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Zhang Ailing once said:
In this life, it is easier to meet people who are good to you, but it is difficult to meet people who are always good to you, the original intention is easy to get, it is always difficult to keep, and good feelings are not to move you to the point of fainting at once, but to spoil you with a long stream of water.
Yes, how many people think that they have met a person who loves themselves very much, but in the end it is just a dream.
How many people, thinking that the person does not love themselves so much, but in the end, two people stumble and accompany each other for a lifetime.
Rolling red dust, vast sea of people, love at first sight is too easy, it is too difficult to stay together for a lifetime, it is easy to have three meals in one room and four seasons, and the person next to him has not changed in his life, it is too difficult.
Therefore, love needs to have a little resolution, but also needs to be a little patience.
Women always hear animals, men a few good words, will feel "fluttering", feel that men have been conquered by themselves, but do not know, "men's mouth, deceptive ghosts", a lot of love words, he is familiar with the heart, "mouth" to catch.
So, sometimes, some people seem to be "straight men", seemingly poisonous tongues, but it is not necessarily that he does not love you, but he really identifies you, he hopes to develop a long-term love with you, and what he wants is to be able to live this life with you.
-02-
Once when a friend and his husband had just fallen in love, she would always complain: this man managed too much, and he had to say two words about everything.
The so-called too much management, probably she and her friends go out to play, he will tell her, do not go home too late, do not go to drink with the "few people", do not get too close to the "person"...
It sounds like you're disciplining your own children. However, to this day, it seems that they have gone around for more than ten years from love to marriage and children, and the days have not been disputed from time to time because of men's "nagging" and "discipline", but they have become better and better, their careers have developed smoothly, their families are also very harmonious and beautiful, and their children are also excellent.
Moreover, everyone is still very envious of his husband's ability to "worry", he has never been a hand-thrower at home, and many things are especially good at ideas.
It can be seen that true love is really not how romantic and "spoiled" when in love, but in the fact that two people can lift each other, remind each other, and care for each other in ordinary days.
Therefore, if a man always loves to "say" you and "manage" you in this way, don't be bothered by him, you know, he will love you so much, and the plan he holds is not to want to live with you for a while, but to live a lifetime, so he will want you to get better and better.
To speak bluntly about "your shortcomings" is to desire that you can plan for a better future
Just as the so-called "spring has a hundred flowers and autumn has a moon, summer has a cool breeze and winter has snow, if there is no idle business to worry about, it is a good season in the world", it can be seen that at every stage of life, there will be some troubles that will hang in the heart, and there will be some imperfections.
And when we live, the biggest problem is that we are not aware of our shortcomings, and even if we find them, we do not want to correct them, but let ourselves develop.
So, at this time, if there is a person who is around you to remind you that you can't do this, he will see through the fragility and sensitivity in your heart, and tell you bluntly that you want to correct, then this person, either he is your mentor and friend, or he is the person who loves you the most.
A good man really does not always hold you, get used to you, spoil you, but find your bad habits, feel your bad character, he will try his best to help you correct.
For example, you like to stay up late and drink, but staying up late will definitely hurt your body, the person who really loves you, he is not staying up with you, drinking together, but constantly supervising you, so that you can get rid of these bad habits;
Another example, what you do, is a half-hanging, three days of fishing, two days of drying nets, a man who is really good to you, he will not take over and say "I help you do", but he will always encourage you and let you develop the ability to complete independently;
For example, if you encounter a little thing, you will collapse, lose your temper, and the man who really loves you will coax you, but he will tell you that you cannot be so fragile, so vulnerable, he will not persuade you to give up, but hope that you will get up and fight again.
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Therefore, the so-called true love has never coaxed you, you are happy. The real "pet" is that he will tell you "where your problem is", he will calm your inner anxiety and anger, so that you have more confidence in the future and more confidence in life.
In life, we often find that some men persuade women to resign as housewives, but women listen to each other's words, return to the family, but finally reach out for a penny, have to look at the face, say more than one word, will be interrupted, so, such a man, in the final analysis, is not that he really wants to raise you, wants to spoil you, but he wants a vassal, wants a person who can make his life comfortable.
Therefore, those men who can "speak directly about your shortcomings", although they will occasionally speak badly and occasionally "poisonous tongues", but he is sincerely planning your future life, and he also sincerely wants to plan your future.
Persuading you to leave the "bad circles" is to hope that you will avoid people who are not worth associating with
When people are young, they are always frivolous.
And this frivolity has a lot to do with the friends you make and the environment you are in. The so-called near Zhu is red, near ink is black, who you are with, it is likely that you will become a person similar to them.
Just like getting together with people who eat, drink and have fun all day, most of them are not too self-motivated; they are mostly addicted to fun when they get together all day with people who like to clubbing and drinking.
So, if there is someone around you who can keep nagging you and not being with those people, he will stare at you all day and tell you what the most important thing you have to do in the moment is to pull you out of your original circle, so much half, you have met a noble person, or you have met someone who really loves you.
You know, some people are not persuaded, you tell him that the person is not worth associating, she will find a bunch of reasons to argue with you, and most people see such a situation, most of them are reminders, talk to her about it, but only this person, he has been warning you, keep paying attention to you, nagging you all the time, don't interact with this kind of person anymore.
Even, he will take you into his circle, let you feel a new atmosphere, let you feel a different life.
Once saw a story, a girl from childhood is a sister-like character, but like to paint, but because the family does not support, friends around her will laugh at her ugly painting on weekdays, and then she met a person, he took her to climb the mountain, led her to do public welfare, usually dragged her to the library, to see the art exhibition,...... Gradually, the little girl became more and more confident in her paintings, more and more thoughtful, and also painted her own piece of the sky.
Life is long, no one, born to know where their future is, most people, will be affected by the people around them "with the flow", and he, but with his "management", his "persuasion", his "say", let you find yourself, but also found love.
Therefore, the "favor" of a man, he is not necessarily how much he listens to you, what you say, he will do, you will be his eternal queen, but he will have his own discernment, he can also lead you, jump out of the circle of the past, out of the hospitality of fate.
What he wants to give you is not short-term love, but long-term mutual love with him, pity each other, he wants to love, not the ignorant you of the moment, but the future can clearly understand your life plan.
Telling you to "distance yourself from the other sex" is the only thing you want you to be
Many girls, when young, will be eager to prove their charm, eager for many men to be able to submit to their pomegranate skirts.
However, if you don't know how to draw a line, you are likely to leave yourself with a "bad" reputation.
Although we live in progress, it is inevitable that we will experience some tongue-in-cheek and let others judge you, so if you meet a person who will always tell you, "Except for me, you are not allowed to get too close to anyone else", then he must love you very much.
You know, life is very realistic.
I still remember that during college, there was a girl in the next department who liked to play with boys, often playing cards together in the boys' dormitory until late at night, but the whole campus was rumored that the girls were "too messy".
Perhaps, the girl is just a free and cheerful personality, but in the end, she can't control the mouths of others, and the words that come out are not good, especially in the campus, and the class teacher also warns her. Later, her boyfriend appeared, the boy is a drama club, often rehearsed at night, so he often took the girl with him, he rehearsed, let her talk to him, he went back to the dormitory to rest, he sent her back to the dormitory.
Slowly, girls no longer live the life they used to have.
Perhaps, in the eyes of some women, "who I make friends with is my freedom", but you must also understand that those men who want you to stay overnight in the middle of the night and accompany them for fun are not necessarily as simple as you think, it seems that the brothers are affectionate, but what is it, and people's hearts are unpredictable after all.
Therefore, if this "poisonous tongue man" around you tells you not to get too close to the other opposite sex, don't be irritable, he really loves you, he will warn you in this way, and he will really put you at ease, so he will nag you again and again.
The so-called spoiling is never laissez-faire, but really standing in your point of view and considering; the so-called spoiling is never "listening to you", but his desire, he must be the only one in your heart.
-03-
Sometimes, the face of life is not so gentle.
Most people, thinking of a man's spoiling, will think: he takes care of himself in life, he will be very clingy, will be very considerate, will help himself with everything.
But forget that when you pass the fresh period of love, all the "sweetness" in your eyes is likely to turn into "bitterness" and "trouble". So, how many emotions, sweet and sweet at first, finally turned into a woman's cry: he has changed.
What changes is not him, what changes is that you adapt to the "coaxing" of the other party and forget the truth of life.
Therefore, if a man, he will be poisonous tongue, bluntly tell you your shortcomings, he will persuade you to stay away from the circle that does not belong to you, he will remind you all the time, let you know life more clearly, recognize yourself, then he must really love you.
This, too, is a man's real "pet" to you. Because, in this world, no one is stupid enough to pay attention to other people's lives, after all, they can't worry about their own affairs.
Finally, may every girl who is confused in love, if you meet this kind of person who makes you suspicious and feel that he always "hits" you with words, you may wish to first think about whether you are in the "game life" at the moment, and then draw conclusions about this person who really loves you.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, the strong affection! Thanks for your attention!