Falling in love is like a pile of colorful candy. When you first get along, it is always sweet and beautiful, but after getting along for a long time, peeling off the gorgeous packaging outside the candy, you can really appreciate the taste of love.
Not everyone in life can have wisdom in love, some people's career success is still a mess in the relationship; some people are just an ordinary clerk, but they can be in love. In the "battlefield" of love, some people have picked the fruits of happiness, while some people have swallowed huang lian.
From the perspective of love, this article will talk about 3 mistakes not to make when men and women interact, I hope it will help you.
1. In love, we must correct our mentality and avoid inferiority
In marriage, pay attention to the door, you are very good, and I am not bad. However, in addition to being able to face and understand each other's situation in a blind date, in free love, you can only know yourself and know each other through your usual relationship.
It is normal for one of the couples to have good conditions and the other side to have poor conditions, but people have inferiority complex. In love, in front of the people you like, this inferiority will be invisibly magnified.
Maybe it's because the other party's family conditions are good, maybe it's because the other party's education is high, maybe it's because the other party's personality is good, in the face of these tangible and intangible conditions, the inner inferiority complex continues to grow like a vine. One second you are still enjoying the sweetness of love, and the next second you are caught in endless darkness because of these objective factors.
In fact, in an unequal relationship, the weaker party should have a correct mindset. Facing the other party is better than yourself, accepting this reality, reducing the psychology of inferiority, in order to get along more comfortably in the relationship.
Remember, don't be afraid, don't be alone in the dark night. There is no way to stop what should happen, and what will not happen will not have any benefit except to affect their own emotions.
Two people together do not always say that they are not worthy, since the other party has chosen themselves, it means that you have a side of the other party's appreciation, which others cannot give. Love to live well, don't think so much, the future things are handed over later, happy to live well in the present is more important.
2. Don't teach the other person how to love yourself, it's stupid
There is a question on Zhihu: Is it naïve to teach others to love themselves?
There was an answer that replied very unceremoniously: naïve.
If a person in love particularly likes you, he will show an initiative. This initiative covers many aspects: get up in the morning to greet good morning, no matter how tense the lunch break time is, do not forget to meet you after work, maybe a sneeze on the phone will immediately buy cold medicine, and when he is sad, he will always appear at the first time.
Love is in the details, not love is also. A person who truly loves you will observe your preferences and secretly jot down your habits. He will love you the way you like, giving you full security and satisfaction.
Some people say why don't they coax me when I'm angry? Why does he know what I expect but doesn't give? I had already told him, but I still didn't do it.
Girl, if you teach the other person how to love you, it will be very wrong.
A relationship is reduced to having to rely on you to teach the other person to love yourself, so you don't have to continue. The love that comes out is too cheap, and others will appreciate a candy when they are happy, and it is too late to hide when they are unhappy. Love that breaks the principles and bottom lines is not love, it is just your own wishful thinking.
Such feelings will only consume your spirit, and every day you will be entangled in the emotions of whether the other party loves you or not. Feelings are mutual, if you can't feel love, leave, the person who really loves you is too late to hurt, how can you bear to see the tragic appearance of your loss of god.
3. Don't spend all your energy on loving each other, leave three points for yourself
Tong Liya mentioned Chen Sicheng in the interview: "He is so good, I am a little afraid. Then she did not shy away from saying that when two people had an argument, within five minutes she would apologize first. Tong Liya loves this man very much and uses all her energy to love, but only forgets herself.
Love too much, it is really a disaster, paid so much, the end is finally borne by yourself.
If you love someone, you should pay attention to each other's words and deeds, and even check the other party's mobile phone, for fear that you will do something sorry for yourself. Once in a while, it's okay, but in the long run, the other person will hate this behavior, and you will become a resentful woman.
Empty your wallet and give all your energy to love each other, and the other party will be moved for a while. In the long-term relationship, such a love model will invisibly hold the other party very high, and a small matter will make a big fuss.
Taking all his energy to love each other, fueling his arrogance and giving the other party the opportunity to despise himself.
Good feelings should be fine water and long streams, find a balance in ordinary years, support each other, and rely on each other.
Leave three points of energy to love yourself, chase the other party's footsteps tired, you should also learn to take the initiative to attract, let the other party unconsciously follow. Maybe it's a change in dressing style, maybe it's a change in hairstyle, maybe it's a change in attitude towards life, in short, as long as it's positive, the other party will look at you, and there will be shining stars in your eyes.
Life is an encounter, the shallow ones will be scattered, do not have to miss. Keep your own elegance, keep the bottom line as you deserve, and the right person can come to you no matter how far away.