I think it's funny, now everyone is embarrassed to borrow money, isn't it? It's usually not easy to open your mouth, right?
How to borrow a car with such a thick skin? Casually: "Hey, you have a car, you have a car you borrow me!" "It doesn't seem like a burden to say!"
A car home has done a car rental survey in the past few years: more than 80% of car owners have the experience of lending their cars, but 91% of them said that they did not willingly lend their cars.
How exactly can you gracefully refuse? Will friends and family tell you? No, they'll just ask us to borrow it.
These methods you hide in the bed or locked in the toilet to see for yourself, like, collect over there.
Buy a car that no one else can borrow
The first is to buy a car that no one else can borrow. For example: buy a manual transmission, only C2 driver's license people can not borrow, can not drive.
Now most of our friends are not like before, we want the strongest compatibility, manual gear test C1, is any car can drive.
Now how convenient how to come, learn a large handful of C2, make a manual gear is really not necessarily someone will open, can not drive, not allowed on the road.
Fang Weirong, director of the transmission department of SAIC Technology Center, mentioned a data at the 2019 (7th) Automotive and Environmental Innovation Forum: the domestic passenger car automatic transmission and manual market share is 60.7% and 39.3%.
Further refined into the mainstream family car, the proportion of automatic gear may be higher.
To put it simply: ordinary colleagues have little confidence in driving, and they just learn to drive and want to come over and try their hands, even if they are relatives.
You say directly: "My manual clutch is not very good, and most people can't afford to borrow it, I tell you." ”
Even generously gave him the key: "Do you want to try it?" Bump into yours. "Solved.
We can't do it ourselves, we also bought the automatic gear, in addition to using the manual gear to directly dissuade, you can also say some of the small problems in the car, or small flaws.
For example: "Hey" tire just made up yesterday, when opening a little attention, the master said that my tire life is also similar, easy to explode or how, you can also open another 2, 300km, anyway, usually pay more attention to or how.
And then there is: "Hey, my car just ran out of gas, you can either help me to add it, or just drive away." "Isn't it?
And at this time you also said to him: "I will call you for oil money." "At this time, it is really a human heart detector, to see what other people react, maybe friends are getting better and better, maybe you suddenly realize."
The car wasn't around and couldn't borrow it
The second one is that the car just doesn't happen to be around, and I can't borrow it, right?
A melon used car has done a survey, "2015 Car Loan Survey", statistical reasons for borrowing, what is the largest proportion? Go out and run errands.
I borrowed a car to go out to run an errand, my brother did a favor, my sister was accommodating, wasn't it? 57.49%, more than half.
The second is the jianghu emergency. Tomorrow I'm going to ask my sister out, and I'm going to go to the beach with her, isn't it? "Oops" this, accounting for 28.74%.
You see, Fujiwara Takumi also embarked on the road of a racing driver because of this, just to go to the beach with girls, and send a full load of gasoline, and he went to the race, right? Car borrowing accounted for 28.74%.
To put it simply, many people who borrow a car will say a few days in advance: "Hey, brother, in a few days I really want to borrow your car to use it." ”
Either it was more urgent, and the day said: "Can you save my life in the afternoon?" "Huh?
This kind of has a specific date, which is completely to say that the car is saving the lives of others at that time, or saving the life of the car itself in the repair shop and so on.
"It's not a coincidence, or I'll rent a car for you?" You always have to give people a way out, right? Always help people, right? Right? I'll pay for you to rent a car, okay? Right?
Bitten to death at the beginning, it was impossible to borrow a car
The third is to directly make the other party relatively difficult to open.
How to say this, it varies from person to person, depending on the style of the person.
Jiang Feng, Lu Su and others published a paper in the journal Journal of Beijing Institute of Education (Natural Science Edition), "Rethinking the Relationship between Attitude and Behavior Consistency", which was mentioned above.
Attitude intensity is considered a manifestation of attitude patience and effectiveness, and often high-intensity attitudes can help individuals resist persuasion messages.
This is a bit like the wine table culture, you are firm at the beginning: you never drink, you will not drink under any circumstances. Other people don't necessarily want to persuade them to drink, right?
This idea is just for your reference, don't say: "Oh, I follow this line of thinking, I was at the wine table, and on the 2nd day I was still drunk and came back, you liar!" ”
You can't understand me that way, can you?
What is that? "Oops, I really am... Can you borrow me a little bit of a car today? Get something done. "Oh well... Understand, understand, my car never borrows anyone. ”
In fact, it is quite simple, the car is my wife, do not borrow, I got married one day, you can consider borrowing you, or you introduce me to a girlfriend and so on, right?
I really can't refuse, and even people bring cars to borrow together
But some situations really can't be rejected, how simple are people, so complicated, right? Today's chat can only give you reference, right?
Lian Chongchao published a paper in the journal "Jiangxi Social Sciences", "Human Society, Emotional Alienation and The Survival of Modern People", mentioned above.
Human feelings exist in the mutual relationship between people, and different human relations constitute the hierarchy of human relations society, and also lay the emotional sustenance for Chinese to settle down.
Don't talk nonsense, to put it simply: we are all in this society, this society is called "human feelings", sometimes you don't want to, does not mean that you can not, the relationship is placed over there, there is no way not to borrow.
Because sometimes when you have to borrow other people's other things, people will think about whether you borrowed the car this time.
When you really want to borrow at this time, you also have to figure it out, make it clear, what? The car can be borrowed, but it must be borrowed with the driver.
On the one hand, driving your own car can avoid violent driving by others, do something illegal, or do something that you don't want your car to experience, right?
If something really goes wrong, I have a sense of proportion in my own open, and I am sure.
As we mentioned in our videos before, you lend your car to someone who is not eligible to drive, who is emotionally unstable, and who is drunk driving.
Or when borrowing the car, there is no confirmation of the condition of the car, in case there is an accident, just said these things, the owner did not do anything, with joint and several liability, you are still kind, not wronged? Angry? Isn't it?
In other words, if you lend it to an unreliable friend, he hides it from you, and he says, "OK, I just got my driver's license." "Then just go.
You also believe him, did not confirm, he drove once without a license, and then hit someone, this person also "screamed" directly, the friend looked scared, did not call the police, drove the car away.
When I encounter such a time, I really regret it.
So it is really necessary to borrow, even people with a car to borrow, the simplest.
If you don't want to be borrowed by others, you must firmly refuse
So, in general, when others borrow our own cars, in general, we will feel as if we have lost something briefly, and most people are reluctant in their hearts, and the previous data report is also 91%.
Why doesn't he ask someone else to borrow from me? Can we think about it more? When we lend it to him, how can we make it more convenient for others? Can we think about it more?
I really can't borrow, can I have the behavior of borrowing a car to solve the problem for others? Taking a little time is getting friends closer.
When you really have to borrow, at least let everyone be comfortable, safe, and risk-free, and this thing is not too much to arrange, right?
Why can't I lend you a car to drive
I'm Rolls-Royce, I want to borrow it as a wedding car, do those things just said apply?
Not applicable, different, do the video alone.
Keyword: borrow a car
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2015 Auto Loan Survey. Melon seeds used car
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