Have you ever shared a room?
How long is it?
Have you encountered any strange things?
When will the shared housing end?
In the era of frequent population movement, the co-living life throughout the terrain is not a gossip far away, but a daily routine of our daily life. It is wrapped in the confusion of entering the society for the first time, and the grievances of the new workplace.
How many people didn't have a room for themselves before the age of 18?
When I became an adult at the age of 18, my first chance to run away from home was to apply for a university, deliberately choose a university outside the province, and then live in a dormitory with four or six people.
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After graduating from college, we had the idea of renting our own house.
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Then, the truth is – no money, where to rent a 1 bedroom, and talk about what single apartment.
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So, share the house!
What if, like "Friends", you get together three or five friends and start a vigorous and colorful new life?
Stills from Friends
If you don't get together, maybe you can also meet colleagues who attract the same magnetic field like "The Big Bang Theory", and you can also become friends with neighbors who live on the opposite door, or boyfriend and girlfriend?
Stills from The Big Bang Theory
Taking a step back, "Love Apartment" will do the same.
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01
A bed, to achieve the leap from acquaintance to stranger
Out of instinctive self-protection, when sharing a room, nine times out of ten, they will choose their friends or classmates.
Everyone knows each other well and has a foundation of trust, how good.
If you are of the same sex, you can rent a room together and sleep in a bed, and the cost of renting can be greatly reduced.
According to the standards of Beijing's fifth and sixth ring villages, one bedroom is almost 10±3 square meters, the monthly rent ranges from 1k to 1.8k, two people AA, and the monthly rent is only three digits. If you are lucky enough to find a house that pays one for one, as long as you have two or three thousand in hand, you can wait until the first month to pay your salary, which is quite affordable.
Therefore, this shared housing model has become a new choice for many fresh graduates, of which the proportion of girls is much higher than that of boys.
"A mountain does not allow two tigers", from a biological point of view, the male gene has a stronger sense of territory, so in the "one bed sharing plan", many boys have given red cards and a tough attitude.
They said they accepted a transition of a few days at most and couldn't stand it for longer.
Xiaohong and Xiaofan are high school classmates, and after graduating from college, they both chose Beijing. Two people hit it off, a room, a bed, and a successful share.
Just stepped into the society, there is an acquaintance around, can share with each other, accompany together, very secure, very dependent on each other, feel a deeper than the friendship of classmates.
Slowly, it changed.
"The routine is too difficult to grind. Those who sleep late torture those who go to bed early, and those who get up early torture those who get up late. It's too hard to get a free night's sleep. ”
"The content of the activity was inconsistent. You're working overtime there, she's watching variety shows there; you're working nervously, she's next to you hahahaha..."
"There are also hygiene habits, someone can always put up with the mess, someone can always forget to throw away the garbage and clean up, but I can't. The result is that I did it all. After a long time, it is false to say that there is no fire in the heart. ”
"If one of them is off the list, it's even worse. The common activities on the previous weekends were basically in vain. At night, you are also forced to listen to other people's videos for more than an hour of dog food. Originally, the room is a personal space, and you can dress relatively freely, but if your roommate is opening a video, I hope you must hide yourself! Because you may be careless, the camera sweeps you - you who dig your nostrils, you who spread your cape, and even you who are not neatly dressed... Even if it's only a second, it's an annual social death scene. ”
"Who hasn't lost control of their emotions, once the two sides go to war, it's the new account and the old account together."
If you are friends above your classmates, then sharing is the touchstone of friendship.
In the past, everyone was friends, about to come out to play, hello I am good everyone, happy day, after the end of each home, each looking for each mother.
Now, in addition to work, we are tired of being together all day long, too close to each other, too clear to see, and there are always times when we have different positions and cannot understand.
"At first, the number of times two people go out together is less and less, then there is an awkwardness, or a cold war, and then it fades, and every night I go back, and I don't talk more than three sentences in total."
Acquaintances should be cautious about sharing a room, and be careful that even classmates do not have to do it.
02
Strangers, out of tune is like smoking a hidden blind box
Do not want to risk losing friends or classmates, the same city and the same area does not have the same rent demand of acquaintances, self-psychological construction is strong enough, will choose strangers to live with.
"The reality is so, there is no choice, I can only believe in the kindness of strangers."
In this case, the proportion of choosing the same room and bed sharing has dropped significantly, and most of them will choose to share different rooms.
At the beginning, the new occupants always greeted politely and took the initiative to socialize; they paid great attention to the boundaries of shared living, and their words and deeds were measured, they opened and closed doors and whispered, and they walked with their heels.
After about half a year, I got used to it, and the string that was stretched in my brain was loosened.
Of course, you will also find that the late-night activities of the roommates in the shared room are never restrained, free, and seem to have forgotten that there is another you in the next room.
"If you don't sleep well, your temper can't be good, and if you don't have a good temper and can't bear it, you have to come forward with a warning, and if the warning is ineffective, you will go to war."
Noise pollution, this is one.
The second is the hygiene of public spaces.
"Things in the refrigerator are about to overflow, and when it's serious, there will be a smell of decay wafting out." Unless I choose not to use it, as long as I use it, I have to clean it up myself and help five or six roommates clean it up. Mobilize everyone to clean up together? Labor distribution? You think too much, you can barely maintain this order when you go to school, out of society, who wants to listen to you, is either silent or silent. The only order that can be maintained in the shared group is the equalization of utility bills, and nothing else should be thought about. ”
Stills from "The Life of the Rejected Pine Nuts"
"On the kitchen stove, the unwashed dishes can be stacked on several layers, even on the ground, and slippers are glued when you walk in. When the temperature is high, the kitchen waste can raise a wall full of insects and grandchildren, and the cleaning once a week cannot be saved. ”
"When it comes to the bathroom, it's even more exciting. Women are afraid of hair, men are afraid of cigarette butts, sinks, floor drains, toilets, when the security is blocked, garbage cans are piled up in a mountain. When you're lucky, as soon as you open the door, it's smoky and every strand of hair is in place. It is not uncommon to forget to flush when sitting down, and it is not uncommon to wash clean. ”
"Can't stand it, then you can clean it, don't expect to move everyone to do sanitation together." As a diligent part-time cleaner in the shared house, my biggest and only gain is that I can see it myself. ”
Contradictions accumulate to a certain extent, quarrels are the most common pictures, one is to share a group, write a small essay, stand in line to attack, and the other is to argue in person.
There are also cases of fighting, this time mainly tests the strength value of both sides, even if the attack value is not high, it is also necessary to defend the value, if it is not OK, it is still recommended to sound the gong to collect the troops.
From being cautious to being big, this is the fastest way to "heat up" between strangers.
"I couldn't help but get angry, quarreled, and after arguing to open the trembling mode, I was afraid of starting the war again in a state of no energy, and at that time I especially missed the feeling of 'suffocation'."
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If your roommate is in love...
The probability of meeting a couple in a shared apartment is not low. Under normal circumstances, that is, ask the intermediary how the sound insulation is.
If you are unlucky and meet an extraordinary couple, please do not listen, do not ask, do not say, do not look, unless you have the general ability of "savior".
"There was a couple living next door, very hot-tempered, they quarreled, fought, dropped things, I was really scared to death, curled up in the quilt like a little chicken cub, and quickly gave my friends a voice to be bold. Then the police came, and finally stopped arguing, but it wasn't the police I reported. That night, I went to the bathroom, and I had to endure it until I couldn't stand it, and then I repeatedly confirmed that there was no one outside. ”
"Our house only accepts girls to share a room. But can't stop people from having boyfriends, can't stop people's boyfriends from looking for the door, what to say in front of the check-in requirements are in vain. ”
If you feel like you're a man and don't have to worry about this kind of problem, that's a big deal. Xiao Lan is a man who accidentally gets involved in a roommate love dispute.
"One night, someone has been desperately hammering the door, at first they thought it was takeaway, shouted in the shared group, and as a result, a roommate said it might be her boyfriend, let's not open the door, after a few minutes, the house was cut off, and at the moment I thought it was no electricity, and as soon as the door was opened, a man rushed in."
"It turned out that he had turned off the electric gate. When I was done, I lied to the police and threw him out. ”
"A few days later, the house went out of power again, the boyfriend came again, thinking that as a man, it was a little pitiful to torture for love, so let's talk together, pull him to sit down in the living room, but before the conversation was finished, the police came to the door..."
"The police understand the situation, the man said that the woman had suicidal tendencies, talked about various lies during the relationship, such as having a strange illness, going to the hospital, the doctor saying that it was okay, and so on. The police went to knock on the girl's door and knocked for an hour, and there was no movement in the house. ”
"Everyone was panicked, and as soon as the police saw that they couldn't do it, they let everyone disperse, and then knocked on the door." It was only later that I learned that it was my girlfriend in the house who called the police. ”
"I thought this was over." Who knows, a few days later, the female roommate came to her friend and threatened us not to believe what her ex-boyfriend said, what power violation, criminal prosecution, and a head. ”
"What's even more disturbing is that the ex-boyfriend began to pestering me, and he had to let me pass on a small essay to save his feelings, and even let me change houses with him. I quickly blocked it, and then I received one friend request after another, as well as a small essay. ”
"Regret! I'm scared! I was afraid that I would be blocked on my way home, and after work during that time, I would have to change the road and go back. ”
04
Saying goodbye to shared housing is the biggest motivation for me to make money
In addition to the above problems, there are also economic contradictions between the roommates, such as borrowing money and not repaying, arrears of rent, refusing to share water, electricity and gas bills on the grounds of non-use, etc.; differences in values, resulting in mutual disdain, seizing the opportunity to play a war of words, and so on.
Many co-tenants lamented: When I was a child, living with my family and my family inevitably had trouble; I went to school to live in a group and had conflicts with my roommates; when I came out to share a house, I also had to share living space with people, which was simply "endless bitterness".
"Although my roommate and I don't quarrel, but two people in a house, it is easy to stay at home together 'corpse', cooking no one wants to do, order takeaway to numbness, clothes are not put in the washing machine, do nothing, one person a mobile phone, one lie a day." Knowing is crap, but it's hard to change. On the contrary, if you are at home, it is easier to get up from bed and do something. ”
"My first motivation to make money is to live by myself."
"When you come home from work, you can do whatever you want, and you can do whatever you want." Freedom, I want to have a space that is completely relaxed and my own when I go home. ”
Saying goodbye to shared housing has become the first step for young people to realize their freedom in life.
Only by having your own space can you give yourself a space for your emotions. Whether the day is tired, or depressed, happy, or bad, as long as the door is opened, they are free, flowing freely in a space of more than ten square meters, without worrying about who will offend.
Only by having your own space can you enjoy the fun of taking care of life. Even if the house is rented, we can decide for ourselves what to put, what to put in, whether to have a dog or a cat, and we have the final say, and everything is arranged in our own comfortable way.
Some people say that sharing a house is also good, and it can be used as an advance drill for getting along with married life, after all, this is a long-term and unavoidable topic.
However, before entering the "long-term hun" of the next stage of life, we do need to take a break, live by ourselves for a while, change the air of life, and get along with ourselves.
Tell us about your shared apartment
What kind of shared roommate behavior can you least tolerate?
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