Fights between children are everywhere, but as parents, it is impossible to accompany children all the time, such as when children go to kindergarten and are bullied by other classmates, what should we do as parents?
According to the survey results of the China Youth Research Center, about 90% of students have been bullied and even violent.
As the saying goes, "hit in the child's body, the pain is in the mother's heart", along with the exposure of various school bullying incidents, for people like me who have children, it is very difficult to see the picture of children being bullied, so every time you have to tell your children more, when others bully you, you have to fight back!
Many parents only emphasize to their children: be brave and fight back!
I believe that many parents will definitely educate their children to be brave enough to fight back when they are bullied! Professor Li Meijin, a professor at Chinese Min Public Security University and an expert in family education, also suggested the same.
In fact, children who like to bully others are often very inferior in their hearts and will win the attention of others through other ways, and bullying others has become the best way to get "attention". However, for parents, educating children must teach children to distinguish between right and wrong, understand what to do and what not to do.
When your child is bullied, you can't just teach him to "bravely fight back", it is more important to dare to speak out
Bullied children usually have one thing in common: thin, shy, do not like to talk, so it is easy to become the target of bullying violence, as a parent, should exercise the child's physique, strengthen the child's physical fitness, enhance the child's self-confidence and sense of security, in the face of bullying, have the courage to "fight back"!
But there is also a point to note, if the bully is so numerous that the child cannot beat it at all? Therefore, it is also necessary to teach children how to deal with this situation.
First of all, as a parent to communicate with the child more, if the child has been bullied, will have the courage to take the initiative to be frank, dare to speak out, but in reality, the child has been bullied to go home to tell his parents, but has been blindly accused, "why people do not bully others, only bully you", "why not resist" Such words, will directly hurt the child's heart and self-esteem, will only make the child become autistic, do not love to talk, and will not resist when encountering bullying.
Secondly, as a parent, you must pay attention to the child's physical strengthening exercise from an early age, avoid the child's bullying from the source, and communicate with the child more, enhance the parent-child relationship, establish a positive optimism, let the child know that mom and dad will always be your strong shield, and enhance the self-confidence in personality from the inside out.
If you are not good at communicating with children, do not know how to make children honest, then here it is recommended to accompany children to read this set of picture books - "Love expression series picture books", increase children's self-confidence and courage, the story is easy to understand, teach them in a way that children are interested in, the effect will be more obvious!
This set of books has a total of 8 volumes, covering the children's emotions in life, how to deal with the solution, take 20-30 minutes of time every day, let the children be more courageous to express themselves clearly, how to do parents in such a situation, and jointly promote the healthy growth of children.
My daughter is to read a book "Don't cry, say it clearly", that is, when encountering things, don't cry, the first time to tell it, the daughter will take the initiative to share with me the things encountered in the kindergarten every day after going to kindergarten, I will respond in a timely manner next to me, after all, as a parent, you can't accompany your child all the time, but you must understand the child's growth process and be a child's cognitive enlightenment teacher!
As a parent, do not know how to use the language that children can understand to understand the truth of life, you can try to read picture books, from small stories to teach children to grow, and this set of "Love Expression Series Picture Books", comprehensive content, rich in form, easy to understand, help children have the courage to express themselves, close the parent-child relationship, and promote the healthy and happy growth of children! It is recommended that if you have children at home, you can lead your children to read together