Awkward chat, this word often occurs when straight men flirt with their sisters, just like Murphy's Law, the more straight men are afraid of awkward chats, the more likely it is to have awkward chats in the result. Awkward chat will make the distance between boys and girls farther and farther, so when encountering awkward chats, we need to use some clever methods to solve the awkward atmosphere, so that even if there is an awkward chat, your solution will make girls think that you are very emotionally intelligent!
Solution one: Create attraction
If you don't want to talk awkwardly, you have to understand why the awkward conversation happens – there is no interest in you. For someone who has no interest, how can you possibly be willing to cooperate with him to talk about it? Therefore, it is very important to create your attraction before or during the chat.
However, there are also many straight men who directly "sell themselves" as soon as they come up, first of all, indicating that this is not showing attraction, but disgustingly showing off. Therefore, when creating attraction, it is necessary to be vague and ambiguous, which is both inadvertent and makes girls curious about you. The previous awkward chat atmosphere is completely absent, and the girl's interest in you has also been greatly improved, which is one of the ways to solve the awkward chat.
Method two: topic guidance
If you don't know what to talk about when you're chatting with girls, and what you're talking about now, it's absolutely normal for two people who have just met to have awkward conversations. Generally speaking, when flirting with a sister, boys are mostly the guides of the topic (if the girl is the topic guide, that is, she hints that you can be pampered), so you must grasp the interests of the girls.
For example, she likes to gossip, and you talk to her about politics. She loves comics and you talk to her about football. This is definitely the wrong topic to guide, so through her circle of friends, as well as the tone and emphasis of her way of speaking, quickly grasping her points of interest is an important skill for solving awkward conversations.
Solution three: Emotional resonance
The conversation that can resonate emotionally in the chat is the quality of the conversation. When you find her point of interest, but oppose her point of view everywhere, can you talk about it? She thinks that Xiao Zhan is better than Li Xianshuai, but you insist on fighting with her for Li Zhanshuai than Xiao Zhanshuai, even if you are chatting in her interest area, it will only make her hehehe to you.
Therefore, when chatting, properly agree with each other's point of view, and say some different angles, then the other party will easily resonate with you emotionally, even if it is awkward chat, the emotions begin to resonate, then the awkward chat will seem so meaningful.
The ever-changing is inseparable, and the sister must also be heartbroken, understand what she likes and hates, and seek emotional resonance from her point of interest, which is the core concept of solving awkward conversations.
In short, love chat also has steps:
First, the first acquaintance, the stage of walking the heart
This stage belongs to the boy just and the girl to know, that is, the stranger stage, just added the girl's WeChat, this stage of the girl is very passive, so basically as long as the boy does not find a girl to chat, the girl will not take the initiative to find a boy to chat, some times, even if you and the girl take the initiative to chat, she may reply to the message speed may be very slow. Maybe not even reply to you. In the face of this situation, boys will generally think wildly, make wrong decisions, and frequently chat with girls every day, whether they are interested or not, so boys master the correct chat rhythm, which is the key first step. For example, it is past twelve o'clock in the evening, and you suddenly want to chat with the girl, and then send a message to the girl, at this time, the boy has not thought that the girl has slept, or this time is no longer suitable for chatting.
Second, the stage of mutual goodwill
If we have established a good impression at the initial stage of acquaintance. Then boys and girls will enter a sweet period, that is, the stage of mutual goodwill, so we have to further add favorability on this basis, plus favorability, not to say that frequent chat can strengthen favorability, on the contrary, the appropriate snub to each other can also achieve the same effect, this relationship is like a leather band, a pull and a contraction, it will produce freshness. Then we are creating new topics, consolidating this good feeling, girls generally do not like arrogant boys, so boys must learn to be subtle, polite, then we can start from girls' interests, understand girls' interests, understand the sports that girls love.
Third, determine the relationship stage
This stage in the first two stages to lay a good foundation, to determine the relationship is a natural thing, so at this stage, boys should have confidence, but also can not be taken lightly, so this stage, boys to do relax the mood, really to feel the joys and sorrows in the process of interacting with girls, and then go with the flow to find that boys and girls attract each other, a love begins.