When I got off work these two days, I was chilling at the entrance of the community and accidentally saw such a scene:
Several older boys were teasing a 5- or 6-year-old girl— the boy was picking up the girl's skirt with his hands or a branch, and the girl was standing, confused.
When the boys saw me next to me, they had no intention of stopping, and continued to lift the girl's underwear, even touching and kissing the girl's face, and I couldn't help but come forward to stop it.
After scaring them away, he turned to look at the girl and found her crying silently. After coaxing her for a while, he sent her home, told her parents what had happened, and left, but her parents scolded her for not running out alone.
On the way home, I couldn't help but think that if the girl's parents did not educate her carefully, she still did not know how to resist, such a thing would still happen, and it was very likely that the girl would not dare to talk to her parents again.
Because such a thing, in the eyes of our adults, even the whole society is not valued, we generally believe that this is just a child's naughty, ignorant performance.
But there is a mother who teaches her daughter with actions: when you are bullied and hurt, you must stop it loudly; if someone ignores your stop, you can put on your armor and bravely resist!
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The protagonist of the story is a nurse mother in the emergency room, and one day she received a call from the school saying that her girl had beaten someone and that the matter was very serious.
She hurried to the school, and in the principal's office, in addition to her daughter, there was the director of instruction, the principal, the male teacher, a boy with a bloody face around his nose, and his parents.
The principal told her mother what had happened: the boy bounced on her daughter's underwear, and then the daughter punched the boy twice in the face. They believe that the boy's behavior is just playful, but her daughter has injured the boy, and her daughter is too much.
The mother suddenly felt that the three views were subverted, and asked rhetorically: "So you called me here to know whether I am going to prosecute this male classmate for sexual harassment and the school for mismanagement?" ”
When the nurse mom mentioned sexual harassment, everyone was panicked.
Male teacher: I don't think it's that serious.
Director of Instruction: You're overreacting.
Principal: I think you misunderstood the point.
The nurse mom decided to listen to her daughter's description again, and in it she found more important information: the boy kept playing his daughter's underwear, and the daughter told him to stop, but he didn't listen.
The daughter told the teacher that the teacher found it interesting and asked her to ignore it. As a result, the boy started bouncing again, bouncing off the buttons of her underwear until her daughter couldn't help but hit him.
After hearing this, the nurse's mother was angry, turned to the male teacher and said, "How about you come over and let me play you?" The male teacher immediately refused.
She said, "It seems that you also think this is inappropriate, if you think playing underwear is a funny thing, then you go play the director of education now and see what happens to her?" ”
"Or you go play the boy's mother, or mine, do you think it's funny just because they're kids?"
The principal listened to her mother and immediately said, "The point of the problem is that your daughter injured another child. ”
The nurse's mother said: "She hit someone in self-defense because the child sexually harassed her. She has already asked for help, but the teacher has not helped her, she can only fight back on her own, what do you want her to do? ”
At this time, the boy's mother had been crying, and the boy's father looked both angry and ashamed. And the male teacher did not dare to look at this mother again.
The mother calmly said to the principal:
If you have no opinion, I will take her home. If you change it to the underwear of the boy playing the female teacher and is taught by the female teacher, will you still think that the female teacher is wrong?
You don't allow him to do the same thing to a female teacher, so why would you allow him to do the same to a 15-year-old girl? I hope it never happens again, not just to my daughter, but also to any girl.
I would report the matter to the school board, and if the boy dared to touch my daughter again, I would immediately have the police arrest him on charges of sexual harassment. Do you understand?
In the end, the nurse mother reported the matter to the school board, and they promised to deal with the matter seriously. She also reported it to the government agency that oversees the school, which said she would contact the school to investigate.
And her daughter, who had been transferred to another class, was far away from the boy and the male teacher.
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After the mother's story was posted online, it was liked by many netizens and shared her experience:
Over the years, there have been frequent news of how many years a female student was harassed by a teacher. Why don't our girls have such a powerful aura? In this, the teaching of parents has a great role.
Writer Luo Song said: Girls should talk about bottom line education (body, life, feelings and life bottom line), and boys should talk about sunshine education. And what I want to emphasize is the physical bottom line of the four bottom line education.
What is Physical Bottom Line Education? As a parent, you must warn your daughter not to betray and hurt anything, or to be hurt by others.
Rosson once told a story:
An adolescent girl came home in the early hours of the morning, and a few days later, her father asked her out for drinks: try to drink, get drunk, and daddy will take you home.
That night, the girl fell drunk on the bar, and the next day, as soon as she woke up, she saw a letter written to her by her father: Do you remember how many drunks you drank last night? There are two beers and five horns of high. Remember, this is your limit!
There are a lot of bad guys in the world. I can't be around to protect you forever. That's why you know your limits, and it's also your bottom line, and you must learn to protect yourself.
Just like nurse mothers teach their daughters, they must have their own bottom line, and when they are bullied, they can choose to fight back sharply.
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In recent years, the more news about "child bullying"...
Parents are sad and a little happy that it did not happen to their children, but at the same time they are worried that their children are being bullied at school and they do not know what to do.
There is a saying that goes well: not hurting people is a kind of upbringing, but not being hurt by others is an aura.
We can't be around our children all the time, and they have to face this imperfect world one day, and it is crucial to teach children how to protect themselves and not to hurt others.
I don't know if you have ever been bullied when you were a child, but I was also bullied when I was in the first year of junior high school. I was tall, sitting in the penultimate row, with a boy sitting behind me. He often threw me chalk, called me fat and ugly, and played my underwear belt, and I put up with it.
Once he deliberately broke the leg of my stool, disguised as good, and as soon as I sat down the stool broke, sawdust was inserted into my hand, and blood rushed out. He laughed at the side.
Without saying a word, I directly picked up the stool leg and beat him up, and then asked the parents, my dad knew, to go to the Education Bureau to file a complaint, and then asked a lawyer friend to sue. Since then, no one has dared to bully me anymore, even my roommate said that I beat people like crazy people that day.
Children who were often bullied when they were young, the seeds of cowardice have been buried in the character, and the childhood experience is the initial brand, with a special mark, and it is more difficult to remove it when they grow up.
Those parents who blindly instill a sense of "forbearance" with their children are not putting their children in a situation of isolation and helplessness?
Of course, I am not encouraging parents to teach their children to fight, but to know how to defend their dignity, but also to pay attention to proportions, not to let people succeed, but also not to let people too hurt.
This world has always had latitude and longitude, and it will not shrink because of your tolerance, nor will it expand because of your strength. Soft and principled at heart, cloaked in armor and warm, this is the best way to be at ease.
Again, Mom and Dad, remember, no matter what happens, please tell your child that you will always be his reliance, the strongest fortress.
You stand behind the child and he has the courage to rebel against all injustices.
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