Author: Xuan Xiaolei
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People live, they all long for success, they want to be able to do things.
The purpose is similar, such as hoping to win glory for the parents and family, hoping to be recognized by the public.
Or there is a need for a sense of presence, a sense of value. Or face, sense of responsibility and other reasons.
But the world is complex and impermanent, and the outcome of things is unknown and impermanent.
How do you succeed in this state where you know nothing about the future?
It's not easy, so there are a lot of people who push themselves very hard.
If you can achieve your expectations and effects by pressing it, it is understandable. However, many people are physically and mentally traumatized, so they fall down or despair, and even fall into the quagmire and bad results of quick success.
So it is necessary for us to face the success thing with a correct and open mind.
First of all, we need to do the best preparation, but don't force the results.
The Law of Attraction teaches us that we are right to think in a good direction. But this is not the same as blind optimism, so before starting to prepare all the details you want to get, try to be confident, so as not to start to be busy and overwhelmed, so as to quickly lose.
After making preparations, the heart is more determined, more confident, and more relaxed, which is naturally conducive to the development of the situation. The so-called precautionary plan, the stupid bird flies first, it also needs to be used. After all, in the process of doing things, there will be many sudden opportunities, and if you are not prepared, others will put the opportunity in front of you in vain.
But even if everything is prepared, there must be another psychological preparation, namely the unknown and change.
Therefore, we must also have a normal mind for the production of results, such as how to deal with bad situations when we anticipate them.
This kind of emergency measures and psychological preparation are also necessary, which allows you to quickly calm down in the face of changes, and calmly solve or accept them calmly.
Second, we have to give enough.
Doing anything is to pay energy and time for a kind of thing, can not always think of opportunism, take advantage of loopholes, take advantage, take shortcuts, wait for the pie in the sky, this kind of mentality is naturally not OK.
Envy when you see that others have gains, envy, you have to get it quickly, you can, but you also have to see the pay behind what others get.
No matter what the other party has given, you must test whether you have paid the same or can you pay?
Don't feel unfair without moving, in fact, you see someone succeed, maybe he is really not as good as you, but he may have a lot more blessings than you, such as he is kinder than you, and has paid a lot of love that you did not see, so as if he succeeded easily, which also makes sense.
So don't complain and dry, etc., to pay the effort, to pay the heart, to pay the kindness, to pay the time, these are enough, the harvest will naturally come.
Furthermore, we need to train our endurance.
People live, always have to face such and such things, may encounter some blows and setbacks, smooth life is not much.
Therefore, before doing things, we must also have the ability and psychology to bear the burden, so that the results after the effort will be handed over to fate.
That is to say, the plot is in man, and the success is in heaven. It is to do one's own thing and obey the destiny.
If you try and try your best, the process will be very precious and rare, and you will reap the rewards of the results.
For example, I grew from it, learned experience and lessons, and tempered my will and determination.
In this way, it is also worthy of oneself, even if the result is not too good, it can be endured and accepted without complaint.
After all, life is also composed of one experience and attempt, the result is good and bad from the surface, but what you get from it, you should be clear, so do not erase your own efforts and efforts, and learn to bear it calmly, you can also be regarded as a gain.
Finally, we must believe that we are born to be useful and find the path that suits us best.
Everyone is different, has their own strengths, and has their own strengths.
To find your own talent and make good use of it, if you go against the grain, you will go in the opposite direction, take a detour or go straight to the wrong path.
There is a criterion for this, and the most joyful thing when you think about what you do is the state of being willing to do it when there is no benefit gain.
Another criterion on this basis is, think about whether what you like to do is altruistic?
What can I help others? What can it bring to others? Act on this foundation and with the heart, and you will do more with less.
Even if there is no obvious harvest and effect for a while, it must be temporary.
As Calvino said: We must confront the complexity of the world with the order of the mind.
It's normal for us to live and want to do something good, but in the process we have to constantly remind and correct ourselves.
For example, check the direction from time to time, always brush and observe your own mind, adjust your mentality, correct your cognition, don't be too blind and reckless, so as to hurt yourself.
Therefore, while doing things, it is also necessary to cultivate the mind, to establish a benign cognitive system in one's own heart, in order to resist the complexity and uncertainty of the action, so that when things do not go well or the results are not as good as they expect, they can face it calmly.