Jia Fu, who has a big family and a big career, is like the Sheng Tang Under Li Shimin' rule, extremely generous and tolerant, with open arms and welcoming visitors from all over the world. Whether it is a short stay or a long stay, a high standard of treatment is given. As a result, we see girls from different classes and with different personalities gathered in Jia Fu and deduced a life of joy or sorrow.
Among these girls, Xue Baochao was not only "too big to be the heart of the people", but also deeply loved by Jia Mu because of her "stability and peace"; Xue Baoqin caused a sensation as soon as she came, and made Jia Mu love her very much, not only forcing Lady Wang to admit her daughter, but also taking her with her to personally support her, and even moved the heart to ask for Baoyu's marriage; what is even more rare is Xing Xiuyan, Wang Xifeng, who was originally hostile to her, deliberately embarrassed her and arranged her in the most unpopular Yingchun Courtyard, only to find that she was "a very gentle and painful person", so he paid more attention to her. At the same time, her "elegant and stable" was favored by Aunt Xue, so she became Xue Tadpole's wife.
These three people all won a place in Jia Fu by virtue of their personal charm, in contrast, Lin Daiyu stayed in Jia Fu for the longest time, and she really couldn't find any attractive personal charm. Even her fans, as long as they talk about Daiyu's status in Jia Province, it is nothing more than saying that she is the granddaughter of Jia Mu and is closest to Jia Fu. When Bao Yu compared her with Bao Chao, he only said, "We are uncles and sisters, Sister Bao is two aunts and sisters, on relatives, she is more distant than you", "You come first, we two eat at one table, sleep in one bed, and grow so big." She's only just come, so why did someone alienate you for her? This means that he is close to each other by blood and the length of time they have been together.
We know that people get along with each other, putting aside utilitarian purposes, and attract each other with personal charm. The more attractive people are, the more people will be attracted to surround them.
So the question is, why does Lin Daiyu, who comes from a family of scholars, have "Wing Chun Cai" and the Seven Tricks of Linglong Heart, and has no personal charm that attracts people to be close to?
The answer is very heartfelt: entering the "peaceful and prosperous" environment of Jia Province, Dai Yu abandoned her original unique charm and became a "Chaos Demon King" who coveted enjoyment.
Entering The Daiyu of Jia Province could have brought a breeze of books to Jia Province.
Lin Daiyu's entry into Jia Mansion could have brought about a win-win situation:
For Daiyu, she had always been too lonely. The only younger brother died early, and there were only two girls in school to read together, and it was impossible to find a peer to talk to. Jia Fu has a very good learning atmosphere: there are sisters reading and exchanging together, and there are also various entertainment activities to test their knowledge. Here, if Dai Yu could focus her main energy on studying, she would be more successful than in the Lin family.
For Jia Fu, who started with martial arts, he has always wanted to transform into Wen, but he always misses the point. Although the girls have Li Feng leading the reading, Li Feng is more inclined to cultivate an only son and is not willing to spend too much energy on the sisters-in-law. The arrival of Lin Daiyu was an extremely rare opportunity for the girls of the fourth generation of Jia Province. Lin Daiyu is not only from the Shuxiang family, but also her father is Tanhua, and Jia Yucun, who was born into a scholar, gave her a year as a tutor, plus Daiyu herself is extremely intelligent, over-the-top and has strong comprehension, she can bring the Lin family's educational style into Jia Fu, integrate the inclusive environment of Jia Fu, and have the opportunity to apply what she has learned, which is enough to create the Grand View Garden into a Book Garden.
In this environment, Dai Yu can stand out with her personal charm, not only as a classmate of the sisters, but also as a teacher of the sisters, like a leader leading the sisters to make great strides in the fragrance of books.
If it is developed according to this path, the poetic society of Daguanyuan was established earlier, Yingchun will not become a marginal figure, and Xichun will not become "cold-faced and cold-hearted". That is to say, Lin Daiyu, who entered Jia Province, with her unique bookish charm, it is entirely possible to become a core soul figure and gather her sisters around her.
This is what Jia Fu lacks, and it is also what Jia Fu urgently needs. And all this does not need to be deliberately done, because the charm of people is like the light of the Big Dipper, which cannot be covered, will naturally emanate, naturally illuminate people's hearts, and thus attract people to get closer."
Dwell in the place and the stars arch". Later, Baochao, who entered Jia Province, was like this, with the charm of nature, became the King of the Grand View Garden, that is, the king in everyone's heart with the virtue of a gentleman. It's just that Baochao appeared too late, everyone has grown up, and personality has been formed.
Therefore, Dai Yu is the best candidate, she appeared in Jia Fu at the right time, and had the opportunity to bring a warm breeze full of the aroma of books to the sisters of Jia Fu.
Under the double killing of Jia Mu and Bao Yu, Dai Yu was assimilated by jia fu's "an fu honor" and no longer had personal charm to speak of.
Of course, everything described above did not happen, because Lin Daiyu, who entered Jia Province, had not yet had time to exude personal charm, and was arranged by Jia Mu to "sleep and eat, just like Baoyu", and since then she and Baoyu "sit together in the day and rest together at night", and her life has taken a turn.
Jia Mu actually attaches great importance to the cultivation of girls in the clan, from cultural knowledge to artistic accomplishment, which can be described as a comprehensive education. Unfortunately, Jia Mu originally had the insight to know people, but she could not see the value of Daiyu. Jia Mu is really a fake mother, very fake, she said in her mouth "I have these children, the one who hurts is your mother", in fact, she knows nothing about her granddaughter, so it can be seen that she does not care much about Jia Min, a daughter who is far married, and usually has very little communication.
Therefore, she traveled thousands of miles to bring Daiyu over, but did not plan Daiyu's life in advance, and only by Virtue of Baoyu's preferences, she violated the principle of "another room in the other courtyard" and arranged for Daiyu and Baoyu to live in the same room, thus artificially isolating Daiyu from Sanchun.
Pay attention to this sentence, "Jia Mu loves everything, sleeps and eats, just like Baoyu, Yingchun, Tanchun, and Xichun, the three granddaughters fall backwards and are behind", on the surface, this is Jia Mu's kindness to Daiyu, but in fact, it has established a separation wall for Daiyu and Sanchun. Just like a transfer student in the class, the teacher treats it differently, and naturally forms a faction. Until the seventy-sixth time, the book said, "Yingchun and Xichun are not very compatible with Su Ri (and Daiyu), and there is a deep gap between the most valued people and the least valued people, which can never be crossed.
In Jia Province, Bao Yu was originally a special person, so special that he was just young but became a "Chaos Demon King", good to him first, the tired things have nothing to do with him. The sisters either went to school and read or learned needlework every day, but Baoyu wandered around with nothing to do all day.
Dai Yu, who was arranged by Jia Mu to "stop and breathe together" with Bao Yu, naturally became a special person, and the good ones were given to her first, and the tired things had nothing to do with her. It is precisely because they do not have much serious work to do that they have the leisure to read idle books and be idle.
That is to say, Dai Yu, like Bao Yu, does not need to pay anything to enjoy everything. In contrast, Tanchun can be recognized by the whole province and rely entirely on his own efforts.
This is Jia Mu's killing of Daiyu, she did not see the shining point on Daiyu's body, so that Daiyu's light dimmed and there was no chance to emit it.
In addition to Jia Mu's killing, Bao Yu was also killing Dai Yu, and he couldn't see the shining point on Dai Yu's body, he only appreciated Dai Yu's sick and weak state. In the eighty texts, there is a strange phenomenon: Bao Yu likes to "miscellaneous learning side collection" and always likes to run to Xiaoxiang Hall, but he has never seen him take the initiative to discuss academic matters with Dai Yu. And the most shining thing about Daiyu is that there are poetry books in her belly. Dai Yu is full of poetry and books, and her memory is excellent, her comprehension is extremely strong, and if you want to discuss learning with her, it is endlessly interesting. However, every time they met, they either said "Xiangyu" or quarreled over "Jinyu". In every picture of the two people in the same frame, it is not clear that Dai Yu is a bookish woman.
Yes, Baoyu doesn't need Dai Yu to be literate and learned, he only cares about whether Dai Yu is the object of "chaos" in his mind. To become the object of "mixing" in Baoyu's heart, you only need to have two conditions: one is beautiful, and the other is willing to "mix" with him. Baoyu has a high self-esteem, in fact, "the grass in the abdomen was originally reckless". He can use his "miscellaneous studies" to fool those who do not learn and have no skills, but he does not dare to show off in front of the truly learned people. Therefore, the more truly learned a person is, the more he resists and stays away.
In this way, Dai Yu not only did not talk about learning in front of Bao Yu, but also removed the mind of seeking learning, and degenerated into the same "Mixed World Demon King" as Bao Yu.
This was Baoyu's killing of Daiyu.
It was under the double killing of Jia Mu and Bao Yu that Dai Yu completely abandoned the Lin family's hard-working style of study, and also abandoned her unique personal charm, becoming a member of the "An Fu Honor" team of Jia Fu.
It can be said that since entering Jia Province, Lin Daiyu has not only not grown, but also regressed in knowledge and mind, and is no longer the daughter of the Lin family who is full of the smell of books.
It also tells us not to rely too much on low-hanging fruit, because it can make us lose ourselves. The Dai Yu cultivated by the Lin family was originally a unique high-quality girl, radiant like the Big Dipper, but in the end she was killed into a vulgar powder, and everyone was lost.