity
The book "Overcoming Timidity in the Heart" tells that fear and timidity are also a kind of emotion, telling children that they do not have to be nervous to try to overcome it.
And these 6 picture books will change the child will be huge, through a small story to teach the child to learn the truth and various knowledge, encounter difficulties will no longer be faced in the way of complaining and tantrums.
The set of picture books is hardcover hard-shelled, and each page is printed with color paintings and large characters with pinyin. Beautiful and beautiful picture books will be very popular with children, and can also cultivate children's ability to read independently. Parents can also read with their children to increase parent-child relationships.
At present, society is saying that children cannot lose at the starting line, but the pressure on children is also increasing exponentially. Pay attention to your child's mental health and let your child have a good childhood.