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Last night, walking a baby in the neighborhood, I heard a conversation between two mothers. The gist is to persuade students.
One says to the other: In fact, regenerating one is nothing more than your own bitter points, tired points, but the cuteness after the birth of the child will heal you! How nice it is for the two children to be able to play together!
The other is obviously very sensible: this applies to you, but it is different for me. After all, your family has an old man to support it, our husband and wife have nothing, all have to rely on themselves, after giving birth to a second child, I will have to take the baby at home full-time, relying on my husband alone, how to support a family of four?
This mother's words were rational, and I was quite touched when I listened to them.
Looking at the families around them who have two or three children, most of them are because they have parents to rely on. If you let the couple have a single antibody, it is really not so easy to decide to give birth.
This depends on the parents, and it is really not just about helping to bring the baby, there are many other important factors.
Buying a house before starting a family requires the support of your parents
It is said that ordinary people buy houses, and sometimes even empty the wallets of 6 people. These 6 people include husband and wife, the father's parents, the woman's parents, and even after the 6 people's money is put together, they have to ask relatives and friends to borrow some points before they can pay the down payment.
Even so, those who buy a house by paying a down payment loan have to repay the loan every month after marriage, and their life pressure is very large.
To have a child and raise a baby, you need your parents to support you
In this case, if you want to have a second child, you have to help your parents. Parents either pay for the little couple to subsidize the living expenses, or they contribute to the city where the children are located and help with the children.
If there is no parental help, giving birth to a baby requires one of the husband and wife to be at home full-time (usually the mother), the husband works alone to support the family, pays off the mortgage with a month's salary, and also takes care of the family's living expenses, as well as the child's food, drink, clothing and education costs.
In this case, who dares to have a second child?
And families with the help of parents, not to mention the second child, the third child can also bite the teeth to give birth to one.
I have a friend, the second child just let go of her second child, at that time I did not even have a daughter, when the third child let go, she gave birth to a third child. Every time friends meet, everyone calls her a "warrior."
But in fact, we know that her courage was given by her parents.
The first and second births of this friend's family were brought by the mother-in-law, and after the birth of the third child, the mother-in-law was not in good health and was older, so the mother-in-law helped to bring it.
Her in-laws have a pension, and when they help them with their babies, they also subsidize it from time to time, buy clothes for the children of the family, buy toys, and the usual living expenses are also paid by the in-laws. As for the in-laws' future pensions, it is enough to use their pension, and the proportion of medical reimbursement is also high, and they have no worries.
And her mother's parents, although only her father is working alone, but her mother is in good health, usually it is difficult to have a cold once a year, and she does not have to worry.
All of this has become the basis for her to have a second or even a third child.
Another of my classmates, after giving birth to their first child, felt breathless. Both her and her husband's parents are farmers, there is no pension, the mother-in-law is not in good health, has high blood pressure and other underlying diseases, and has been to the hospital several times. Every time I talk to me about the pension problem of the four elderly people, I am sad, in this case, if you urge her to have a second child, she designates you to be anxious.
Therefore, if there are old people in the family to help with the baby, be grateful. If the elderly do not help with the baby, but they have a pension and medical insurance, it is actually to reduce the burden on their children, or if they do not have these, but there is no major problem in their good health, they are all grateful.
Where there are good years, just someone is carrying the weight for you. I have to admit that many children nowadays live worry-free, in fact, it is also the parents who have supported a lot of it.
【Do you have an old man's support in your house?】 】
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