The flowers look half-open, and the wine is slightly drunk.
Everything in the world has a degree to have a meaning of existence.
When people walk in this world, they are nothing more than tasting the bitterness and bitterness of life, feeling the changes in joy and sorrow, tasting it all, and feeling it is not a life of failure.
There is no need to cling to the imperfections of this world, after all, this impermanent world is composed of one imperfection after another, and regret is the main theme of life.
See through the truth of life, just learn to let yourself go, for the sake of that rare consummation to make yourself scaly, it is really not worth it.
It is not easy to survive in the world, and only by mastering the great wisdom of "others" can we protect ourselves for a lifetime.
As the saying goes: "When the water is flooded, it overflows, and when it is full, it is damaged." ”
Therefore, it will be full and not full, which is the best state of life.
01
Everything is measured, don't love too much
Everything has a degree, and so does the situation.
In this life, people around them come and go, although there is always a parting, but no one will be an island, living in a vacuum for a long time.
Therefore, interacting with people is a subject that we cannot avoid no matter what.
Mr. Jin Yong wrote in the "Book of Swords and Enmity": "Deep affection is not longevity, and strong is insulting." ”
Give everything, love without reservation, after losing, you will force yourself to have no way back.
There is nothing wrong with giving, loving, in itself, but no matter who you are, no matter how deeply you love, remember to have reservations.
Seven points for lovers is enough, and the three points left are for their own retreat.
In this world, the most fascinating thing is change, the most cruel is also change, people will go, emotions will disperse.
If you place yourself in the midst of change without reservation, then the conditions are scattered, and all you get is an empty sorrow.
We can not question the sincerity, but do not underestimate the change, only by leaving room for ourselves to escape, will we protect the sanity that stays out of the matter.
So on the basis of loving yourself well, and then loving others well, is the best feeling.
Fate is impermanent, fate comes, cherish it, fate disperses, do not have to complain.
02
Live well and don't be nosy
The eagle has the way of the eagle, and the chicken has the way of the chicken.
It is not easy to live yourself well, so why judge the lives of others with your own understanding.
Life is a very personal thing, cold and warm self-knowledge, except for myself, no one will really feel what the happiness of others is like.
There is a saying that goes: "Just shine your own light, don't blow out the light of others." ”
Therefore, even if you can't become the sun and sacrifice yourself to warm the world, don't become a cold winter wind that blows out the warmth that others rely on for survival.
In this world, there is a lot of bitterness that you have not felt, and there are many sweetness that you cannot understand.
Many times, it is not that other people's lives are too different, but that our own insights are too shallow.
So, can't empathize, it's okay, but please respect the happiness of others, you just live your own life, the happiness of others, do not need you to interject together.
Be less busy and life will be simpler.
03
Look at the open, don't cling
Contentment and happiness, clinging to desire, will eventually be swallowed up by desire.
The Buddha said, "In life, since we are passers-by, why should we be persistent?" ”
In life, there are more powerless things, and in the face of such powerlessness, what we can do is not the stupidity of attachment, but the freedom to look back and smile.
Some things, going with the flow is the best development, imposing intervention, but it will be self-defeating.
Do not be happy with things, do not grieve with yourself, it is yours that does not fight or grab is also yours, not yours, and if you fight again and again, you will lose.
If that's the case, why bother with gains and losses?
When you come to the end of your life and look back on the past, you find that what you cling to in this life is not just some past clouds, and those troubles are just mediocre self-disturbance.
Therefore, in this life, people are at ease. Gain calmly, lose relief, do your duty well, have a clear conscience, and live naturally better.
Don't cling to it, let it go, relax your body, and have the leisure to taste happiness.
04
Low-key and humble, don't be ostentatious
The world is impermanent, there is no long-term suffering, and there is no long-term happiness.
Everything will pass, and all we can do is not be shocked by honor and disgrace, and everything will be treated indifferently.
As the saying goes: "There will be rain in the sky, and there will be disasters in the madness of man."
All arrogance is exchanged for trouble, and all obscurity can be satisfied for a long time.
There are people outside the people, there are heavens outside the sky, no one can always be high, and no one will always be at a low ebb.
So don't overestimate your own status, and don't underestimate the abilities of others.
Feng shui takes turns, impermanent people in the world, low-key is the best talisman, see yourself as an ordinary person, will be in the midst of complexity, experience ordinary happiness.
Heaven will let them die, they will make them crazy, and those who climb high and shake the mighty wind often die very tragically.
Therefore, if you understand impermanence, you will know that publicity is useless, and modesty and low-keyness are the king.
05
Be calm, don't get angry
As the saying goes, "Anger hurts the body".
Many people have said the word "angry death", but just as a joke, never thought that anger will really kill people.
Life is very short, but a hundred years, anger is also a lifetime, happiness is also a lifetime, if you waste time on people and things, it would be too stupid.
Emotions, which are part of people, are innate, dead and dead, and having a temper is instinctive, but controlling emotions is an ability.
To lose your temper with the people closest to you is to squander the love they have for, love is not endless, time has passed, the heart is cold, and it is too late to regret it.
Losing your temper with innocent people is the weakness of cultivation, and people who are good enough will not do such stupid things that hurt others and hurt themselves.
Losing your temper with yourself is a kind of self-consumption, always dissatisfied with yourself, insisting on meaningless things, and living will be very tired.
Anger is harmful and unproductive.
Be kind, be tolerant, and calm down, you will find that many of the reasons for anger are small things, and they are not enough to hang their teeth at all.
There is a technique in painting and calligraphy called blank space, which is also a kind of wisdom of life.
In this life, people say that they will become better and worse, but what they want is "not tired", easy and relaxed, happy and happy, even if life is suffering, as long as there is the existence of these sweets, they can always continue to insist.
The so-called tea pour seven points is full, seven points for being a person is good, no matter what you do, leave room for yourself, don't be too tired, don't be aggrieved, don't panic, even if it's not perfect, such a life is enough.
All tastes are life, and only by cultivating one's own heart can you experience the happiness in life.
May we all be smart people who see life clearly, always have expectations, and work tirelessly to live.